I will hold your hand through the darkness

Come to me, I will hold your hand through the darkness. I know there will be stars to light up your path.

You don’t have to dry your tears or hide your pain. Come as you are, feel as you feel. Even in you weakest of moments your heart and soul radiate love, kindness and an ever increasing strenght. I can see through all the pain, all the hurt and all shattered dreams and what I see is beautiful. 🌹


Who hurt you so immensely that the joy in your eyes vanished and the love in your heart died?

How come when you smile, there is such pain in your eyes? How come your eyes tell another story than your calm voice?

What was it that made your heart so empty, your body so cold and your mind so dark? Who hurt you so immensely that the joy in your eyes vanished and the love in your heart died?

No matter how hopeless and hard it might seem – you can feel better again and you can enjoy all those things your heart, mind and soul secretly desire

Because of your dissatisfaction, your passionate desire for more is so intense

Because of your sadness, your longing for comfort, joy and lust burns brighter

Because of the mistakes, your future shines brighter with all things you desire

No matter what happened, no matter how hopeless and hard it might seem – you can feel better again and you can enjoy all those things your heart, mind and soul secretly desire.

Find humor in the crazy situation and set yourself free

My focus is to forget the pain of life. Forget the pain, mock the pain, reduce it. And laugh.” – Jim Carrey

This is such a wonderful quote because it takes the edge off the pain. Instead of wallowing in your suffering and feeling sorry for yourself, find humor in this crazy situation and allow yourself to relax a little. Yes, you are allowed to smile and laugh, even in the midst of what you would call a painful situation. In fact, this might even be your way out of the pain. 🙏

When things are really bad, the only thing to do is laugh.”

– Jim Carrey

Be your own superhero 🦸‍♀️

You have to take care of yourself. If you feel sad and worried, be the one who comforts you. When someone hurts you, be there for yourself and build up your strenght again.

Don’t wait for someone to save you, be your own superhero and value your safety, security and wellbeing first and foremost. Trust your instincts and follow the path that feels best to you.

When it feels so awful you can hardly breathe and you are boiling with anger, resentment and frustration

When you are in a situation that feels so awful you can hardly breathe and you are boiling with anger, resentment and frustration on the inside – how do you break this negative cycle?

The first step is to make peace with your emotions. Say things like: “This is how I feel, and that is ok. What has happened has happened, I am where I am. If I had known better I would have acted differently, but what happened happened and I choose to make peace with it.”

The second step is to acknowledge that the emotional pain you are feeling is not really about the situation itself but a product of your own thoughts and beliefs about the situation. The great part about this is that you can change your thinking about this situation and therfore you can affect how you feel. You cannot change what happened, you cannot go back in time and act differently – but you can change how you view the situation and that will make all the difference!

When you change how you view it, you will not only change how you feel but you will also prepare yourself mentally for the next time these limiting thoughts come up, so there is a valuable and strengthening bonus in this! Next time you end up in a smilar situation you will act differently because you have changed your thoughts regarding this topic.

Through all the muddy waters, beauty will emerge

All negative experiences, all pain, all mistakes and all shattered dreams can be the perfect, solid, nourishing foundation to grow from.

Strenght is not given, it is built. And you build it one small moment at a time. Be kind to yourself, you are doing so much better than you think. No matter how muddy the water might be, the lotus flower can still emerge beautifully radiant.

I felt like a fragile bunny that the hunter was just about to shoot with his gun

A no is a no. And no, it doesn’t matter that you have an amazing figure. No, it doesn’t matter that your clothes are sexy and tight. No, it doesn’t matter that you know the person. No, it doesn’t matter that no one else saw it or heard it. A no is a fucking no.

You looked at me and I begged you to stop. I felt like a fragile bunny that the hunter was just about to shoot with his gun. My heart was beating so fast and so loud. I tried to get away, I begged you to stop, I said no, I reached for your hands and tried to pull them away from my body… but you grabbed them firmly and as I contined to beg you not to do it, you took your big cold hand and placed it firmly over my mouth… and with the other hand you did exactly what I feared you would do. You were too strong. I had no chance.

You didn’t listen to my no, you didn’t care that my body was scared to death, you didn’t mind hurting me in order to satisfy your burning desire for more.

Why did you ignore me when I begged you not to do it? Why cannot limits be respected? You said; because my body was so irresistable. So curvy, so sexy, so hot that you just had to do it. Is that a valid excuse? Does it make it all ok? No. A no is a fucking no.

But that was then, this is now. I am alive. No one can ever hurt me so much that my love and zest for life goes away. I am stronger. I will never let anyone or anything dim my light. I am not broken – just temporarily off my balance.

Because of this I will shine even brighter one day and feel even more free and empowered. I truly believe that everything that happens to you can be a source of inspiration for you to now become the best, most good-feeling and empowered version of you. Just allow yourself the time you need to heal first. One step at a time.

When it feels like your world is falling apart ❤

Be kinder to yourself, especially when it feels like all hope is lost. When you are feeling your worst – that is when you need to be the kindest to yourself.

Other people might sooth you temporarily, but lasting soothing comes from within, and only you can do that.

Give yourself some credit, you have survived every day of your life so far – even though it has been very hard at times. You are stronger than you think. It is easy to give up, it is easy to feel sad and broken when everything is falling apart – but it doesn’t make things better!

No matter what happened, you have to realize that you are always doing the best you can, given the beliefs, desires and emotional state you are in. So don’t beat up on yourself over what happened – be kinder to yourself! Sooth yourself! Make peace with your past and your present, see each new moment as a fresh new opportunity for you to feel a little better. What things can you do right now that would bring you relief? Do those things! What soothing words would you love to hear? Say those things to yourself!

Don’t wait for circumstances to change in order for you to feel better, don’t wait for someone to come and rescue you – sooth yourself, and begin right here and right now. ❤

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