Your job is not your job 

Your life and how you feel – THAT is your job. How you choose to view every topic, how you see yourself and others, how you feel about what you do…your attitude, your beliefs and your thoughtsyour job is so valuable because YOU are in CHARGE of YOUR LIFE and how YOU FEEL. If you are sad and unsatisfied with your life, it is up you YOU to DO something about it.

Start with the easiest things such as the little daily things you do. Be more deliberate with your choices and choose to make the best of what ever it is you have to do. Be easier on yourself, be kinder and more pampering to yourself. Begin treating yourself like someone you really like and stop listening to the uncomfortable things other people say – this is YOUR LIFE, how you feel is YOUR JOB and YOU CAN DO SOMETHING ABOUT THAT!


A letter to myself as a little girl ❤

“I want you to know that you are so loved! I love you more and more each second and I love you for being exactly as you are! You don’t have to change yourself in order to please your parents or anyone else! Just continue to enjoy the things you love and keep being imaginative, energetic and confident. 

The hurtful words from your parents, your teachers and your classmates are more about the pain THEY are feeling than about you. Brush it all off and continue to find new ways of caring about yourself.

All those scary things that you have seen and been through will only make you stronger and more confident – you can be as successful as you desire to no matter what those around you say.

Please don’t give up on yourself, eventhough it might feel difficult right now – know that I love you unconditionally and eternaly. I am proud of everything that you are. I love everything about you. You are kind, you are loving, you are cute, you are clever and you have within you all the answers to all the questions you might ever encounter.

Keep smiling, keep your heart light and happy. Follow your bliss and know that your life will always get better and better no matter how it might temporarily look.”

Lots of love from myself, Ann-Christin Svärd, many years later.

Your jealousy and insecurity is a message from within ♡

How you feel about yourself is always affecting how you feel about others. You might think the other person is the reason why you suddenly feel insecure and jealous – but you are the one who is causing you to feel that awful pain within, not them. 

When you love yourself unconditionally, you love the beauty you see in others and you enjoy their confidence. 

It is ok, see your insecurity as a message from with – it is time for you to work on how you feel about yourself. You can change your thoughts and beliefs about yourself, and you do it with gentle, loving and caring baby steps. 

Dont beat up on yourself for losing your emotional balance, just gently step away from the situation and acknowledge to yourself that you listen to your inner guidance and that you will start improving how you think and feel about yourself.

What society thinks of you

Set yourself free! Stop caring about what they think! What they think has nothing to do with you anyway, it is simply just a reflection of their own inner resisting or allowing.

What you think about yourself, what you think about them – what YOU think – is what is relevant! When you think thoughts that are filled with love, appreciation and joy, then you are allowing yourself to be who you truly are. 

When you appreciate them – even if they are disapproving of you – now you have set yourself free! It never was about their perspective – it was about your perspective. When you truly love yourself, you see the best not only in yourself but in everyone else as well. 

Just a little shift in your focus will improve your entire life!

When you shift your focus even a little bit in the direction of what feels better to you, you have improved your future experiences. Your future is not predetermined or all set in stone – your future will become a match to how you predominantly feel.

So, if you work on improving how you feel by gently reaching for relief, being kind to yourself and trying to lean more positive regarding all topics, you will automatically improve your life in all aspects imaginable! 

All it takes is a decision that you want to feel better emotionally and that you gently try to shift your focus in a more positive way. No big changes, only small gentle shifts that you can begin doing right now. A little shift goes a long way! 

Their beauty does not make you feel insecure!

Don’t be discouraged when you see the beauty of another person! It is not their beauty that makes you uncomfortable, it is your own lackful thinking about yourself that makes you feel this way. Their beauty just high lightened your own insecurity, and that is a good thing! 

When you deal with your own insecurity by finding your way back into security and empowerment, other people’s beauty will feel as good to you as watching a beautiful flower or a beautiful sunset does. Their beauty doesn’t affect how you feel about yourself – how you feel about yourself affects how you feel about their beauty!

Can chocolate, video games and sex improve your life?

Anything that you choose to do that you allow yourself to ENJOY fully has the potential of strenghtening how you feel about yourself and how you view your life.
It doesn’t matter what things that call you, the only thing that matters is how these things feel to you. If these are things you love to do, that bring you relief, that makes you happy – then allow yourself to benefit by these things by allowing yourself to ENJOY these things.

