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🌸 Dare to not fit into their idea of beauty – you are already beautiful 🌸

Yes, you are beautiful. Just the way you are. It is time for you to let go of the opinions of others around you, the opinions of society and the world. These opinions are their opinions and that is alright. How you feel about yourself, how you look at yourself and your thoughts, beliefs, desires and opinions about yourself – that is what matters!

It does not matter what you have been through, what your body and your face looks like – you can find a way to love yourself unconditionally, and you can begin now. That is the key to everything. ❤

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Your days as a helpless victim or an angry abuser is over – it is time to feel good and enjoy your life!

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Your life is YOUR LIFE. How you feel should be your number one priority on your every to do list. Everything else comes second after this, that is how important this aspect is. I asked a friend today how he felt about himself. He said he hated himself and that he has always hated himself. That, to me, is an important key to why everything else in his life is not working. He has been running around trying to fix all the broken pieces of his life without first tending to the most important part – the one that keeps all other pieces together: how you feel about yourself.

Even if you have spent your entire life hating yourself, it is never too late. All it takes is a willingness to feel better. That is it. As long as you want to feel better and want to find a way to feel better, you can. But you have to stop blaming your past, your parents, your teachers, your friends, your work, your boss, your lovers, your failures, your mistakes, your experiences and all other things you can think of to blame. Stop it. And stop blaming yourself!!!! You always do the best you can do given the circumstances, the knowledge you have at the time and the desires and beliefs you hold. That is ok! Make peace with all that has been and all that is. Focus 100% on you now, on how you want to feel.

Take it one small gentle step at a time, one moment at a time. Listen to what you say about yourself to others and in your own mind. Are those loving, supportive and optimistic words? If not, begin to change your words ever so slightly in a more loving and kind way.

How you view yourself and what you think about yourself affect every single aspect of you, your body, your health and your entire life – and you can do something about it! In fact, you are the only one who can do something about it! No one else can enter your mind and think your thoughts for you, no matter how well-meaning they are. You can find inspiration in other people´s stories and in their words – but you have to do the work. It is an inside job, you are 100% in control of this, you are in charge and you can begin right now.

How to move on from these unwanted experiences and feel good again ❤🌱

You feel the way you do because you think the way you do – and you can do something about that!

You are never limited by your past, present or future experiences – the only thing that limits you is your own thinking about your past, present and future experiences – and you can do something about that!

Realise the amazing potential to feel good that you have – right now. No matter what you have been through or what you are going through. You can’t change the past but you can change how you view it, and that will make all the difference.

There is value and benefit with everything that happens – everything can inspire you to focus more clearly on what you now know you desire and prefer as a result of this experience. How do you WANT to FEEL? Who do you WANT to BE? What do you WANT to DO?

The potential for happiness is within you, always. It truly is an inside job. Sure, it is easier to feel good when everything goes your way but there is no skill in just looking around and reaching to what happens! True skill, true freedom and true empowerment is when things are not going the way you want them to and you choose to focus on the value, you choose to be selective in your focus and you choose to let all these unwanted things inspire you to now focus more on what you now know you desire and prefer instead. That takes skill and that is the answer to how you move on and find value in everything.

Love yourself every step of the way ❤

Embrace your past, embrace all your mistakes and embrace all the unwanted experiences. Who you were and everything that happened have led you to the place where you are right now. And it is all perfect. 

You are worthy of your own love and affection. You were then, you are now and you will forever be. No matter what you have done or how “badly” you messed up. ❤

Your most important quest is to learn to love yourself, unconditionally. No matter what. And when you reach that place there is no end to what you can accomplish. ❤

How do you deal with your panic attacks and your anxiety?

Ever since I was a little girl I have had flashes of panic attacks and days filled with anxiety, sometimes several days in a row, every week. 

When I grew up I had no idea how to handle these awful, intense feelings and it resulted in a lot of anger and depression. Back then I also felt like a powerless victim to everything that happened to me… my alcoholic father, the bullying, my eating disorders, the sexual abuse, the physical abuse, the death of my parents… everything just added to my panic attacks and my anxiety.

It was not until I was 24 years old that I – completely on my own – began improving how I felt about myself and how I handled my mood swings. Little by little I began liking myself and I developed a strong, beautiful self esteem. 

From that point on everything in my life improved as well. I got a job I loved, met an amazing man and my self-esteem continued to grow stronger and stronger. It took time but I managed to go from feeling like a powerless victim to feeling like an empowered woman.

However, my panic attacks and my anxiety is still with me every week. Even though I have the body of my dreams, two little babies, a job I love and an amazing boyfriend… I am, however, better at soothing myself once I get hit with theses awful emotions, and I am an expert at hiding how I feel at work and so on… but the feelings are still as intense as when I was a little girl. 

Some days, like today, I feel no desire to continue living. It is so strange because the feelings are so intense and so real… but tomorrow they might be gone again. That gives me some relief, to know that this too shall pass. Until it passes I treat myself to a lot of delicious food and play a lot with my cute little babies.

How do you handle your panic attacks and your anxiety?

Celebrate being who you are, curves and all ❤

I love the female body – everything about it is beautiful, sensual and magical. I choose to celebrate me, for being who I choose to be. I love my curves and I choose to feel love for everything that I am.

Please stop beating up on yourself and start liking yourself, as you are! I spent over 20 years hating myself and hating my body – it was not until I was 24 years old that I BEGAN improving how I felt about myself. But I succeeded in improving the way I viewed myself. 

Here I am today, 10 years later, and I feel more at peace with myself and more confident than I have ever felt before. I learned to let go of guilt, blame and criticism and learned to find love for myself. True love, unconditional love. That is where I found unconditional happiness, empowerment and freedom as well. 

You are not ugly! ❤

When you look in the mirror and you hate what you see – remember that you are not ugly!!! You are just not allowing yourself to see how beautiful you truly are. You can’t see beauty with critical eyes. Don’t be hard on yourself, just back away from all the mirrors for a while and go more general in your mind as you think about yourself

You can’t jump all the way from insecurity and self-hatred to confidence and self-love. However, you can be a little bit easier on yourself right now. You can sooth yourself a little by going more general in your view of yourself. You can pamper yourself with something you enjoy and focus on something else for a while. You can begin to look for things you enjoy and like in other people.

When you have spent some time practicing this appreciative way of looking at others, you will begin to see things you like about yourself too. 

A strong, confident and fit mother of two little babies ❤❤

I can’t believe I hated myself for over 24 years before I began improving my thinking. My body – my every cell – must be very strong since it kept being everything I needed it to be while I was hating it at the same time. Thank you, beautiful body, for not just hanging in there but for allowing yourself to blossom and thrive. 

It has been 10 years since I began improving my thinking and little by little I have gone from no self-esteem to total self-empowerment. The journey is never ending, which is the best part. Always more reliefgiving thoughts to find and new beautiful beliefs to create. More love to be felt and more unconditional happiness to be experienced. One small step at a time.

Self-hatred = hating a thought you have about yourself

“No matter what the problem is, our experiences are just outer effects of inner thoughts. Even self-hatred is only hating a thought you have about yourself. You have a thought that says, “I’m a bad person.” This thought produces a feeling, and you buy into the feeling. However, if you don’t have the thought, you won’t have the feeling. And thoughts can be changed. Change the thought and the feeling must go.”
Louise Hay, from the book “You can heal your life”


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