Let the fear, pain and powerlessness you felt, teach you to forgive others unconditionally. 🌹 🙏
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Tag: sexual abuse
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Your fear, pain and powerlessness can teach you something very valuable 🌹🙏
Posted at 7:13 pm , on October 21, 2019
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What if the worst thing that ever happened to you, could be the best thing that ever happened to you as well? 🙏
Posted at 2:56 pm , on October 20, 2019
What if the very thing that shattered you into a million pieces and left you broken and lost – could also be the very thing you use as your inspiration to grow and blossom into everything you desire to be?
Let your pain be your solid foundation on which you rebuild your inner strength. All the fear you felt can inspire you to trust life more. All those painful actions he put you through can inspire you to forgive others unconditionally. All the powerlessness you felt and all the tears you have cried can inspire you to fill your heart with kindness and love.
It may be quite hard to see your unwanted experiences as something that can be of value to you, when you are still hurting from it. But give yourself time. A lot of time. Yes, it was awful. Yes, it was painful. Yes, you felt powerless and completely ripped of all your security. Nothing can change what he did to you and nothing can change the pain you felt. But, he is not hurting you NOW, he is not doing it to you NOW – so why would you continue to torment yourself, when you can choose to change your perspective of what happened and actually find strength in it?
Give yourself time. 🙏🌹 ❤️
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What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger – bullshit?
Posted at 6:09 am , on October 18, 2019
They say that what doesn’t kill you, can make you stronger. I think that is bullshit, unless, you choose to work on your perspective of what happened, and of yourself. Then it can make you stronger. But it doesn’t happen automatically, you have to do the work.
So yes, it can make you stronger but you have to do the work. Not everyone has an optimistic view of life or of themselves before they go through a trauma, then it can be extra hard to feel better after a trauma. Even if you are a very optimistic person before the trauma occurred, it can still be extremely difficult to feel better again afterwards. Difficult, but possible. 100% possible. If you change your perspective. No matter how badly he hurt you, no matter how fearful the situation and no matter how powerless you felt – you can feel better again.
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It is in these weak moments that you rebuild your inner strength most powerfully ❤️
Posted at 6:13 am , on October 16, 2019
If you feel like you have lost yourself, that you have lost your happiness, lost your zest for life and even lost faith in humanity – please don’t give up, just keep breathing.
I know it is breathtakingly hard at times. I know you just want to break down and cry. But keep breathing, especially when it feels tough. It is in these weak moments that you rebuild your inner strength most powerfully. Yes, it hurts. Yes, you are angry. Yes, you are tired. That is exactly how it is supposed to be, you are right on track. Keep breathing, get back up and don’t give up.
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The world can wait 🙏❤️
Posted at 9:18 am , on October 14, 2019
It is ok if you want to hide away from the world for a while. Go where you feel warm, safe and secure and allow yourself the time you need to find your balance again. The world can wait. 🙏 ❤️
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A vital part of the healing journey 🌱 ❤️
Posted at 6:55 am , on October 12, 2019
Don’t compare your experience to that of another – how you react in a situation might be very different from how another person would react in the same situation. We are all unique and therefor our reactions are unique as well.
Allow them to feel as they feel, their emotional reactions are valid and true for them – you don’t have to understand. Do the same for yourself as well, allow yourself to feel as you feel, because your emotional reactions are valid and true for you. The more you allow yourself to feel as you feel, without judgement, the easier those emotions will pass. It is a vital part of the healing journey.
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He forced himself over your most sacred boundary and shattered your sense of security into a million pieces – but not all men are like that
Posted at 9:28 am , on October 11, 2019
I know you are tired. I know you just want to hide away from the world forever and rest in some warm, safe and comfortable place until you feel better.
I know how shattered you feel, how crowded your mind is with these haunting, never ending flashbacks.
I know it takes a lot of strength and energy to smile and interact with others when all you really want to do is scream as loud as you can possibly scream and kick and hit until your body breaks down.
