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From raging insecurities to strong empowerment πŸŒΌ

“(…) Can you hear the whispers all across the room?
You feel her eyes all over you like cheap perfume
You’re beautiful, but misunderstood
So why you tryna be just like the neighborhood?
I can see it, I know what you’re feelin’
So let me tell you ’bout my little secret
I’m a little crazy underneath this
Underneath this
Do you ever feel like a misfit?
Everything inside you is dark and twisted
Oh, but it’s okay to be different
‘Cause baby, so am I (So am I, so am I, so am I)
Do you ever feel like an outcast?
You don’t have to fit into the format
Oh, but it’s okay to be different
‘Cause baby, so am I (So am I, so am I, so am I-I-I-I-I) (…) “

Ava Max,” So am I”

No matter what you look like, what body type you have or what clothes you have – people will look at you and some will judge you. There will always be those who love the way you look and those who completely disapprove of everything that you are. Let them think as they choose to.

The beautiful part about life is when you finally give up trying to please everyone else, when you finally shake loose from caring about their disapproval or approval. There is so much freedom and empowerment to be felt when you start giving yourself the love and approval you previously tried to get from other people and external things.

It is a process. It takes time. I began working on this 12 years ago, when I was 24. I have come such a long way, I went from having no self esteem what so ever, from feeling like a helpless victim and feeling I had to please everyone around me in order to deserve to be liked a little – I went from all that to really liking myself, inside and outside no matter what other people think of me. I began to appreciate life, to appreciate all experiences – especially the bad ones because they helped inspire me to now become stronger.

I would not even be the happy, confident and empowered woman I am today without every single bad thing that ever happened to me. So I am grateful, for all of it. My entire way of viewing life is 100% different from how I viewed life 12 years ago. If I can change all these limiting insecurities, anyone can.

And no, the external things didn’t change before I felt better. I still look exactly the same way as I did before, I have the same job, the same relationship, I have still gone through all those awful things in my life that left me on the brink of despair – and I have since then gone through even more negative experiences in all aspects of my life. And yet here I am, happier and stronger than ever. Loving life, loving my body and feeling appreciation for every step along my way. Feeling appreciation for every rascal that ever hurt me because I am who I am today because of it all. It is an endless journey that I intend to enjoy. πŸ™

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Stress and any other negative emotions are wonderful reminders πŸ™

A gentle reminder for today: go slower and breathe more deeply. Stop a few times every now and then to just close your eyes, put your hand on your chest and feel how strong and peaceful your heart beats.

Relax. Stop making such a big hairy deal out of everything. So, people gossip about you? Let them. So, your body is sick and you feel confined by it? Make peace with it. Make peace with where ever you are, no matter how seemingly “bad” it is. Just make peace with what ever it is you have to deal with, breathe more intentionally and allow yourself to go slower.

Stress and any other negative emotion is a wonderful reminder to you that you have forgotten what truly matters in life. What truly matters is not the money, not your work, not your schedule, not your face, not your body’s, condition… Not any of those things you worry about matter more than how you feel. And how you feel has to be unconditional. You can choose to feel fearful or hopeful relative to the situation you are faced with, and when you choose a more light-hearted hopeful perspective – you have figured out how to let the situation improve.

How to change your self-hating insecurities to self-loving strenght πŸ₯°

How you feel about yourself does not depend on the experiences you have been through, what people say about you, how you look or how your parents treated you. How you feel about yourself depends on one thing only: what YOU think about yourself. And that is something you are 100% in control of.

If you don’t like yourself, you are thinking negative thoughts about yourself every day. Lots of thoughts – thousands. But you can, little by little, begin to change your thoughts. Beliefs are only thoughts you think alot. So even if the foundation of your insecurities and lack of self-esteem was created 50 years ago by the way your parents treated you when you were little, it is always possible to change how you think and therfore how you feel.

Begin today by stop caring what other people think and say about you. This takes time, but you can begin to at least be willing to let that hurtful habit go. Have you ever heard of Lizzie Velasquez? If you haven’t, please listen to this beautiful soul and her journey. https://youtu.be/QzPbY9ufnQY

Also begin to say 3 positive affirmations about yourself daily, write them down, say them to yourself as you look in the mirror and think them several hundreds of times through out your day. If you really want to change old beliefs, repetition is a wonderful tool. πŸ₯° With time you will crowd out the old thoughts and the new thoughts will become what you automatically believe about yourself.

  • What three positive affirmations will you choose to think about yourself today?

You are allowed to shine as bright as you desire to πŸŒŸ

Take your time, allow yourself to blossom into the most beautiful, strong and happy version of yourself. You decide who you want to be. You decide how you want to feel. This is your life, you are allowed to shine as bright as you desire to.

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