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You don’t need to rescue me, light up my darkness or even love me – I am whole on my own πŸ™

I don’t need anyone to rescue me, I learned to save myself regardless the circumstances.

I don’t need anyone to light up my darkess, I learned to shine my light from within and that light is always with me, no matter how dark it gets.

I don’t even need someone to love me anymore, I learned how to be one who loves. True love is an inside job, and it has to be unconditional.

I don’t need anyone to complete me, I learned that I am whole on my own. If I choose to be with you, I do so because I want to be with you. You are someone I enjoy being with, someone I like a lot and someone who enhances my joy, my passion and my desire that I already feel, on my own.

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No matter how hopeless and hard it might seem, you CAN feel better again

When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.

– Helen Keller

Ok, so life has been hard on you? Someone hurt you? You lost someone you love? You lost everything that mattered to you? No matter what happened to you or how bad it feels, you can do something about how you feel, and that will make all the difference in what you attract from here on.

Of course it is easier to just feel sorry for yourself, complain and remain in your negative doubt – but that attitude will just keep you stuck in your misery! Improvements come when you let go of your old ways of thinking and you embrace a more hopeful way of thinking, regarding all topics.

What happened has already happened, your negative attitude about it will only prolong your pain. You can feel better, no matter how hopeless and hard it might seem. All it takes is a willingness to feel better and a choice to stop beating yourself up with that negative attitude of yours. The only one you truly hurt with your resentment is yourself, the only life you ruin with your complaining is your own.

A change in your attitude, in the thoughts you choose, about everything, will bring on a change in your emotional state. When you have achieved an improved emotional state – what you attract to yourself will improve as well. 🌹

Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it.

Helen Keller

I accept the pain, I make peace with it and I choose to fill my heart, my mind and my body with love once again πŸ™

I will no longer let the pain cloud my vision

I will no longer let my dissatisfaction sadden my heart

I will no longer let my raging insecurity roam free

I choose to accept where I have been, what has happened and where I am right now. I accept it and I make peace with it.

I choose to let kindness, hope and trust sooth me and I choose to fill my heart, my mind and my body with love once again.

Too kind, too trusting and too forgiving? No, these are really beautiful personality traits πŸ™β€οΈ

Yesterday something happened that made me stop and think. I did something really kind for someone else, I helped a person who was in need and he became so grateful and happy. But afterwards it dawned on me – I did not think about my own security when I helped him. What had happened if he had wanted to hurt me? I was alone with this person for almost 30 minutes and I had forgotten to bring my phone and only one other person knew where I was and who I was with.

Of course I thought this person was kind, respectful and friendly… But I really don’t know this person. For me it came naturally. He was in need, asked for my help because he had no one who could help him right then and there. My first thought was of course I want to help you, I want things to go well for you – and it turned out great. I helped him and he succeeded.

Is there such a thing as being too kind, too trusting and too forgiving? My co-worker thinks I am too kind. Maybe she is right but I really don’t want to change who I am. I believe in the goodness in people. I believe everyone just wants to feel good at their core. If people hurt others, drink, take drugs, argue, rape, beat or take any other negative actions – I believe they do so because they are only acting out their own inner pain, their own misaligned energy. We are all good people on the inside at our core and I will always believe people can change if they want to. I forgive with all my heart because I don’t judge, I try to see the broader picture.

My kind heart has brought me so far in life and given me so much joy. And yes, I have also been in situations that were awful and that almost broke me. But I don’t believe my kind heart is to blame, I believe my kind heart is the reason why I have overcome and found my way back to happiness again.

So yes, while I probably should be more careful around people I don’t know, I will continue to believe in the goodness in others and their intention while at the same time listening to my own guidance.

Can you forgive the one who hurt you?


Forgiving someone is an inside job. The one who hurt you might not even be sorry for what he did – he might even have a desire to hurt you again, but you can choose to forgive him unconditionally.

Why would you forgive him? Because, holding on to the resentment by not forgiving him will do you more damage then letting it go. Forgive him because you know everyone has goodness within them. Forgive him because it will bring you relief. Forgive him because you want to grow from this and become happy again.

So yes, you can forgive him. And no, it does not mean you have to see him again or like him – the forgiving part is for you, a step towards making peace with what ever happened and move on.

Make peace with it and set yourself free

No matter what he did to you, no matter how much he hurt you – hating him for what he did to you will only intensify your own suffering.

Once you begin to find it in your heart to forgive him – even though he is not even sorry for what he did – you have begun to let go of the pain.

You don’t need to understand why he hurt you, you don’t need his apology. YOU can choose to forgive him unconditionally, YOU can choose to make peace with it and YOU can choose to move on.

He temporarily dimmed your light, but your light burns from within – choose to love yourself through this and soon you will feel your light burn stronger than ever before. One small step at a time. Even after a long, cold winter the beautiful spring flowers still choose to bloom again.

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