Let all your past experiences fuel your inner desire

You are under no obligation to be the same person you were 10 years ago, 1 year ago, 1 month ago, 1 week ago or even 1 day ago.

Who you are is based on the thoughts you choose to think now. You can always begin to choose other thoughts that more accurately reflect who you want to be, now.

Your past is over and done with and need not affect you negatively at all. You can choose to let all your past experiences fuel your inner desire and let it inspire you to focus more clearly on who you now know you want to be and what you now know you want to experience. ❤


“I want to quit my job” Yes I am very sensitive – it is a gift ❤

Today I got some hurtful criticism from my boss that brought me to my knees. At first I was furious because it felt so unfair. And now I just feel sad about it.

My co-workers were so supportive of me and tried to sooth me back into feeling better. They were on my side and thought my boss had acted without taking the time to get all the facts straight first. I used to think he was a supportive boss but right now it feels far from that. Even the thought of resigning from work has occured to me tonight.

But, I will work on regaining my emotional balance again by focusing on the bigger picture. He really does mean well. He really does know I do a great job. He cares about his teachers, he wants them to feel satisfied with their work. I do feel rather good about having him as my boss. He cares a lot about his students. He wants our students to succeed and feel good. He also wants to do a good job and meet the expectations of others. I think I understand him now, I see the bigger picture. I really do value his caring and his decisiveness. 🌹

It does feel better. I feel like I can breathe again. Writing is one of the best ways I know to find relief and feel better.

  • How do you deal with criticism?

Let your negative experiences strenghten you

Why not be more light hearted about everything? Why not spend your time either appreciating something, enjoying something, seeing the humor in the situation or soothing yourself into relief – no matter what the situation might be.

You don’t have to spend your moments pointing out flaws, criticising or feeling bad about something. You don’t have to spend your life feeling guilty, blameful or sad because of some injustice that happened. You always have a choice. You can let your experiences strenghten you by focusing even more clearly on who you now know you WANT to be, how you WANT to feel and what you WANT to experience


My abortion 🌸

10 years ago I had to make the most difficult decision I have ever been forced to make. Before the experience I would never ever have even considered having an abortion. I always said “if I ever become pregnant, no matter the circumstances, I will keep it.” But there I was 10 years ago, pregnant for the first time but in a very strange situation. (Yes the father is the same father my two little babies have). I took a lot of time to consider my options because I knew he didn’t want me to keep the baby, especially since we were not even a couple back then.

It was a hard decision and I spent many days and nights crying and wanting to run far away and keep the baby and raise it by myself instead. But, eventually the decision had to be made and I chose to go through with the abortion.

It was an awful experience but I still feel I made the right decision for me at that time. I know many people think I should have kept the baby no matter the circumstances – because what right do I have to choose whether another person should live or die? If it would have happened now, I would have kept it no matter what. Do I regret the abortion? A part of me does. I am sorry it happened. Not a day goes by where I don’t think about what could have been my first baby.

However, what is done is done. The past is in the past. The mistakes and decisions I made has already been made. It is of no value to beat up on yourself for your past – make peace with it and trust that you did the best you could at the time with the understanding, awareness and knowledge you had. It is ok. If you feel guilty or if you blame someone else – forgive yourself and forgive them. We are all doing the best we can from where we stand. 

Let go of your past with love, choose to live in the now and honor your inner guidance. Move on with love and appreciation in your heart for the experience and focus on how you want to feel NOW and what you want to experience NOW.


When you drift off into your own darkness

It is ok to drift off into your own darkness from time to time. Remember to allow yourself to feel as you feel – don’t judge yourself or criticise yourself because you don’t feel good right nowchoose to back away from all the specifics of what is going on and just gently sooth and distract yourself into some relief.

It is ok to feel bad. It doesn’t make you a bad person! You are human – all emotions are valuable and they are all a big part of your experience. 

This too shall pass. Think of your emotions as the air you breathe. Sometimes you breathe in air that does not feel so good – just take a new breath of cool, clear fresh air (=relief) and you will begin to feel better again.  


Those who hurt you give you value as well 🌟



The darkness you have been through 



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