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Those who hurt you are of immense value and help you on your journey ❤

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Because of all the pain and suffering – you can become the most confident, beautiful, happy and empowered person ever🌹

It doesn’t matter what you have been through or how difficult your life might seem at the moment – you can let all of it inspire you to now become more confident, beautiful, happy, loving and empowered.

Easily said but is it really true? Is it possible? Of course it is! All it takes is a very, very small desire within you to feel better. That is all. If you have that wanting, no matter how slight, then you can do it. No matter what. It doesn’t matter if you have spent your entire life hating yourself and feeling like a powerless victim – you can become the most confident, blissful, beautiful and empowered person, now.

I grew up with an alcoholic father and my parents mentally abused me all through my childhood until they died – whether they ment to or not. I was sexually abused by three older boys when I was around 6 years old. I was bullied in school, I had reading and writing difficulties, I got anorexia when I was 9 years old, I was raped by two boys when I was 17. I ran away from home a few weeks after that, straight into the arms of an older guy who also had an alcohol addiction and who abused me physically and mentally for almost two years before there was a trial and he went to prison. During that time my mother died. I had no self-esteem what so ever and I absolutely hated myself, I felt like a powerless victim and even wanted to end my life. Then I got pregnant and had to make an abortion, the love of my life cheated on me and then my father died. 🤣

Somewhere around that time – when I was 24 years old – I decided that enough is enough and I felt that I wanted to feel better about myself. So, I began improving my thinking about myself and everything else and little by little I blossomed into the most confident, happy and empowered woman I had always desired to me. As a bonus, I got a job I adored and still work at, got the boyfriend I desired, got huge pay raises, got pregnant twice and had my two little babies… but all of those things are just great bonuses – the most important thing is: I feel good about myself. If I could do it, anyone can. ❤

When you hit rock bottom, remember this beautiful gem

A beautiful way to deal with negative emotions

Try this today: just be aware of how you feel and what you think and say. Whenever you notice that you begin to speak, think and feel a bit negatively – ask yourself if it is worth giving up Life force just for this. And no, it is not.

Every second you spend complaining, worrying, feeling resentful, guilty or any other negative emotion, you break down your body, your health and you block yourself a little bit more from the joyful life experiences you desire. It truly is a matter of blocking life force (when you feel negative) or allowing life force (when you feel good – no matter how slight).

When you let go of the negative focus and allow yourself to feel better, your health and your body will benefit immediately. A healthy, and beautiful body and a truly happy life begins with your mind and the perspective you choose to have.

There are different ways of viewing every single topic in the world, you do not have to be negative, complain and feel worry or guilt at all. You can sooth yourself by leaning in a more general way and ever so slightly shift your perspective. This is the fun and exciting part about life because you truly are in charge – 100% – of how you feel and because of that you affect everything that happens to you. Now that is true freedom and empowerment when you understand this! And yes, it is a never ending journey – but you can begin right now. ❤

Your days as a helpless victim or an angry abuser is over – it is time to feel good and enjoy your life!

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Your life is YOUR LIFE. How you feel should be your number one priority on your every to do list. Everything else comes second after this, that is how important this aspect is. I asked a friend today how he felt about himself. He said he hated himself and that he has always hated himself. That, to me, is an important key to why everything else in his life is not working. He has been running around trying to fix all the broken pieces of his life without first tending to the most important part – the one that keeps all other pieces together: how you feel about yourself.

Even if you have spent your entire life hating yourself, it is never too late. All it takes is a willingness to feel better. That is it. As long as you want to feel better and want to find a way to feel better, you can. But you have to stop blaming your past, your parents, your teachers, your friends, your work, your boss, your lovers, your failures, your mistakes, your experiences and all other things you can think of to blame. Stop it. And stop blaming yourself!!!! You always do the best you can do given the circumstances, the knowledge you have at the time and the desires and beliefs you hold. That is ok! Make peace with all that has been and all that is. Focus 100% on you now, on how you want to feel.

Take it one small gentle step at a time, one moment at a time. Listen to what you say about yourself to others and in your own mind. Are those loving, supportive and optimistic words? If not, begin to change your words ever so slightly in a more loving and kind way.

