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If it feels off – give your attention to something that feels good

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It is natural and right for you to be selective, to have preferences ❤

You don’t have to love everyone! You don’t have to like everything! It is natural and right for you to be selective, to have preferences!

It is not more virtuous to stick around and force yourself to talk to someone who feels off to you – just because you want to be polite. It is ok for you to go away and find someone else to talk to or something else to do if it makes you uncomfortable to stay with this person.

Trust your instinct. Trust your emotions. It is natural to not jive with everyone!!! We all have different intentions, desires, beliefs and preferences. That is how it is supposed to me. Diversity is the spice of life! With that said you don’t have to pour piri piri into your every meal simply because it is there and others expect you to do as they do. You can choose something else! Same goes for people and experiences.

Honor yourself and honor others by being true to how you feel. Sure it works to fake it until you make it – but you don’t have to. You don’t have to pretend that you like sour milk until you begin to kind of enjoy it – take almond milk instead or something entirely different! 🤣💖

When they hate and dissaprove of you 

When other people criticise you and point out your flaws – don’t let it bring you down!

What others choose to see in you is always more about them than you. How they view you, their opinions of you and how they feel about you depends on their own beliefs, expectations, desires and mood. 

You can always choose to see the best in others, you can always choose to focus on the possibilities, the solutions and the desired outcome. You don’t have to hight-light mistakes or things you dislike – you can use those as INSPIRATION to FOCUS on what you now know you PREFER and DESIRE as a result of this experience, and you can talk about that instead.

Criticism and negativity is a choice. So is appreciation and positivity. The focus you choose to use most will become easier to use again – but it is a matter of choice and YOU can choose to focus on yourself and others through the loving eyes of appreciation instead, whether they do or not. 💖

When a grumpy old toad gives you a piece of his mind 

When others treat you badly

Kindness starts with you

Don’t push against what feels bad, love what feels good

There is a beautiful and valuable difference between looking at what you don’t like and trying to make it go away and looking at what you do like and apprecating it.

Both of these perspectives are focusing your energy but one of them blocks you from reaching your highest potential and the other one allows you to become who you truly are and reach your highest potential.

Would you really spend so much time complaining about insignificant things – or big world events – if you knew you are actually hurting yourself and your body every second you do something that fuels your negativity? Probably not. But it is a habit, a habit most people are so used to practicing it feels like the normal, natural and expected way to react when things go wrong. 

Sure you can let negative things bring you down for a moment, and you can allow yourself to feel what you feel. But you CAN, little by little, tune yourself into a more general, loving and benefical way of focusing. 

You are of true value to others, yourself included, when you remain centered in your emotional balance and you see the value, the beauty, the good aspects and the potential for change, solutions and improvements in every situation.

Everyone has beauty, goodness and love within them – if they have acted in hateful ways it simply means they are blocking themself from being who they truly are with their negative perspectives. If you push back in anger, you do the same thing. You don’t rid the world from hate and fear by more hate and fear – the answer is love, unconditional love. 

Stuck in their own miserable way of thinking – they cannot hear your soothing words

Sometimes people (myself included) get so stuck in their own miserable way of thinking that they cannot even hear you when you try to sooth them into feeling better. They just keep asking the same old questions again and again, the words may be dressed differently but the core beliefs still shine through as bright as the full moon on a clear winter’s night.

No matter how many times and in how many ways you try to sooth them into feeling relief, they will not hear you. When they are so stuck in their own negative thinking they are not asking for your opinion or for a solution – even if they say they are wanting that – they are looking for confirmation and validation of their own misery. 

But don’t worry! This too shall pass, even for them. You are just not the path for them to take, right now. Don’t blame it on yourself if they cannot be soothed. Keep being the loving, caring being you are and know that they have all the guidance they will ever need within themselves. All they have to do is calm down, relax and be willing to let go of their own destructive thinking. One step at the time. Change starts within.

When they choose to leave your life – lovingly let them

The key to all things you desire

You know you are allowing yourself to be who you truly are when you are surrounded by contrast and yet you remain calm within and you can laugh about the humor in the situation. 

All situations have the potential of enriching your life by inspiring you to reach for your own emotional balance. 

A person who can find relief within – regardless the circumstances – has found the key to all things desired.

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