When someone annoys you, it’s important to remember that they are likely not intentionally trying to do so. Most people don’t realize when their behaviour is annoying, and it can be difficult for them to recognize this in the moment. Instead of confronting the person or responding with anger or frustration, try calmly addressing your feelings with them. You could say something like “I understand what you’re saying, but I find it a bit irritating.” This will help communicate your discomfort without making them feel attacked or blamed. If necessary, you can also take a break from the conversation and come back when you’re both feeling calmer. Taking a deep breath and counting to 10 can also help diffuse any tension in the situation.
It’s also important to remember that everyone has different communication styles. What might seem annoying to you could be perfectly normal for someone else. If the behaviour continues, it may be worth trying to reach out and understand why the person is acting this way. You don’t have to accept this behaviour—you can still set boundaries and explain how their behaviour affects you—but understanding their motivations can help make it easier to find a resolution.
Finally, try not get too caught up in the situation. Take a step back and focus on your own wellbeing rather than worrying about what the other person is doing or saying. This will help you stay calm and clear-headed so that you can communicate effectively with them if needed.