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It is ok to break down, it is ok to fall apart and it is ok to be an angry old toad sometimes πŸ™πŸ˜‚

Better to light a candle than to curse the darkness.”
– Chinese Proverb

Yes, it feels really hard sometimes. There are times when everything feels wrong and everyone annoys you. But, it is not of any value to complain, point out flaws or feel sorry for yourself. Be the one who chooses to light a candle instead of cursing the darkness. At least stop voicing your complaints and start thinking about how you would like to feel next time you are in a similar situation. To prepave the situation with a better-feeling emotional response will make it more likely that you can handle the situation better next time.

But be kind to yourself. πŸ™ It is ok to break down, it is ok to fall apart and it is ok to be an angry old toad sometimes. πŸ˜‚ Allow yourself to laugh at yourself, to find humor in your negativity and let it pass through your body and mind as easily as the wind blows through the leaves. πŸ™

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Will your heart need a life time to heal? Then so be it πŸ™

Let it take the time it needs. Some hearts heal quickly, others need a life time to heal. Be kind to yourself every step of the way.

Don’t listen to the crowd, listen to your heart. How do you feel? Honor your feelings by acknowledging them, approving of them and allowing them.

There is no shame, no guilt and no blame. Just acceptance, kindness and love. πŸ™ Be your own best friend and support yourself no matter what happens.

A reliefgiving rainy Thursday πŸ™

It has been a wonderful day. I feel so relaxed and at peace. We have spent the entire day inside since it is very cold and rainy outside – my favourite weather. πŸŒ§οΈπŸ™ I always feel so much better when it is raining.

We decided to have a barbeque, because I was craving hamburgers like crazy πŸ™ƒπŸ˜‚πŸ₯°. They were so delicious, I actually ate three πŸ”πŸ”πŸ”.

Right now I am lying in bed, relaxing with my babies. It has been such a soothing, relaxing day. But the best part is that we will stay at home tomorrow too. πŸ™πŸŒΉπŸŒΉπŸŒΉ

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Be who you want to be, those who matter won’t mind πŸ₯°

Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”

– Bernard M. Baruch

Isn’t that a wonderful way to look at it? It can be so reliefgiving to realize that you don’t have to change who you are in order to be loved – you are already loved as you are.

If you feel you have to change your ways in order for them to like you – they are not your friends. A friend loves you as you are, where you are and how ever you feel. No changes are needed if it is true friendship.

A moment alone – it feels like I am breathing life back into my body πŸ™

At night when I have put my babies to bed, darkness has fallen outside and I am lying in bed – that is the most soothing and reliefgiving moment to me.

I always feel my energy strenghten every moment when I am alone. I value my moments of alone time so much – it feels like I am breathing life back into my body.

As I lay in bed I like to think about all the things I appreciate with my life and with this moment. Tonight I feel so much appreciation for my two little babies, I love them so much. I feel appreciation for my supportive co-worker who truly cares about me, and for my boss who is such a kind and thoughtful woman. I also feel deep appreciation for my boyfriend who has been by my side for 12 years now. No one in my life has cared as much about me and my wellbeing as he has. πŸ™

These are only a few things I feel appreciation for right now. What things are you feeling appreciation for right now?

When you feel awful and lost in despair

On days when you feel awful, when you see nothing but darkness and gloom no matter where you look – don’t look in the mirror so much. Just give yourself a break, give your mind a rest for a day, a week or as long as you need. Focus on other things that are easier to appreciate. Distract yourself as best you can and keep telling yourself that these awful feelings are temporary, you will feel better again. There is nothing you have to do – don’t try to change your negative thinking, just relax, distract and make peace with how you feel.

You are always beautiful, life is always wonderful but sometimes your own insecurity and lackful thinking will cloud your vision. What you see in yourself, in others and in everything that happens is always an accurate reflection of the thoughts you think. Relax, you will feel better again. Let yourself feel awful for a while, it is no big deal.

Give yourself time to listen to the soothing stillness within

On the days when you feel exhausted, give yourself a lot of time to rest mentally. Perhaps you have a lot to do and it is not possible for you to lay down and rest at all during your day, but you can always give yourself a moment here and there where you rest mentally. That is just as beneficial.

Take a moment to close your eyes, take a few deep breaths and listen to the soothing stillness within. Stay in this comforting place of ease for a minute or two and allow your body to relax. Then, gently open your eyes, smile and thank your body for this relaxing moment.

As you move on with your day do so with the intention of being extra kind, loving and gentle with yourself.

When it feels like your world is falling apart β€

Be kinder to yourself, especially when it feels like all hope is lost. When you are feeling your worst – that is when you need to be the kindest to yourself.

Other people might sooth you temporarily, but lasting soothing comes from within, and only you can do that.

Give yourself some credit, you have survived every day of your life so far – even though it has been very hard at times. You are stronger than you think. It is easy to give up, it is easy to feel sad and broken when everything is falling apart – but it doesn’t make things better!

No matter what happened, you have to realize that you are always doing the best you can, given the beliefs, desires and emotional state you are in. So don’t beat up on yourself over what happened – be kinder to yourself! Sooth yourself! Make peace with your past and your present, see each new moment as a fresh new opportunity for you to feel a little better. What things can you do right now that would bring you relief? Do those things! What soothing words would you love to hear? Say those things to yourself!

Don’t wait for circumstances to change in order for you to feel better, don’t wait for someone to come and rescue you – sooth yourself, and begin right here and right now. ❀

Use your imagination, live out your fantasy and feel better

Take a few moments every day to imagine. Visualize beautiful, relaxing scenarios where you can rest mentally and emotionally. Give yourself the gift of pleasurefilled scenarios that make you feel better.

A few minutes of day dreaming will be a reliefgiving break that can improve not only how you feel but your entire day as well. Try this every day for a week, especially if you are having a hard time right now. Give yourself time to relax, time to enjoy your fantasy. Nothing will improve your life more than caring about how you feel and deliberarely doing something to feel better.

You can do this, you are stronger than you think

Just keep breathing. One step at a time. Some days you just have to sooth yourself into feeling relief. It is ok. You are doing the best you can. Close your eyes and take a deep breath. Stay in that quiet place for a moment and keep breathing deeply.

Don’t give up, there is always a way for life to work out even better than you can imagine. You don’t have to see it right now and you don’t have to understand how – just keep breathing. You are doing better than you think, give yourself a break. You have come this far, and you are still breathing. You can do this.

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