When you feel fear or anger – say to yourself “I want to find better ways of thinking regarding this. I know there is a more beneficial way of looking at this and I welcome a new perspective. I am open and I am willing. I want to allow good feeling thoughts about this to flow through me.”
Just an acknowledgement that you WANT to think about it in a better feeling way turns you ever so slightly in the direction of the solution and the resistance in your thinking will begin to diminish.