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It is the life and the zest in the years that matters

Don’t feel stupid if you don’t like what everyone else pretends to love“.

Emma Watson

This is the exciting and satisfying part of life – find out what calls you and follow your unique bliss.

You don’t have to follow what society or your loved ones expect of you – this is YOUR life, not theirs. You only have a couple of years on this planet so why not make the absolute best of those years!? Enjoy your life in the most delicious ways you can think of.

It is the life and zest in the years that matter, not the amount of years in your life! πŸ™

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When it feels so awful you can hardly breathe and you are boiling with anger, resentment and frustration

When you are in a situation that feels so awful you can hardly breathe and you are boiling with anger, resentment and frustration on the inside – how do you break this negative cycle?

The first step is to make peace with your emotions. Say things like: “This is how I feel, and that is ok. What has happened has happened, I am where I am. If I had known better I would have acted differently, but what happened happened and I choose to make peace with it.”

The second step is to acknowledge that the emotional pain you are feeling is not really about the situation itself but a product of your own thoughts and beliefs about the situation. The great part about this is that you can change your thinking about this situation and therfore you can affect how you feel. You cannot change what happened, you cannot go back in time and act differently – but you can change how you view the situation and that will make all the difference!

When you change how you view it, you will not only change how you feel but you will also prepare yourself mentally for the next time these limiting thoughts come up, so there is a valuable and strengthening bonus in this! Next time you end up in a smilar situation you will act differently because you have changed your thoughts regarding this topic.

Your heart still beats for you πŸ™

When life seems cruel and cold, take a step back, quiet your mind and listen to the soothing stillness within. Your heart still beats for you and life still courses through your veins.

There is so much kindness, love and joy in the world, and in every situation there is value and opportunities to grow. Embrace life as it is, love yourself where you are, make peace with everyone and everything and start making the best of what ever comes your way. πŸ™

A confession from a people pleaser

It has been a really good day at work today. But a really good question came to my mind – why do I feel bad when I don’t do as others want me to? I always feel guilty when I have to turn someone down or say no. But why?

I talked about this with a co-worker today and she said to me that concidering all the negative things I have been through in my life, I should definitely start valuing myself and my needs more than what others say, think, want or do. She is so right.

Logically I know I have to listen to how I feel and what I want – and I do, some of the times, but not often enough. I am sick and tired of feeling guilty when I have to say no.

We are all equal beings, my desires, wishes and needs are just as important as anyone else’s. I will no longer satisfy the needs of those around at the cost of my own wellbeing. I will respect and value my opinion and I will honor my desires as well – I will say no when it feels off to me and I no longer take responsibility for other people’s happiness or sadness. No more. It is not my job – how you feel is your job. How I feel is my job. I will take better care of myself from now on.

Can you forgive the one who hurt you?


Forgiving someone is an inside job. The one who hurt you might not even be sorry for what he did – he might even have a desire to hurt you again, but you can choose to forgive him unconditionally.

Why would you forgive him? Because, holding on to the resentment by not forgiving him will do you more damage then letting it go. Forgive him because you know everyone has goodness within them. Forgive him because it will bring you relief. Forgive him because you want to grow from this and become happy again.

So yes, you can forgive him. And no, it does not mean you have to see him again or like him – the forgiving part is for you, a step towards making peace with what ever happened and move on.

Become who you desire to be by using affirmations πŸŒΊ

When you decide to change how you view yourself, everything will change to match your new beliefs.

How would you like to feel about yourself? Use affirmations daily; think positive statements about yourself that match how you want to feel and who you want to be and you will eventually become it.

A bad day is a good day β€

There truly are no “bad” days – only days when you feel a bit worse and days when you feel a bit better. The day is not the reason why you feel as you do – your perspective is. The great thing about that is that you can do something about your perspective – regardless what is going on around you – and therefore you can do something about how you feel.

You are never a powerless victim doomed to feeling bad because of horrible circumstances. You can find value in every situation, and you can choose to let it nurture you as a solid foundation to grow from.

Embrace the pain and let it strenghten you from within πŸ™

Take the time you need, go slower and find your inner balance.

There is no rush, the strongest of trees took a long time to grow. Trust that everything is always working out for your highest good and that out of this situation only beautiful value will come.

Everything is of value, especially the pain. Embrace it and let it strenghten you from within.

Make your own “fuck-it list”

1) Stop caring about what other people think – this is your life and if you want to feel good you have to care about how you feel and what YOU want.

2) Start valuing yourself – listen to what calls you, live out your good-feeling desires and again, care about how you feel.

3) Don’t feel embarressed or ashamed! Do what you want, be playful and allow yourself to enjoy the fun in life.

4) Don’t create a home and a lifestyle to fit in to the expectations of others – you don’t have to live and do as others want you to, you don’t have to own a house, a car, get married or have children if that doesn’t call you! You don’t have to have the perfect garden or the biggest cleanest house either! Allow yourself a fun and satisfying lifestyle!

5) Fuck the “you have to be proper” mentality! Wear the sexy dress, enjoy your body and live out your joys, your passions and your desires.

6) Stop comparing yourself to others – allow yourself to be inspired by others while you love and honor yourself in all ways possible. Allow yourself to be you in all ways that please you.

7) Stop the self hatred and self criticism!!! Just stop all the negative thinking and all the negative conversations about yourself and gently replace that with better feeling thoughts about yourself. Make it your life goal to learn to love yourself unconditionally. No matter what you look like, what you have been through or what you have done – you can learn to love yourself and that will make all the difference.

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Most importantly – don’t follow other people’s lists or advice blindly – listen to your own inner guidance.

Give yourself time to listen to the soothing stillness within

On the days when you feel exhausted, give yourself a lot of time to rest mentally. Perhaps you have a lot to do and it is not possible for you to lay down and rest at all during your day, but you can always give yourself a moment here and there where you rest mentally. That is just as beneficial.

Take a moment to close your eyes, take a few deep breaths and listen to the soothing stillness within. Stay in this comforting place of ease for a minute or two and allow your body to relax. Then, gently open your eyes, smile and thank your body for this relaxing moment.

As you move on with your day do so with the intention of being extra kind, loving and gentle with yourself.

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