When you are drowning in anxiety, when you are slowly suffocated by panic attacks – take a step back from the endless chatter of the world, close your eyes and take a deep breath.
Flashbacks are not real – your breathtakingly sharp worry is just your body trying to keep you safe from potential danger ahead. Potential – but not real. What is real, is this moment right here, right now. Keep breathing and sooth yourself back into the present moment. Show your body, again and again, that it is safe now.
People who hurt others are only acting out their own inner pain, they don’t need more hatred or punishment – they need help. And regardless the circumstances, if it feels even the slightest bit off to you, it is a beautiful sign that it is a good idea for you to say no and set boundaries.
If they freak out when you say no and set boundaries – your boundaries were very much needed! Don’t let them or their actions bring you down – you can grow as a person because of it all, and you help them too by setting your boundaries. It is all of value