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30 years of hating myself ❤

A friend triggered me into thinking a little this morning. I realized that after having spent around 30 years absolutely hating myself and hating my entire body and face – hating everything about me – I still have a long way to go. 🌟

But I will not give up, I am still on my journey, it is a never ending journey. Some days I feel better about myself and some days I don’t. I am making slow and steady progress. It is all in my head, all about my thoughts, and I have already come such a long way! 10 years ago I was a completely different person (even though I looked exactly the same ). These things cannot be seen, it is an insecurity within.

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I got an exciting assignment at work 😊

Today I went back to work again, and one of my bosses asked me to do something really exciting: She wanted me to talk to all her teachers at a meeting next week. She wanted me to tell them my story, what I have been through and how I managed to turn my entire life around. How cool!

I really look forward to this! I feel so blessed to have such caring bosses that really value me and my talents. I feel so appreciated. 💖

🌹 Embrace your unique figure and allow yourself to blossom 🌹

You are beautiful just the way you are. Don’t spend any more time comparing yourself to anyone else. You are as unique and beautiful as a rare flower. Let your unique colors shine bright. ❤ A rose doesn’t try to become a lily – a rose embraces being a rose and blooms beautifully in all its splendor. The lily embraces being a lily and shines bright in its beauty. There is no need to try to dim your light or try to be more like othersembrace your unique figure and allow yourself to blossom.

You don’t need likes, views or shares to know what is beautiful, right and good! ❤

Listen to that inner voice of excitement, joy, passion and love! That is what following your bliss means. Follow what calls you.

Don’t let doubt block you from living the life of your dreams! Stop listening to the peanut gallery! Stop looking for likes, views and others opinions for approval and validation.

If you think it looks beautiful, it does. If you think it looks like fun, it is. If you think it is a good idea, it is. Trust your own opinions and begin to value how you feel and what you feel drawn to. You have an inner guidance for a reason. ❤

The one thing that hurt me the most and ripped me apart ❤

It was not the sexual abuse, it was not the physical abuse, it was not the mental abuse, it was not the eating disorders, it was not the bullying, it was not the loneliness, it was not my alcoholic parents, it was not the deaths of my parents… or any of the other things that happened to me.

I was the one who let the opinions of others affect my opinion of me, which ripped me apart.

And I was the one who decided to start liking myself again.

No matter what – YOU – have all the power you will ever need within. ❤

Love your figure – but your figure is not the reason for your love! ❤

Whatever your body shape, size and weight might be – practice loving yourself unconditionally. You are more than your body – you are endless and eternal.

The body you have been given this lifetime is your treasure. It is the body that has been your home since you were born and will be until you die – treat it with loving care. ❤

I celebrate my body. I celebrate my curves and edges. I have learned to love myself, my body and my personality, unconditionally. Was it easy? No! Has the love you feel or not feel for yourself to do with your body shape, size and weight? No! I hated myself the first 24 years of my life. I absolutely loathed myself – all aspects of myself. I had the same body shape, size and weight then as I do now.

It is not my body that makes me feel this way or that way – it is the thoughts and the perspectives I choose to view life from.

YOU are so beautiful 💖

You are beautiful, sweet and lovely. There is no need for any comparison because you are unique so there is nothing to compare with.

Allow yourself to blossom in your beauty, to thrive in your joy and to shine in your love. You are beautiful, right here, right now. 💖

What do you say to yourself?

Listen to what you tell yourself. Most people are really cruel to themselves without even thinking about it. However, they would never say such cruel things to someone else they care about!

A good way to start changing this is to find a picture of yourself as a little boy/ little girl. Look into the eyes of this little one – what would you want to tell yourself?

Here is a picture of me as a little girl.

I would like to tell her that she is so loved and so adored. That it doesnt matter what others say to you or what they do – not even what your parents say or do – you are wonderful and loved unconditionally.

I would tell her to follow her bliss, to care about how she feels and seek ways to feel better. You don’t need others approval to feel good about yourself. Never let the disapproval of others bring you down – how they feel about you is all about them and their perspective.

Continue to be the happy, energetic, passionate and unique girl you truly are. You are cute, you are loving, you are caring and you are so valuable.

Life will always continue to get better for you, no matter how it temporarily might look.

To sooth you and strenghten your self-esteem:

Three things that you can do today that will sooth you and strenghten your self-esteem:

  • When ever you pass a mirror, look deep into your eyes and say “I love you, I really love you”. Try to feel the love, but even if you can’t feel it continue to say it each time you pass a mirror and want to feel it.
  • Say to yourself at least once every hour: “I am doing the best I can, I am doing a great job, it is ok.” This is a gentle way to sooth yourself and to make peace with yourself and what is going on around you.
  • Do three things today that you really enjoy doing. Perhaps take a moment to enjoy a warm cup of your favourite tea, or listen to your favourite music or maybe take a warm, soothing bubble bath. Just by deliberately doing things you enjoy you tell yourself that you are valuable and worthy of love and affection.

When no one likes your picture

Your worth, beauty, sexiness and confidence is not dependant on how many likes you get on a picture you post on social media!!!!

There are people who gets millions of likes on their pictures and there are people who rarely get even one like. The amount of likes has nothing to do with the level of beauty or sexiness. You are as beautiful as you make up your mind to be. It is not what others think that matters – it is 100% what you think that matters. Their disliking of you cannot harm you or lower your confidence unless you make their opinion if you, your opinion. And why would you do that?! It is really silly! It is so easy to get hooked into participating in social media and get lost in the approval-hunt. But it is shallow and untrue. Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.

You could get to a point where you don’t care whether anyone ever sees the pictures you post! You don’t care whether they like it or not. You don’t care that they say you sould be more this way or that way and that you are too much this and too much that! It is not a game of fitting in to their standars of beauty and sexiness. It is about you. Your opinion of you is what matters most. If you think you look pretty, then you are pretty! No one else needs to agree with you in order for you to like yourself.

Stop looking for approval and love in all the wrong shallow places and start feeling love and approval from the only place that matters, from within.

Ask yourself why you post pictures. Is it because you desire the approval from others or is it because you love the beauty you see shining through from within? It is perfectly fine to post pictures, but let the reason behind your picture posting be empowering for you, not disempowering.

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