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When your heart is full of sadness – how do you find relief?

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Some days I do not feel like doing anything other than being alone, in the dark. How do I deal with those days? I sooth myself in many different ways. One of my favorite ways of soothing myself is to eat something delicious. Therefore, I make sure to treat myself to something delicious often throughout my days.

Sometimes it makes me feel better to look at beautiful pictures of nature, rain, the ocean… or listen to my favorite soothing music during the breaks at work. At home I usually don’t have time to relax during the days because my little babies want to play with me all the time, which also makes it easier to distract myself from my own sadness. Seeing their cute, happy faces and hearing their eager voices always makes me smile.

The best time to sooth myself is at night when everyone else is sleeping. Then I just lie in bed, enjoy the stillness around me and let the darkness of the night embrace me and sooth me. I was alone with my emotional pain for so many years as I grew up, that my solitude has become my greatest comforter now. I turn inwards when I need a break.

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Choosing a more hopeful perspective, even though you are afraid – that is where magic happens!

There is such amazing magic in deliberately choosing your thoughts. You don’t have to complain or point out flaws more than just a brief moment, you can move on from the experience by directing your focus on what you now know you prefer and how you now know you want to feel.

Regurgitation of what happens to you is not a skill – it is simple sloppy focus. Easily done but not empowering! Choosing a slightly different perspective, even though it would be easier to complain… choosing a more general perspectice, even though it would be easier to criticise… choosing a more hopeful perspective, even though you are afraid… choosing a more reliefgiving perspective, even though you are sad… now that takes skill and that is both freeing and enpowering. Not only will you feel better while you practice this, you will affect everything that happens to you as well.

Your acne and your cellulite does not make you any less beautiful! 🌹

I see who you are. I see who you are beyond the external things, beyond your clothes, beyond your makeup, beyond your body.

You are beautiful. You are so loved and adored for who you really are. There is no need to feel sad, ashamed, blameful, jealous or to wish you looked more like this or that. You are beautiful, right here and right now.

It is time for you to once and for all make peace with your body, make peace with your face, make peace with your skin, make peace with your personality and your emotions. Make peace with it all, look beyond all of it and see who you really are. Reach for the unconditional love that flows to you endlessly and eternally.

Even a small light in a dark room can make all the difference

There will always be those who disagree with you. There will always be those who dislike you and what you do. Let them.

Don’t meet fire with more fire, hate with more hate. That only fuels the negativity. Let it be.

Keep following what you believe is good. Keep honoring yourself and others by choosing love and compassion even though you are met with hate and criticism.

Someone has to slow the negative momentum, and it might as well be you. Even a small light in a dark room can make all the difference.

Even tragic events, like the deaths of loved ones, are of value ❤

My parents died a long time ago – it feels like it was in another life time – I am now stronger than ever and the most happiest I have ever been in my life. I see their death as something that inspired me to finally find my own balance and stability in life. It totally changed me – and I chose to let it change me for the better, eventually.

Everything happens for a reason, and everything can be of value – everything. It may not seem like it as it happens but if you allow yourself some time to find emotional relief, then you can slowly begin to see that this experience has brought you a gift – a gift that is very valuable. The gift of finding your emotional balance, unconditionally. Of feeling good, unconditionally. Of feeling love, unconditionally.

Even seemingly tragic events are of value and can make you stronger, more joyful, more loving, more empowered and can make you realise what a beautiful gift life.

Make the most of your life, your year, your month, your day, your hour, your moment. Be kinder to yourself and deliberately choose to enjoy life in ways that call you.

Embrace life with all its joys, sorrows and challenges ❤

You are a beautiful, worthy, loved and perfect being – exactly as you are, right now. No exceptions.

Embrace the unconditional love and perfection that you are, revel in every second you are present here in this lifetime.

Life can be the adventure you desire it to be – with all its pleasure, joy, sadness, love and challenges.

You are not limited by your past, present or future – you are eternal and ever changing into more. Allow yourself to enjoy the ride. ❤

Darkness is my safe haven

Protected by darkness… soothed by the shadows… embraced by the night… this is my safe haven.