You are on your healing journey and how you feel is alright. What you are feeling is a part of the healing journey and it will feel better with time. Your fear turned into sadness. Your sadness comes and goes like waves on the ocean and your frustration and anger are magnificent indicatiors of the progress you are making. Anger is so much more reliefgiving than sadness, embrace it and find strength in it.
Rest in knowing that you did the very best you could. You tried with all your power to stop him. You begged him to stop. But he didn´t even hesitate, and he was too strong. You felt powerless, compeletely broken and shattered as he forced himself over your most sacred boundary and shattered your sense of security into a million pieces.
This experience will always be with you. There is nothing you can do to change what he did to you. You have to accept what happened, accept your powerlessness and know that not every man in the world is like that. Most people are kind, most people care about other people, and most people respect other people. Only a few people in the world would ever hurt someone like that. The odds for something like that happening again are very low, try to find comfort in that.
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If you don’t feel good – DO something about it ❤️
Posted at 4:57 am , on October 9, 2019
It is so true that what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger. Those are not just optimistic words that are true for everyone at all times, automatically – you have to DO something if you want to feel better. It is hard. It takes a lot of effort, time, patience and most of all kindness. YOU have to CHANGE the way you look at the situation, YOU have to look at it from another perspective. Otherwise you will just keep being stuck in your own sadness.
Do you want to feel better, DO something about it! Ask for help, seek support from those who work with people who have been through difficult traumas. Don’t give up, you CAN change your perspective of the event, you CAN change your perspective of yourself, and when you do, you WILL feel better.
You can feel better again, no matter what happened to you in your past, no matter what happens to you right now and no matter what happens to you in your future.
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Flip your fears into something beautiful ❤️
Posted at 6:26 am , on October 6, 2019
When you have been through something very painful, such as the death of your parents or something else that brought you to your knees – it is easy to wallow in your sadness for quite some time, and that is a part of the healing process. However, after a while it is very beneficial to change your perspective of the event. You can flip this devastating event into an experience that brought you value. If those you love died, maybe that experience can be a valuable reminder to enjoy life more in each moment and make the best of your now? To live your life to the fullest and allow yourself to enjoy more, love more and have more fun – now?
Everything that happens to you can be of value. Everything that happens to you can make you stronger, happier, more confident and more in love with life. 🙏 🌹 It is only a matter of perspective.
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The trauma shattered you into a million pieces – but it is time to make peace with it ❤️
Posted at 4:20 am , on September 29, 2019
When all your zest for life is gone and you feel shattered into a million pieces, you will not feel better by complaining about it or pointing out how bad you feel. It will only enhance your negative focus and make you feel worse. Instead, what actually works is to make peace with what ever happened to you – no matter how awful it was and how long you have been in pain because of it. Just make peace with it.
Make peace – mentally – with the person who hurt you. No matter how badly he hurt you. It doesn’t matter. You can’t change what he did, and you can’t make him apologize either. That doesn’t matter. Just make peace with him in your mind.
Make peace with how you feel – make peace with feeling fear, insecurity, worry, anxiety, sadness, anger, rage, frustration and any other unwanted emotions you might be feeling. Don’t cover them up with positivity or hide them under a blanket of denial – just make peace with feeling like crap. You can’t feel any other way than you do right now, so you might as well make peace with it.
When you have made peace with all of that, make peace with what ever happens next. Maybe this person will try to hurt you again next year or 10 years from now or maybe he won’t. You don’t know, and it doesn’t matter. Worrying about what might happen later only ruins your now. It is not fucking worth it anymore. Give up your worry. There is no possible way to know for sure what he will or will not do so just give it up. Focus on doing what ever you can to feel safe and secure right now, and make peace with your fearful thoughts.
Making peace with it all, is the very first step on your healing journey but the most important one. Rest in this step until you begin to feel relief on a regular basis. Practice making peace with it every day. The more you do it, the more natural and reliefgiving it will feel. 🙏
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