How good do you want your life to be?


You are enough ❤

“You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.”

~Maya Angelou

“You have to do this” – no, you don’t. Follow what feels good to you

Never force yourself to do something just because someone else wants you to do it. Always listen to your inner guidance – does it feel good to you to do it? Then do it. If it feels off, no matter how slight, don’t do it. If you really don’t have a choice about it – work on improving how you feel about the action before you do it.

It is never of value to do something you believe is wrong. It is always of value to do what you belive is right.

The rascals are not the ones that bother you ❤

Remind yourself that you are in charge of your life. You are the one who is in charge of your perception of you. Others might not see you through eyes of love at all times, but you can!

When you let the actions and words of another bother you – see it as a gift. A gift that gives you the opportunity to refocus and recreate your emotional balance. See it as an opportunity to strenghten your unconditional, loving perception of you.

Even tragic events, like the deaths of loved ones, are of value ❤

My parents died a long time ago – it feels like it was in another life time – I am now stronger than ever and the most happiest I have ever been in my life. I see their death as something that inspired me to finally find my own balance and stability in life. It totally changed me – and I chose to let it change me for the better, eventually.

Everything happens for a reason, and everything can be of value – everything. It may not seem like it as it happens but if you allow yourself some time to find emotional relief, then you can slowly begin to see that this experience has brought you a gift – a gift that is very valuable. The gift of finding your emotional balance, unconditionally. Of feeling good, unconditionally. Of feeling love, unconditionally.

Even seemingly tragic events are of value and can make you stronger, more joyful, more loving, more empowered and can make you realise what a beautiful gift life.

Make the most of your life, your year, your month, your day, your hour, your moment. Be kinder to yourself and deliberately choose to enjoy life in ways that call you.

To sooth you and strenghten your self-esteem:

Three things that you can do today that will sooth you and strenghten your self-esteem:

  • When ever you pass a mirror, look deep into your eyes and say “I love you, I really love you”. Try to feel the love, but even if you can’t feel it continue to say it each time you pass a mirror and want to feel it.
  • Say to yourself at least once every hour: “I am doing the best I can, I am doing a great job, it is ok.” This is a gentle way to sooth yourself and to make peace with yourself and what is going on around you.
  • Do three things today that you really enjoy doing. Perhaps take a moment to enjoy a warm cup of your favourite tea, or listen to your favourite music or maybe take a warm, soothing bubble bath. Just by deliberately doing things you enjoy you tell yourself that you are valuable and worthy of love and affection.

What makes you feels good?

  • What makes you feel good?
  • What things make you feel relaxed?
  • What things do you enjoy most?
  • What things give you most pleasure?

Ask yourself these types of questions everyday and deliberately choose to do more things that feel good to you, every day.

Even if you have to do something that you don’t want to do today – say no or do it while you withdraw mentally from the chatter around you and find relief in your mind as you do it. And think about all the good feeling things you will choose to do later.

Value yourself. Love yourself. Take care of yourself and choose to honor yourself by listening to what feels good to you and do more of those things.

Follow the crowd and their expectations? No more

You don’t have to follow the crowd. You don’t have to live your life in ways others expect you to. There is not only one right way of doing anything – there are endless right ways and you get to choose what works best for you.

People may expect you to be social, be a mother in a certain way or perhaps they expect you to marry. It doesn’t matter what it is that they or society or the world expects you to do or choose. What do you want? This is your life, and you get to choose how you want to live it.

There is no point in trying to be a people pleaser because when you do something you don’t feel called to doing, just to please someone else, you go against yourself and it is detrimental to your emotional health and even your physical health.

Start valuing yourself by listening to how you feel and choose what feels better to you. Sooth yourself by acknowledging that there truly is no right or wrong way to do anything. You get to choose. As long as you feel good it will be of value to you and everyone else as well. You can harm no one when you are true to who you are by honoring how you feel and following your bliss.

How to be of most value to everyone (yourself included)

Be kind to yourself. Treat yourself like someone you really like. Listen to what calls you and follow the paths that feel good to you.

If you want to be of value to others, you have to take care of yourself first. Love yourself unconditionally and see the magic of that affect EVERYTHING that happens to you and everyone you interact with.

When you really want to feel better – here is a beneficial habit

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