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The most difficult choice I have ever been faced with – and I have not decided yet 😅

Ok so the contrast is still here and I have a few days left to make up my mind. I know what I want, I know what I don’t want – but, and this is a very big but: my boyfriend wants the exact opposite of what I want. That is where my dilemma is;

Shall I follow my heart and do what I want or shall I respect and honor my boyfriend’s wishes… I really don’t want to do something that goes against everything he wants…. but I really don’t want to go against me either 😂.

I try to see the situation with a little bit of humor. It truly feels like a lose, lose situation although I KNOW there are only choices you line up with or choices you don’t line up with – and if I make one choice the best choice for me, it will be. I know, logically, that it doesn’t matter what I choose because if I focus on soothing myself into relief and eventually into feeling good unconditionally again, it will work out beautifully well for me. I know these things, but I am in an emotional place right now where I don’t quite feel so at ease and balanced about it any more. And that is ok! It truly IS OK to freak out when things don’t go your way. Your negative emotions are not bad or wrong, it is just guidance letting you know you are splitting your energy = you have a desire that you are currently opposing with lackful thoughts. And that is so true because I don’t just focus on me and what I desire, I focus just as much on my boyfriend and what he desires. And since our belief, wishes, desires and emotions regarding this situation are in complete opposition… it is an emotional tug of war.

So no, I have not decided yet. I don’t have to decide today or tomorrow anyway so I will try to relax about it a little. ❤

How to feel good unconditionally, when your world is falling apart ❤

The key is to practice feeling good because you want to feel good, not just respond and react to the situation. To feel good when all things in your life are beautiful, wonderful and going your way requiers just that you look around and react – it is not a sign of inner strenght to just look around and react. That is pretty sloppy creating.

True freedom, empowerment and happiness comes when you pracice feeling good even though there are things in your life that are not as you desire them to be. Perhaps you are sick, your lover left you, you lost your child, you lost your job or something else that you don’t want has happened. To choose to feel better – ANYWAY, without anything changing, THAT IS WERE TRUE FREEDOM AND EMPOWERMENT IS FOUND.

“Is this easy to do?” No. It takes practice. “Shall I begin with the big, life changing events that just brought me to my knees?” No. Begin with smaller, easier things. It is all part of learning to love yourself unconditionally. You can’t go from hating yourself to truly loving yourself completely – just like that. It takes a little time and practice and you begin with easy, gentle baby steps.

The most important part is that you start being kind kind to yourself. Acknowledge that you ARE doing the best you can from where you are emotionally and belief-wise. It is ok. You are where you are and that is alright. See the emotional journey and the action journey as two seperate journeys. You can lose your job and feel hopeless or you can lose your job and feel hopeful. You are still losing your job but how you feel is something you can affect. Start shifting the way you feel about life, your experiences and yourself. Take a more general approach and stop making such big hairy deals about everything. You CAN FEEL GOOD again, no matter what has happened, what you are going through or what will happen. And how you feel is the key to how well things work out for you, and this is all in your hands. Isn’t it exciting, freeing and empowering to know that!? You are not bound by the situation, you are not bound by their actions and you are not stuck. You are always free and in full control because only YOU choose your perspective, and your perspective affects everything. It not only affects how you feel, it also affects what comes next.

This too shall pass, you will feel better again ❤

When contrast is so in your face you just want to run away and hide from the world… remember that you are the most valuable aspect of your life. How you feel is the key to everything – remind yourself to be EXTRA kind and loving to yourself, always. This too shall pass, you will feel better again. ❤

Time for change 💖

You are a beautiful diamond ❤

This too shall pass and you will become stronger, more confident, more loving, more happy and more empowered because of the experience. It is all of value! Everything can benefit you if you choose to let it. ❤

How to move on from these unwanted experiences and feel good again ❤🌱

You feel the way you do because you think the way you do – and you can do something about that!

You are never limited by your past, present or future experiences – the only thing that limits you is your own thinking about your past, present and future experiences – and you can do something about that!

Realise the amazing potential to feel good that you have – right now. No matter what you have been through or what you are going through. You can’t change the past but you can change how you view it, and that will make all the difference.

There is value and benefit with everything that happens – everything can inspire you to focus more clearly on what you now know you desire and prefer as a result of this experience. How do you WANT to FEEL? Who do you WANT to BE? What do you WANT to DO?

The potential for happiness is within you, always. It truly is an inside job. Sure, it is easier to feel good when everything goes your way but there is no skill in just looking around and reaching to what happens! True skill, true freedom and true empowerment is when things are not going the way you want them to and you choose to focus on the value, you choose to be selective in your focus and you choose to let all these unwanted things inspire you to now focus more on what you now know you desire and prefer instead. That takes skill and that is the answer to how you move on and find value in everything.

A break from life ❤

Sometimes all you need is a break from life, a break from all people, a break from all the noice and chatter around you. Find refuge in your mind, in your imagination. Close your eyes, take a deep breath and relax. Continue to focus on your breathing while you imagine pleasurable scenarios that bring you relief.

It is natural and right for you to be selective, to have preferences ❤

You don’t have to love everyone! You don’t have to like everything! It is natural and right for you to be selective, to have preferences!

It is not more virtuous to stick around and force yourself to talk to someone who feels off to you – just because you want to be polite. It is ok for you to go away and find someone else to talk to or something else to do if it makes you uncomfortable to stay with this person.

Trust your instinct. Trust your emotions. It is natural to not jive with everyone!!! We all have different intentions, desires, beliefs and preferences. That is how it is supposed to me. Diversity is the spice of life! With that said you don’t have to pour piri piri into your every meal simply because it is there and others expect you to do as they do. You can choose something else! Same goes for people and experiences.

Honor yourself and honor others by being true to how you feel. Sure it works to fake it until you make it – but you don’t have to. You don’t have to pretend that you like sour milk until you begin to kind of enjoy it – take almond milk instead or something entirely different! 🤣💖

The unwanted experiences are of great value ❤

What if all the bumps on your road where there to redirect you? What if all the things you went through that brought you to your knees actually has the potential of inspiring you to become even more confident, even more joyful, even more loving and even more empowered?

Everything that happens to you is of value – especially the unwanted experiences. When you begin to realize the potential that these gifts actually give you, now you will begin to view everything in life in a different light. 💖

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