How you view yourself and what you think about yourself affect every single aspect of you, your body, your health and your entire life – and you can do something about it! In fact, you are the only one who can do something about it! No one else can enter your mind and think your thoughts for you, no matter how well-meaning they are. You can find inspiration in other people´s stories and in their words – but you have to do the work. It is an inside job, you are 100% in control of this, you are in charge and you can begin right now.

They are not victims!

It can feel really hard to see a loved one go through difficulties. Especially if they withdraw and don´t want to change. But you have to remind yourself that they have equal access to source as everyone else on the planet, and they have equal access to the ever present guidance that flows from within – all they have to do is want to feel better and they will begin to hear it.

You cannot make them change their mind, that is not your job. You cannot arrange everything around them in pleasing ways so that they will feel better – feeling better has to come from within, otherwise they grow dependent on seeing pleasing things around them and will not have a stable emotional balance to stand on when bad things happen.

It is not your job to make them feel better, however, you can be of immense value to them by teaching by your example! Be the stable, loving, good-feeling, shining light of unconditional happiness that you truly are and see them as the free and empowered being you know they really are. They are not victims! They are strong, capable, free and empowered beings who have temporarily lost their emotional balance because of the way they have been thinking and focusing. But they CAN do something about that! And when they begin to realize that, they will begin to get their sense of freedom and empowerment back.

How to move on from your past mistakes ❤

Make peace with your past. No matter what you did, you did the best you could from the place of awareness, knowledge and the emotional state you were in. That was then, this is now.

Let your past serve you by letting it inspire you to now focus more clearly on who you want to be, how you want to feel and how you want to act.

Everything that happens can be of beautiful value to you if you only let it. It is only a matter of perspective – and you are 100% in charge of your perspective. ❤

How to move on from these unwanted experiences and feel good again ❤🌱

You feel the way you do because you think the way you do – and you can do something about that!

You are never limited by your past, present or future experiences – the only thing that limits you is your own thinking about your past, present and future experiences – and you can do something about that!

Realise the amazing potential to feel good that you have – right now. No matter what you have been through or what you are going through. You can’t change the past but you can change how you view it, and that will make all the difference.

There is value and benefit with everything that happens – everything can inspire you to focus more clearly on what you now know you desire and prefer as a result of this experience. How do you WANT to FEEL? Who do you WANT to BE? What do you WANT to DO?

The potential for happiness is within you, always. It truly is an inside job. Sure, it is easier to feel good when everything goes your way but there is no skill in just looking around and reaching to what happens! True skill, true freedom and true empowerment is when things are not going the way you want them to and you choose to focus on the value, you choose to be selective in your focus and you choose to let all these unwanted things inspire you to now focus more on what you now know you desire and prefer instead. That takes skill and that is the answer to how you move on and find value in everything.

Let all your past experiences fuel your inner desire

You are under no obligation to be the same person you were 10 years ago, 1 year ago, 1 month ago, 1 week ago or even 1 day ago.

Who you are is based on the thoughts you choose to think now. You can always begin to choose other thoughts that more accurately reflect who you want to be, now.

Your past is over and done with and need not affect you negatively at all. You can choose to let all your past experiences fuel your inner desire and let it inspire you to focus more clearly on who you now know you want to be and what you now know you want to experience. ❤

“I want to quit my job” Yes I am very sensitive – it is a gift ❤

Today I got some hurtful criticism from my boss that brought me to my knees. At first I was furious because it felt so unfair. And now I just feel sad about it.

My co-workers were so supportive of me and tried to sooth me back into feeling better. They were on my side and thought my boss had acted without taking the time to get all the facts straight first. I used to think he was a supportive boss but right now it feels far from that. Even the thought of resigning from work has occured to me tonight.

But, I will work on regaining my emotional balance again by focusing on the bigger picture. He really does mean well. He really does know I do a great job. He cares about his teachers, he wants them to feel satisfied with their work. I do feel rather good about having him as my boss. He cares a lot about his students. He wants our students to succeed and feel good. He also wants to do a good job and meet the expectations of others. I think I understand him now, I see the bigger picture. I really do value his caring and his decisiveness. 🌹

It does feel better. I feel like I can breathe again. Writing is one of the best ways I know to find relief and feel better.

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