The reason why the same things can be someone’s “addiction” in a negative sence is because most people do not change how they think and feel ABOUT THEMSELF at the same time as they allow these things to bring them relief

If you rely on these substances and things to feel good – now you have a negative, disempowering addiction. 

If you let these bring you TEMPORARY relief while at the same time you work on improving how YOU FEEL ABOUT YOURSELF – now you will benefit by what you choose to do and you are on your way toward empowering YOURSELF.

Everything in your life is affected by HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT YOURSELF. This is somethink you can’t fake with makeup, or improve with a new diet, or mask with alcohol or hide with fake smiles and positive words. How you truly feel about yourself will shine through all of that and you and your body will always return to that because how you feel comes from within – and it affects EVERYTHING in your life. And this is the beautiful part because YOU can change how you feel about yourself and when you do, EVERYTHING about you – your body, your health, your confidence, your relationships – EVERYTHING in your life will reflect those changes. It truly is mind over matter. When you change the mind the matter will change automatically.

From no self-esteem to total self-empowerment

How can you stop your self hatred and start improving how you feel about yourself? It is easier than you think. It doesn’t matter if you have hated yourself your entire life or if you have the lowest self-esteem imaginable – you can improve how you feel about yourself and you can begin now. You can go from no self-esteem to total self-empowerment, it is possible! 

There are many things you can begin doing, right now, that are beautiful, easy steps on your journey toward feeling better about yourself. One of the first steps is to make a decision that you WANT to feel better about yourself. Just rest with that decision for a while, it is enough! As you let that decision be a part of your thinking it will be easier for you to take the next steps as well.

Another step you can take is to start looking at other people in a new light – start looking for things you LIKE about everyone around you and everything that happens. It is a lot easier to begin to look at OTHERS in a more positive way than yourself if you are tuned in to hating yourself. And there is real magic in this because if you train your focus into seeing the GOOD in others, you will automatically begin to see the GOOD in yourself as well, without even trying! This is an excellent way to begin changing your focus in an easy, gentle and smart way.

If you have spent your entire life hating yourself it is very likely that you have stopped listening to your own inner guidance a long time ago and replaced it with what other people think and say. It is likely that you have let their disapproval or approval become a big part of your own guidance – and that is also why you feel so lost, so disempowered and so insecure. You can’t rely on things outside of yourself for guidance about how you feel without losing your own sence of self empowerment. But don’t worry! This too can change and YOU can begin the change right here and right now:

This magnificent step will feel like such a relief to you! This step is to stop caring about what other people think about you and start listening to how YOU FEEL, what YOU LIKE and what YOU WANT. This life is for YOU. YOU are the main character in YOUR LIFE and YOU get to choose how you want to play your part. 

How would you like to feel? How would you like to feel about yourself? What matters to you? What things do you enjoy doing? What things do you enjoy eating? What clothes makes you feel most comfortable and most beautiful? How would you like to spend your days? What values are important to you? How would you like your relationships to feel and play out? What choices would you like to make? Continue discovering what feels good to you, what calls you and begin to move in the direction of what feels better to you. 

Another reliefgiving step is to start paying attention to what you think and say about yourself. Your inner dialogue will affect everything about you, your posture, your confidence… everything! When you think good-feeling thoughts about yourself you will be an attractive, confident, empowered and good-feeling person as well. It all begins with your mind, your attitude and your focus.

Begin right now to at least LISTEN to what you think and say about yourself and begin to make gentle changes in your focus. Baby steps is enough! You can’t go from thoughts of self-loathing to self-love all at once because it is too far away and you won’t believe these new thoughts anyway so they will make no difference. But you can gently tune to thoughts that are more general and a little less hateful. And as you practice that for a while you can then tune into more general thoughts that bring you a little more relief and with a little time you will be able to easily reach for thoughts about yourself that feel good. One step at a time. The more you do it the easier it will be. In time you will think loving thoughts about yourself and the words you speak about yourself and your life will automatically reflect that love.

There are many more beautiful steps along the way but these steps will be a perfect start on your journey toward feeling good about yourself. 


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