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Anger management – a reliefgiving perspective

You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger.

~ Buddha

I love this quote because it says so much. There is no judgement or punishment outside of you – the real punishment is the negative emotions themselves and the toll they take on your mental health, your physical health and everything else that matters to you.

Harboring anger, letting it grow within and letting it burst out from your every cell – that is extremely detrimental to you.

Even though you think life sucks and that you think those aspects need to change in order for you to feel good… even though you feel completely justified in your anger – it is still very deterimental to you. Let it go. See your anger as hot inner flames that you are choosing to breathe out when you feel them burn within. Let the cool, clear and fresh relief wash through you and cool you down, gently. It is not worth it – just let it go.

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Even a small light in a dark room can make all the difference

There will always be those who disagree with you. There will always be those who dislike you and what you do. Let them.

Don’t meet fire with more fire, hate with more hate. That only fuels the negativity. Let it be.

Keep following what you believe is good. Keep honoring yourself and others by choosing love and compassion even though you are met with hate and criticism.

Someone has to slow the negative momentum, and it might as well be you. Even a small light in a dark room can make all the difference.

You are my wolf ❤

I am in love with all your mistakes, all your failure and all your flaws. I am passionately in love with your anger, your jealousy, your rage and your frustration.

I am in love with all of you. There are no “bad” parts or “good” parts – everything about you is magical, magnificent and beautiful.

When my whole world is shattering around me

Where do I find my relief when it feels like my whole world has shattered around me? In the comforting darkess of the night… in the soothing cool rain… in the quiet stillness of the night… that is where I find my relief, my air, my soothing. That is where I find my balance again.

Stuck in their own miserable way of thinking – they cannot hear your soothing words

Sometimes people (myself included) get so stuck in their own miserable way of thinking that they cannot even hear you when you try to sooth them into feeling better. They just keep asking the same old questions again and again, the words may be dressed differently but the core beliefs still shine through as bright as the full moon on a clear winter’s night.

No matter how many times and in how many ways you try to sooth them into feeling relief, they will not hear you. When they are so stuck in their own negative thinking they are not asking for your opinion or for a solution – even if they say they are wanting that – they are looking for confirmation and validation of their own misery. 

But don’t worry! This too shall pass, even for them. You are just not the path for them to take, right now. Don’t blame it on yourself if they cannot be soothed. Keep being the loving, caring being you are and know that they have all the guidance they will ever need within themselves. All they have to do is calm down, relax and be willing to let go of their own destructive thinking. One step at the time. Change starts within.

Treat yourself better ❤

When you feel utterly pissed off

You can turn your anger into positive energy! Use the rush of energy to refocus on something that matters more to you.

Don’t let his behaviour be your reason to beat up on yourself – allow him to be as he chooses to be. Focus your energy on yourself, what you desire and how you want to feel.

Anger is good! Anger means you have a strong desire about something and you are currently looking in opposition of how you want it to be. Use this opportunity to refocus and let the anger wash away by replacing it with clear focus.

Even when everything around you crumbles

What you dream about is what you will get? Then what about nightmares!?

Don’t worry. Yes, your dreams reflect the mood you have been predominantly entertaining with your thoughts and your focus during the days. However, it doesn’t mean you have to attract those specific things you dreamt about – it is only guidance letting you know what your most common way of thinking matches right now. Since it is only guidance you can do something about it! 

If you wake up from a nightmare then acknowledge how you FELT during the dream and sooth yourself into feeling some relief. Then acknowledge that it is guidance letting you know that you have been choosing thoughts and words during your days that are not benefical for you in the long run. Then begin paying attention to what you say and think during your day and when you notice even slightly negative perspectives in yout focus – gently sooth those thoughts into slightly better feeling ones. Just one small adjustment will net you wonderful results!

It is not the big awful thoughts you think once a month that makes the biggest impact on your life – it is the little DAILY thoughts that affect you the most

Gently listen to what you say and think, and shift those thoughts toward a little relief. You can even stop yourself in the middle of a negative comment, and begin again in a more positive way. Thank your guidance for letting you know it will benefit you to sooth yourself into relief.

In the midst of darkness 🌟

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