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The one thing that hurt me the most and ripped me apart ❤

It was not the sexual abuse, it was not the physical abuse, it was not the mental abuse, it was not the eating disorders, it was not the bullying, it was not the loneliness, it was not my alcoholic parents, it was not the deaths of my parents… or any of the other things that happened to me.

I was the one who let the opinions of others affect my opinion of me, which ripped me apart.

And I was the one who decided to start liking myself again.

No matter what – YOU – have all the power you will ever need within. ❤

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Love your figure – but your figure is not the reason for your love! ❤

Whatever your body shape, size and weight might be – practice loving yourself unconditionally. You are more than your body – you are endless and eternal.

The body you have been given this lifetime is your treasure. It is the body that has been your home since you were born and will be until you die – treat it with loving care. ❤

I celebrate my body. I celebrate my curves and edges. I have learned to love myself, my body and my personality, unconditionally. Was it easy? No! Has the love you feel or not feel for yourself to do with your body shape, size and weight? No! I hated myself the first 24 years of my life. I absolutely loathed myself – all aspects of myself. I had the same body shape, size and weight then as I do now.

It is not my body that makes me feel this way or that way – it is the thoughts and the perspectives I choose to view life from.

YOU are so beautiful 💖

You are beautiful, sweet and lovely. There is no need for any comparison because you are unique so there is nothing to compare with.

Allow yourself to blossom in your beauty, to thrive in your joy and to shine in your love. You are beautiful, right here, right now. 💖

What do you say to yourself?

Listen to what you tell yourself. Most people are really cruel to themselves without even thinking about it. However, they would never say such cruel things to someone else they care about!

A good way to start changing this is to find a picture of yourself as a little boy/ little girl. Look into the eyes of this little one – what would you want to tell yourself?

Here is a picture of me as a little girl.

I would like to tell her that she is so loved and so adored. That it doesnt matter what others say to you or what they do – not even what your parents say or do – you are wonderful and loved unconditionally.

I would tell her to follow her bliss, to care about how she feels and seek ways to feel better. You don’t need others approval to feel good about yourself. Never let the disapproval of others bring you down – how they feel about you is all about them and their perspective.

Continue to be the happy, energetic, passionate and unique girl you truly are. You are cute, you are loving, you are caring and you are so valuable.

Life will always continue to get better for you, no matter how it temporarily might look.

To sooth you and strenghten your self-esteem:

Three things that you can do today that will sooth you and strenghten your self-esteem:

  • When ever you pass a mirror, look deep into your eyes and say “I love you, I really love you”. Try to feel the love, but even if you can’t feel it continue to say it each time you pass a mirror and want to feel it.
  • Say to yourself at least once every hour: “I am doing the best I can, I am doing a great job, it is ok.” This is a gentle way to sooth yourself and to make peace with yourself and what is going on around you.
  • Do three things today that you really enjoy doing. Perhaps take a moment to enjoy a warm cup of your favourite tea, or listen to your favourite music or maybe take a warm, soothing bubble bath. Just by deliberately doing things you enjoy you tell yourself that you are valuable and worthy of love and affection.

When no one likes your picture

Your worth, beauty, sexiness and confidence is not dependant on how many likes you get on a picture you post on social media!!!!

There are people who gets millions of likes on their pictures and there are people who rarely get even one like. The amount of likes has nothing to do with the level of beauty or sexiness. You are as beautiful as you make up your mind to be. It is not what others think that matters – it is 100% what you think that matters. Their disliking of you cannot harm you or lower your confidence unless you make their opinion if you, your opinion. And why would you do that?! It is really silly! It is so easy to get hooked into participating in social media and get lost in the approval-hunt. But it is shallow and untrue. Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.

You could get to a point where you don’t care whether anyone ever sees the pictures you post! You don’t care whether they like it or not. You don’t care that they say you sould be more this way or that way and that you are too much this and too much that! It is not a game of fitting in to their standars of beauty and sexiness. It is about you. Your opinion of you is what matters most. If you think you look pretty, then you are pretty! No one else needs to agree with you in order for you to like yourself.

Stop looking for approval and love in all the wrong shallow places and start feeling love and approval from the only place that matters, from within.

Ask yourself why you post pictures. Is it because you desire the approval from others or is it because you love the beauty you see shining through from within? It is perfectly fine to post pictures, but let the reason behind your picture posting be empowering for you, not disempowering.

You are unique and beautiful! Let yourself blossom into your full potential

You are not supposed to be just like someone else so don’t compare yourself to the beauty, skill or confidence of another!

You are your own kind of beautiful so focus all your energy on learning to love yourself unconditionally – that is the key to letting yourself blossom into your full potential.

Let go of all comparison, let go of all sadness and jealousy. YOU were created as YOU. There is no one else on the planet that is you, only you. So celebrate who you are, embrace everything you are and stop trying to fit in to a world when you (all of us) where born to be unique. 

Stop looking outside yourself for your value ❤

Cellulite, acne, financial problems and a cheating partner – how can I turn my life around then!?

How can I love myself when my legs are riddled with deep cellulite and my entire face is covered with acne?

Well, if you only love yourself when you look as you desire to look and feel sad and angry about the way you look when you have problems – then that is not love you feel anyway!

Love – true love – means to love without conditions, unconditional love. So the simple fact that you are having cellulite, acne, financial trouble, a cheating partner or what ever it is you are living that makes you dislike yourself and your life right now… it can be a blessing! This is YOUR opportunity to work on how YOU feel about yourself. And yes, how you feel about yourself does not have to be affected by how you look or what happens to you. But it takes a little time and practice to reorient your thinking.

We have become so adept at judging ourselves and comparing ourselves to others that that often becomes our most practiced way of thinking. But it is nothing but thoughts that we have continued to thinkwhen you start to deliberately choose more general and reliefgiving thoughts about yourself and life, you will soon begin to feel the elation with that way of thinking and that will inspire you to keep choosing improved thoughts.

Do you want to feel good? Do you want to enjoy life? Do you want to have fun? Then you have got to start liking yourself, as you are. When you start liking yourself you will not only feel better, you will not only like yourself but everything about you and your life will begin to improve as well. 

Celebrate being who you are, curves and all ❤

I love the female body – everything about it is beautiful, sensual and magical. I choose to celebrate me, for being who I choose to be. I love my curves and I choose to feel love for everything that I am.

Please stop beating up on yourself and start liking yourself, as you are! I spent over 20 years hating myself and hating my body – it was not until I was 24 years old that I BEGAN improving how I felt about myself. But I succeeded in improving the way I viewed myself. 

Here I am today, 10 years later, and I feel more at peace with myself and more confident than I have ever felt before. I learned to let go of guilt, blame and criticism and learned to find love for myself. True love, unconditional love. That is where I found unconditional happiness, empowerment and freedom as well. 

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