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A people pleaser learning to say no

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Lending money – saying no because you care ❤

Here is a brief update on the lending money topic I wrote about a few weeks ago. I have been asked to help out a very close friend financially every month for many years now, and I still do it. However, more people come to me for financial help – one of them is a person I hardly know. Today I got a message again from her, asking me for money. It just does not feel right anymore – so I finally said no. She has parents, her boyfriend has parents and they have lots of close friends. I and my boyfriend are on our own. Neither one of us has any parents and no one else around. Still I have helped this woman financially many times and at the same time given money to another friend almost monthly and my very close friend as well.

I have to listen to my own inner guidance and what feels best to me. This person who I hardly know will no longer get money from me. I have not given her any money since last time I wrote about this. However I will continue to help out my very close friend and occationally my other friend, as long as it feels ok. Most importantly, I will encourage their own financial independence. ❤

Love, respect, support and compassion – it all starts with you ❤

Follow the crowd and their expectations? No more

You don’t have to follow the crowd. You don’t have to live your life in ways others expect you to. There is not only one right way of doing anything – there are endless right ways and you get to choose what works best for you.

People may expect you to be social, be a mother in a certain way or perhaps they expect you to marry. It doesn’t matter what it is that they or society or the world expects you to do or choose. What do you want? This is your life, and you get to choose how you want to live it.

There is no point in trying to be a people pleaser because when you do something you don’t feel called to doing, just to please someone else, you go against yourself and it is detrimental to your emotional health and even your physical health.

Start valuing yourself by listening to how you feel and choose what feels better to you. Sooth yourself by acknowledging that there truly is no right or wrong way to do anything. You get to choose. As long as you feel good it will be of value to you and everyone else as well. You can harm no one when you are true to who you are by honoring how you feel and following your bliss.

If they disrespect you ❤

When they disagree with you

Do they disagree with you? Great! We are all entitled to our own perspectives, our own beliefs, our own desires, our own preferences and our own opinions.

They don’t have to agree with you or what you do – and you don’t have to agree with them or what they do. We are all loved and adored unconditionally – just because we exist.

We are all all unique and we are all unique in our perspectives aswell. You don’t have to agree with someone in order to be kind and respectful. You don’t have to agree with someone in order to love them either.

Never mind if they don’t respect you – someone has to start from an allowing place of unconditional love, and it might aswell be you.

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