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When you desperately want them to love and approve of you – let it go

“If someone is arguing with you, or finding fault with you, and not liking what they see, say to them, and mean it lovingly and kindly, but mean it sincerely, “You’re seeing something in me, that must be active in you, and I think this is more about you, than it is about me”.

So if someone is having a bad day, and they are angry at you, it’s about their bad day, much more than it is about you.

It’s always about the beholder.
Everything is about the beholder.
So what you want to do is become more aware of what you’re seeing in others. That’s the thing you want to be aware of.

Don’t worry about what other people are seeing in you. Don’t worry about the love they’re giving you, or the love they’re not giving you.

Let your awareness be about what you’re putting out. Let your awareness be about how much you’re loving.

We wouldn’t be running around saying: ‘who loves me or who doesn’t love me?’, we’d be saying: ‘who do I love, what is it about you, that I love?'”

Abraham Hicks 5/10/08

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Choosing a more hopeful perspective, even though you are afraid – that is where magic happens!

There is such amazing magic in deliberately choosing your thoughts. You don’t have to complain or point out flaws more than just a brief moment, you can move on from the experience by directing your focus on what you now know you prefer and how you now know you want to feel.

Regurgitation of what happens to you is not a skill – it is simple sloppy focus. Easily done but not empowering! Choosing a slightly different perspective, even though it would be easier to complain… choosing a more general perspectice, even though it would be easier to criticise… choosing a more hopeful perspective, even though you are afraid… choosing a more reliefgiving perspective, even though you are sad… now that takes skill and that is both freeing and enpowering. Not only will you feel better while you practice this, you will affect everything that happens to you as well.

All that matters in life – love, laugh and shine your light brightly ❤

Your perspective, your life – no judgement ❤

Love your figure – but your figure is not the reason for your love! ❤

Whatever your body shape, size and weight might be – practice loving yourself unconditionally. You are more than your body – you are endless and eternal.

The body you have been given this lifetime is your treasure. It is the body that has been your home since you were born and will be until you die – treat it with loving care. ❤

I celebrate my body. I celebrate my curves and edges. I have learned to love myself, my body and my personality, unconditionally. Was it easy? No! Has the love you feel or not feel for yourself to do with your body shape, size and weight? No! I hated myself the first 24 years of my life. I absolutely loathed myself – all aspects of myself. I had the same body shape, size and weight then as I do now.

It is not my body that makes me feel this way or that way – it is the thoughts and the perspectives I choose to view life from.

Love, joy, confidence, hate, criticism, insecurity – it is all an inside job ❤

No one else needs to approve of you – only you. Their criticism and disapproval says more about them and their inner strenght and weaknesses than you.

A truly empowered being who is filled with love in his/her heart would never ever put anyone else down in any way by words or action. All negativity comes from inner pain, even if they can justify why they criticise. A critical perspective is a lackful perspective and it comes from the eyes of the beholder.

There is value, beauty and goodness to be seen everywhere, in everyone and in everything. You have the power to be selective in your focus and you can even let the negative aspects you see, inspire you to focus more clearly on what you prefer. So all things can be reasons to focus in joyful and loving ways.

Never let the negativity from another bring you down. Remember that they are hurting within, even if they are not aware of it. Choose to see past their negativity, let them be and know that they too have an inner guidance that will guide them if they only want to listen. That is not your job. Change is an inside job. Love is an inside job. Confidence is an inside job. Happiness is an inside job. Everything is an inside job – their negativity and criticism is too. ❤

Continue being the shining inspiring light of joy and love that you are, and those who are ready to feel better will listen. 🌹❤

Embrace life with all its joys, sorrows and challenges ❤

You are a beautiful, worthy, loved and perfect being – exactly as you are, right now. No exceptions.

Embrace the unconditional love and perfection that you are, revel in every second you are present here in this lifetime.

Life can be the adventure you desire it to be – with all its pleasure, joy, sadness, love and challenges.

You are not limited by your past, present or future – you are eternal and ever changing into more. Allow yourself to enjoy the ride. ❤

Take responsibility for how you feel?

“It is not you, it is me” – yes!!!! It is never the other person´s thoughts, words or actions that affect how you feel about them or about yourself – it is your own thoughts, words and actions that affect how you feel about them and yourself.

No one else can make you feel this way or that way without your consent – you are the one who chooses the perspective from which you view everything! So yes, you are actually in charge of how you feel and yes you are the only one who can change how you feel.

Of course others can inspire you to feel a certain way because of their actions and words – but ultimately you are the one who chooses. That is very empowering and very freeing to realize!

Now this is actually rather deep even though it seems so simplistic. One might argue that because of their partner`s actions they were left heart broken and insecure. True, it might feel that way. But, you can work on how you view what happens. Take cheating for example. Instead of letting it break you, you work on looking at it as an act from someone who didn´t really love you – then it is a good thing that you were made aware of this action so you can be more clear about what kind of relationship you want to be in. Do you really want to be with someone who hurts you? Is that really love? Perhaps you want to be with this person anyway and perhaps this action made this person more aware of how he/she wants to feel about you and how he/she wants your relationship to be like.

It is true that only good can come from any experience, but what is important is how you view what happened and the perspective you now choose to have. And you are in charge of that.

Kindness, love and peace – attitude is everything ❤

Love all of life. Choose to see the good in everyone you meet and everything that happens.

Make peace with where you are and lovingly take one moment at a time. ❤ Kindness attracts more kindness. Love attracts more love. ❤

The most important question in life ❤

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