People who hurt others are only acting out their own inner pain, they don’t need more hatred or punishment – they need help. And regardless the circumstances, if it feels even the slightest bit off to you, it is a beautiful sign that it is a good idea for you to say no and set boundaries.
If they freak out when you say no and set boundaries – your boundaries were very much needed! Don’t let them or their actions bring you down – you can grow as a person because of it all, and you help them too by setting your boundaries. It is all of value