16 Apr 2018
by joypassiondesire
in Empowering, How to allow, Love and relationship, Self-esteem
Tags: #say no, #Support, be of value, choices, finances, financial independence, friends, help, help others, kindness, lending money, money, respect, right or wrong, value
Here is a brief update on the lending money topic I wrote about a few weeks ago. I have been asked to help out a very close friend financially every month for many years now, and I still do it. However, more people come to me for financial help – one of them is a person I hardly know. Today I got a message again from her, asking me for money. It just does not feel right anymore – so I finally said no. She has parents, her boyfriend has parents and they have lots of close friends. I and my boyfriend are on our own. Neither one of us has any parents and no one else around. Still I have helped this woman financially many times and at the same time given money to another friend almost monthly and my very close friend as well.
I have to listen to my own inner guidance and what feels best to me. This person who I hardly know will no longer get money from me. I have not given her any money since last time I wrote about this. However I will continue to help out my very close friend and occationally my other friend, as long as it feels ok. Most importantly, I will encourage their own financial independence. ❤
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06 Apr 2018
by joypassiondesire
in Empowering, health, How to allow, Love and relationship, Self-esteem
Tags: #say no, attention, authentic, be real, blame, confidence, demands, feel better, guilt, improve your life, inspiration, lesson, life, love, motivation, others opinions, self esteem, society, valuable, work
Don’t do things that feel off to you – don’t just smile and say yes when every inch of your being wants to scream no! Say no and walk away! Honor yourself, care about what matters to you. Listen with love to your body’s messages – if it feels off, it is off.
There is no value in forcing yourself just to please others – start being real, listen to your inner guidance and follow what feels better to you.
The attention, work and love you give from a place of feeling good and honoring yourself, that is valuable attention, benefical work and satisfying love.
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24 Mar 2018
by joypassiondesire
in Empowering, health, How to allow, Love and relationship, Self-esteem
Tags: #say no, assist others, be of value, blame, choices, demands, emotional, emotions, empowering quotes, expectations, feel better, guilt, happiness, help others, improve your life, insecurities, inspirational, life, love, low self esteem, motivational, no, opinions of others, people pleaser, please, relationship issues, satisfaction, self empower, society, worry
Trying to be a people pleaser is very detrimental to your own emotional balance. You can’t do something you don’t really want to do, just to please someone else, without telling yourself that you don’t matter. And believe me, your every cell is listening 24/7 to the messages you send it. You send it messages with the thoughts you think, the words you speak and with the actions you take. If you want to know how your body feels about your messages, pay attention to your emotions. If you feel anything less than good, then your body is taking a hit from what you are currently doing, saying and thinking.
It is time for you to value yourself, to care for yourself and most importantly: it is time for you to love yourself.
One part in loving yourself is listening to what matters to you, what makes you feel good, what you desire, what you believe and what feels right to you. This means saying no when something feels off. Saying no does not have to be wrong or bad or something negative. It is just a choice! Choose what is right, choose what feels like most relief, choose to value how you feel.
Stop going against yourself in order to please someone else! It is not your job to please someone else – to be pleased is an inside job. Just like happiness. Just like love. Just like satisfaction. Just like any other emotion there is. It is all an inside job. ❤
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01 Jan 2018
by joypassiondesire
in Empowering, health, How to allow, Love and relationship, Self-esteem
Tags: #say no, boss, confidence, demands, empowering, expectations, friends, heal your life, honor yourself, improve your life, insecurity, lovers, motivational, normal, people pleaser, relationship insecurity, self esteem, society, stressed out, the norm, value yourself, wellbeing, worthiness
Be kinder to yourself! Don’t force yourself to behave in ways that please others – honor yourself by following your inner guidance.
If it feels off to you, it is off! It doesn’t matter if every friend you have thinks you should do it or if your boss or your lover wants you to do something – if it feels less than good to you it is detrimental to you.
Whenever you do something you don’t really want to, you are hurting yourself. It is actually more benefical for you to be “rude” and say “no, I don’t want to do it” than to swallow your resentment, go against yourself and do it even though you don’t want to – just to please someone else.
It is time for you to start liking yourself, caring about yourself and start valuing your desires and beliefs. When you care about yourself and your wellbeing first, you will be of most value to everyone else as well.
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01 Oct 2017
by joypassiondesire
in Empowering, health, How to allow, Love and relationship, Self-esteem
Tags: #say no, blame, choices, depression, empowering, expectations, feel better, guilt, happiness, inspirational, motivational, people pleaser, relationship, relationship insecurity, sadness, self empower, society
You don’t have to do things that you don’t want to do – it is ok to say no!
Even if your friend or someone who means a lot to you wants you to do something, you have the right to say no thank you and do something else instead. You can’t go against your inner guidance just to please others, without it taking its toll on you. It will take its toll on you mentally as well as physically.
You matter. They matter too but you have to listen to your own inner guidance first and foremost! Happiness IS an INSIDE JOB. That is true for them aswell. Their happiness or sadness does not depend on you and the choices you make. Remember that.
How YOU FEEL is always something YOU can AFFECT. ❤
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02 Aug 2017
by joypassiondesire
in Empowering, Self-esteem
Tags: #say no, confidence, empowering quotes, excuses, insecurity, justification, motivational quotes, people pleaser, polite, self esteem
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