When you want to save everyone around you – be a light-house

Just rest in the knowing that all is well. You don’t have to have all the answers. It is enough that you do your best to sooth yourself into relief emotionally.

It is not your job to save everyone else – when you start with yourself and tend to your emotional balance you are of most value to others as well. You never see light-houses running around trying to save lost ships, they just stand strong and shine their light.


The rascals are not the ones that bother you ❤

Remind yourself that you are in charge of your life. You are the one who is in charge of your perception of you. Others might not see you through eyes of love at all times, but you can!

When you let the actions and words of another bother you – see it as a gift. A gift that gives you the opportunity to refocus and recreate your emotional balance. See it as an opportunity to strenghten your unconditional, loving perception of you.


When your heart is full of sadness – how do you find relief?


Some days I do not feel like doing anything other than being alone, in the dark. How do I deal with those days? I sooth myself in many different ways. One of my favorite ways of soothing myself is to eat something delicious. Therefore, I make sure to treat myself to something delicious often throughout my days.

Sometimes it makes me feel better to look at beautiful pictures of nature, rain, the ocean… or listen to my favorite soothing music during the breaks at work. At home I usually don’t have time to relax during the days because my little babies want to play with me all the time, which also makes it easier to distract myself from my own sadness. Seeing their cute, happy faces and hearing their eager voices always makes me smile.

The best time to sooth myself is at night when everyone else is sleeping. Then I just lie in bed, enjoy the stillness around me and let the darkness of the night embrace me and sooth me. I was alone with my emotional pain for so many years as I grew up, that my solitude has become my greatest comforter now. I turn inwards when I need a break.

  • How do you sooth yourself?

I want to stay at home with my babies forever ❤❤

Relaxation, relief and rest. Those words describe my Sunday night. I am so happy I will be home with my babies an entire week now until I have to get back to work again. I wish I could stay home with them forever. ❤❤

  • What was the best part about your weekend?

I will not give up 🌹

Somedays I just want to stay at home, in bed, in the darkness, alone. But, I will not give up. I can do this – I am heading for work anyway. ❤

I wish you a nice day ❤


Practice the pause and find your strenght again 💙

Sometimes all you need is a pause. A short moment when you pause your words and pause your thoughts. A moment to just breathe and relax mentally.

Just a moment of pausing can be enough to stop the negative momentum which will make it easier for you to start a more reliefgiving momentum.

Begin practicing the pause, several times every day. The more you practice the easier it will feel.


What do you say to yourself?

Listen to what you tell yourself. Most people are really cruel to themselves without even thinking about it. However, they would never say such cruel things to someone else they care about!

A good way to start changing this is to find a picture of yourself as a little boy/ little girl. Look into the eyes of this little one – what would you want to tell yourself?

Here is a picture of me as a little girl.

I would like to tell her that she is so loved and so adored. That it doesnt matter what others say to you or what they do – not even what your parents say or do – you are wonderful and loved unconditionally.

I would tell her to follow her bliss, to care about how she feels and seek ways to feel better. You don’t need others approval to feel good about yourself. Never let the disapproval of others bring you down – how they feel about you is all about them and their perspective.

Continue to be the happy, energetic, passionate and unique girl you truly are. You are cute, you are loving, you are caring and you are so valuable.

Life will always continue to get better for you, no matter how it temporarily might look.


When your kids have 100 meltdowns a day – how do you keep your emotional stability?

🤣 This is such a fun topic. Little did I know before I had kids that they would help me find a more stable emotional place so clearly.

As an example. Today I went to the grocery store with my two babies, aged 3 and 2. From the moment we left our house until we came back I think they had 20-30 complete meltdowns, each. 🤣 I don’t know why they do that some days, other days they can be as cool as a cucumber the entire time we are out shopping.

I was pretty stable emotionally when we took off but I really had to pause a few times in the grocery store to find some emotional relief. Two kids laying down on the floor in the store, lots of people stopping and staring while my two little angels scream and cry… How do you survive that? 🤣 Well. It is ok to have emotions and some people (not just kids) might be a bit more intense than others and some days might be a little bit worse than other days.

Am I a bad mom? Sure feels that way from time to time during my days – it is not easy sometimes. But I do my very best. On days like these I do my very best to sooth myself in my mind, remain calm and stable as I speak to my kids. Does it work? Sometimes. After 10 minutes they were pretty ok. They were happy and pleased until the next tantrum happened and so on.

I see my kids as a blessing. I love them with all my heart and I know they are the best teachers in my life when it comes to teaching unconditional love, unconditional happiness and unconditional relief. Now that is an excellent gift!

Of course today was a “worst case scenario” some would say but you could also see it as an incredibly important learning experience for both them and me. They learned that no matter how much they act out, I will remain stable and confident in my intention – ‘we are going to go grocery shopping and you are going to help me’. And they did. They had one cart each and helped me look for the products we were going to buy. We had a lot of fun, they smiled and laughed a lot.

I gave them a lot of positive feedback on what they did really well and at the end of the trip we talk about how fun it had been and how well they had helped me out. 💖 It is all one step at a time. Not only one day at a time or an hour at a time, sometimes a moment at a time.


To sooth you and strenghten your self-esteem:

Three things that you can do today that will sooth you and strenghten your self-esteem:

  • When ever you pass a mirror, look deep into your eyes and say “I love you, I really love you”. Try to feel the love, but even if you can’t feel it continue to say it each time you pass a mirror and want to feel it.
  • Say to yourself at least once every hour: “I am doing the best I can, I am doing a great job, it is ok.” This is a gentle way to sooth yourself and to make peace with yourself and what is going on around you.
  • Do three things today that you really enjoy doing. Perhaps take a moment to enjoy a warm cup of your favourite tea, or listen to your favourite music or maybe take a warm, soothing bubble bath. Just by deliberately doing things you enjoy you tell yourself that you are valuable and worthy of love and affection.

Mistakes that bring you to your knees

When you have made the same mistakes a thousand times and you feel like you just want to give up; sooth yourself into remembering that it is ok! You are doing the best you can with the knowledge and awareness you have at the time.

Don’t beat up on yourself for the mistakes you have made, no matter how many times you have made them or how seemingly wrong they are. Punishing yourself by feeling guilt or blame will only make things worse. Love yourself unconditionally and give yourself the opportunity to start again, right now – fresh and new.

Keep focusing on how you want to behave, how you want to feel and the desired outcome. See yourself succeeding with what you desire, see yourself being the person you want to be. Embrace yourself and believe in yourself. You can change, you can choose differently and you can succeed.


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