When my whole world is shattering around me

Where do I find my relief when it feels like my whole world has shattered around me? In the comforting darkess of the night… in the soothing cool rain… in the quiet stillness of the night… that is where I find my relief, my air, my soothing. That is where I find my balance again.

When your kids have 100 meltdowns a day – how do you keep your emotional stability?

🤣 This is such a fun topic. Little did I know before I had kids that they would help me find a more stable emotional place so clearly.

As an example. Today I went to the grocery store with my two babies, aged 3 and 2. From the moment we left our house until we came back I think they had 20-30 complete meltdowns, each. 🤣 I don’t know why they do that some days, other days they can be as cool as a cucumber the entire time we are out shopping.

I was pretty stable emotionally when we took off but I really had to pause a few times in the grocery store to find some emotional relief. Two kids laying down on the floor in the store, lots of people stopping and staring while my two little angels scream and cry… How do you survive that? 🤣 Well. It is ok to have emotions and some people (not just kids) might be a bit more intense than others and some days might be a little bit worse than other days.

Am I a bad mom? Sure feels that way from time to time during my days – it is not easy sometimes. But I do my very best. On days like these I do my very best to sooth myself in my mind, remain calm and stable as I speak to my kids. Does it work? Sometimes. After 10 minutes they were pretty ok. They were happy and pleased until the next tantrum happened and so on.

I see my kids as a blessing. I love them with all my heart and I know they are the best teachers in my life when it comes to teaching unconditional love, unconditional happiness and unconditional relief. Now that is an excellent gift!

Of course today was a “worst case scenario” some would say but you could also see it as an incredibly important learning experience for both them and me. They learned that no matter how much they act out, I will remain stable and confident in my intention – ‘we are going to go grocery shopping and you are going to help me’. And they did. They had one cart each and helped me look for the products we were going to buy. We had a lot of fun, they smiled and laughed a lot.

I gave them a lot of positive feedback on what they did really well and at the end of the trip we talk about how fun it had been and how well they had helped me out. 💖 It is all one step at a time. Not only one day at a time or an hour at a time, sometimes a moment at a time.

How can I turn my mood around?

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Well, if you feel off and you really want to feel better – don´t force yourself. Be very gentle and kind to yourself. Remember that all emotions are good! You are not bad or less valuable if you feel bad today, or this week, this month, this year or if you have felt bad your entire life. It is only emotions and they are part of our human experience. No judgement in that. However, if you really want to feel better then you have to begin changing your perspective a little. How you feel is always about the perspecitive you choose to have at any given moment – the thoughts you choose to think. You don´t feel bad your entire life because of something that happened when you were six years old – you feel bad because of the thoughts you choose to think NOW. And you can change that! There are always different ways of looking at everything!

The little daily thoughts you think affect everything about you. Not only your mood, your attitude but also what you see in others, how you view the experiences you have and what actions and words you choose.

The little daily thoughts might seem insignificant but they are the most valuable keys to why you feel the way you do. If you feel sad or depressed, you have not been thinking good-feeling thoughts about yourself or your life. However, you cannot turn around all at once – but you don’t have to. It is enough that you slow the negative momentum by acknowledging that you feel bad, acknowledge that you want to feel better and then begin to sooth yourself into making peace with where you are. That is enough.

When you have made peace with where you are you have allowed yourself some relief. From there you can begin to open up your perspective in a more general way by soothing yourself further. Make yourself feel that is is ok, that how you feel is alright. Then begin to look for something that feels a little bit better to you. Perhaps you enjoyed the food you ate for lunch, perhaps you liked the sweater your co-worker was wearing today, perhaps you enjoyed that moment when a friend made you laugh, perhaps you liked the way your hair looked this morning… begin to look for little things everywhere you go that you enjoy. Make more room for those things in your mind. Let those tgood-feeling things sooth you further and begin to enjoy focusing on more things that feel good.

It is enough with gentle steps. One step at a time. There is no rush. Allow yourself some time to gently lean in a more good-feeling direction. It is enough.

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