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The key to a joyful, fullfilling life ❤

Give up your anger, your frustration and your complaining. Just give it up.

With every negative word you speak you are pushing against yourself – so just give it up.

Allow yourself to enjoy more, allow yourself to have more fun. Allow yourself to be more playful and easy going. And most importantly: allow yourself to feel good now, without any of the conditions around you changing.

That truly is the key to a joyful, fulfilling life. To be able to choose to feel good unconditionally. When you are able to feel good – no matter the circumstances – the circumstances will change to match your inner emotional state as well. ❤

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Choosing a more hopeful perspective, even though you are afraid – that is where magic happens!

There is such amazing magic in deliberately choosing your thoughts. You don’t have to complain or point out flaws more than just a brief moment, you can move on from the experience by directing your focus on what you now know you prefer and how you now know you want to feel.

Regurgitation of what happens to you is not a skill – it is simple sloppy focus. Easily done but not empowering! Choosing a slightly different perspective, even though it would be easier to complain… choosing a more general perspectice, even though it would be easier to criticise… choosing a more hopeful perspective, even though you are afraid… choosing a more reliefgiving perspective, even though you are sad… now that takes skill and that is both freeing and enpowering. Not only will you feel better while you practice this, you will affect everything that happens to you as well.

Everything is of value and life does get better and better for you

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Can everything be to your advantage? Yes! Can everything bring something good with it? Yes! Are there positive sides to everything? Yes! Are there positive aspects in everyone? Yes!!! Is there more good in the world today than ever before? Yes!!!!

How you view life, how you view other people and how you view everything that happens – no matter how big or small – will affect how you feel about it. And yes there are good and bad sides to everything but you can choose what you focus on and even seemingly evil or bad deeds and experiences give you the opportunity to focus more on how you now know you want things to be instead.

So yes, there is goodness everywhere and there is love, value, beauty, hope, faith, confidence, freedom and empowerment to bee seen, heard, felt and experienced everywhere.

How can I turn my mood around?

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Well, if you feel off and you really want to feel better – don´t force yourself. Be very gentle and kind to yourself. Remember that all emotions are good! You are not bad or less valuable if you feel bad today, or this week, this month, this year or if you have felt bad your entire life. It is only emotions and they are part of our human experience. No judgement in that. However, if you really want to feel better then you have to begin changing your perspective a little. How you feel is always about the perspecitive you choose to have at any given moment – the thoughts you choose to think. You don´t feel bad your entire life because of something that happened when you were six years old – you feel bad because of the thoughts you choose to think NOW. And you can change that! There are always different ways of looking at everything!

The little daily thoughts you think affect everything about you. Not only your mood, your attitude but also what you see in others, how you view the experiences you have and what actions and words you choose.

The little daily thoughts might seem insignificant but they are the most valuable keys to why you feel the way you do. If you feel sad or depressed, you have not been thinking good-feeling thoughts about yourself or your life. However, you cannot turn around all at once – but you don’t have to. It is enough that you slow the negative momentum by acknowledging that you feel bad, acknowledge that you want to feel better and then begin to sooth yourself into making peace with where you are. That is enough.

When you have made peace with where you are you have allowed yourself some relief. From there you can begin to open up your perspective in a more general way by soothing yourself further. Make yourself feel that is is ok, that how you feel is alright. Then begin to look for something that feels a little bit better to you. Perhaps you enjoyed the food you ate for lunch, perhaps you liked the sweater your co-worker was wearing today, perhaps you enjoyed that moment when a friend made you laugh, perhaps you liked the way your hair looked this morning… begin to look for little things everywhere you go that you enjoy. Make more room for those things in your mind. Let those tgood-feeling things sooth you further and begin to enjoy focusing on more things that feel good.

It is enough with gentle steps. One step at a time. There is no rush. Allow yourself some time to gently lean in a more good-feeling direction. It is enough.

Are you a grumpy old toad? Well, it is a choice – and you can choose differently!

Isnt it amazing that our thoughts have such power? What you choose to think affects your mood, your behaviour and the action you choose to participate in.

Even if you have been a grumpy old toad your entire life, you can still choose different thoughts now and as you continue to do so you can go from being the most negative person you know to the most loving, caring, sweet and positive person you know. It is all up to you. And it really, only is about the little daily choices you make, the choices of thoughts – and you can do something about that.

Unwanted experiences – experiences that strenghten you

Everything we go through has the potential of making us stronger, happier and more empowered if we choose to let it. No matter what has happened. ❤

You are never a helpless victim with no choice. You always have the choice of how you look at what happened, and that will make all the difference in your life from now on. Sexual abuse? Mental abuse? Physical abuse? Bullying? Heart break? Deadly diseases? Eating disorders? You name it. It doesn’t matter how seemingly small or big the issue might be, you can always choose your perspective of the experience, you can always lovingly support yourself and sooth yourself into relief. Little by little you can turn your entire thinking around – and therfore your emotions around – and that is when magic starts to happen. ❤

You can go through what ever it is you are going through while feeling fear or you can go through it feeling a hopeful. It is a very different perspective and it will improve not only how you feel about yourself, the experience and your life – it will also improve every aspect of your life. Attitude and how you feel matters more than anything.

“How can I deal with these challenging situations?”

No matter how things temporarily might look, you can always calm your mind and find emotional relief. That really is the key because if you can find emotional relief, then you will open yourself up to the solutions and opportunities that are always available for you.

 

It is never hopeless, it is never too late, you are never too far awayyou can ALWAYS calm your mind and find emotional relief. Maybe not in the very second you are screaming with anger at someone, but you can back away from the situation physically and mentally afterwards. And the more you practice calming your mind and finding relief when you are on your own, the easier it will be to calm you mind and find relief next time – before you get to the screaming part.


Be patient with yourself. This is just like going to the gym  – you have to practice before it becomes easier and you can lift more heavy weights (=deal with more challenging situations).

 

Give yourself time, sooth yourself and lovingly keep reaching for emotional relief when you are on your own. Work on finding your balance and strengthen thoughts and beliefs you want to nurture. Your emotions, your thoughts and beliefs affect your action, your response and therefore everything that happens to you. A little relief-practice will net you wonderful results in your life. Take your power back and begin practice today, right now.

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