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Why would such a beautiful girl like me hate myself for over 30 years and have no self-esteem? Here is why:

I got such a brilliant question today and here is my answer:

I grew up with an alcoholic father and my parents mentally abused me. I was sexually abused when I was 6 years old by 3 older guys, I was bullied in school, had reading and writing difficulties, had no friends, developed anorexia (an eating disorder) when I was 9 years old, had no friends during my entire school years, was raped by two guys when I was 17, ran away from home two weeks after that because my father’s alcohol abuse was insane and my parents were so verbally mean to me, I ran straight into the arms of a guy who physically and mentally abused me for over two years until he was sentenced to prison for it. During this time my mother died. I had to go through the two trials all alone – I had no one. I was completely alone, no friends and no one in the world that I could talk to. I did not want to live anymore – I even tried to take my own life. Then my father died, I got pregnant and had to make an abortion…and the man of my dreams cheated on me and lied about it for over a year until the truth came out in the most painful way ever… somewhere there, around the age of 24, I decided that enough is enough and I chose to change my thinking. I started working on liking myself. I did it all by myself – I never told ANYONE about any of these things that happened to me in my childhood/teenage years. It was not until I was almost 30 years old I began talking about it.

So, I guess this answers your question on why such a beautiful girl like me, hated myself for almost 30 years and had absolutely no self-esteem 🤣❤

How you FEEL has nothing to do with the way you look. I had my desired, dream body, but I hated myself and had no self-esteem for almost 30 years. Beauty does not mean confidence. You cant see how you feel, it is 100% about your own thinking – and you CAN do something about that. If I could, all by myself, anyone can. 🌹❤

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30 years of hating myself ❤

A friend triggered me into thinking a little this morning. I realized that after having spent around 30 years absolutely hating myself and hating my entire body and face – hating everything about me – I still have a long way to go. 🌟

But I will not give up, I am still on my journey, it is a never ending journey. Some days I feel better about myself and some days I don’t. I am making slow and steady progress. It is all in my head, all about my thoughts, and I have already come such a long way! 10 years ago I was a completely different person (even though I looked exactly the same ). These things cannot be seen, it is an insecurity within.

How to move on from these unwanted experiences and feel good again ❤🌱

You feel the way you do because you think the way you do – and you can do something about that!

You are never limited by your past, present or future experiences – the only thing that limits you is your own thinking about your past, present and future experiences – and you can do something about that!

Realise the amazing potential to feel good that you have – right now. No matter what you have been through or what you are going through. You can’t change the past but you can change how you view it, and that will make all the difference.

There is value and benefit with everything that happens – everything can inspire you to focus more clearly on what you now know you desire and prefer as a result of this experience. How do you WANT to FEEL? Who do you WANT to BE? What do you WANT to DO?

The potential for happiness is within you, always. It truly is an inside job. Sure, it is easier to feel good when everything goes your way but there is no skill in just looking around and reaching to what happens! True skill, true freedom and true empowerment is when things are not going the way you want them to and you choose to focus on the value, you choose to be selective in your focus and you choose to let all these unwanted things inspire you to now focus more on what you now know you desire and prefer instead. That takes skill and that is the answer to how you move on and find value in everything.

Never give up! It is never too late, there is always hope ❤

Today I did it. I told the story of my life – about all the difficulties I have been through and how I turned my life around – for a room full of co-workers. I was so nervous I was shaking as I began, but I managed brilliantly to tell the whole story without crying.

This is the first time I have told my whole story to more than just one or two people at the same time. Afterwards I felt so much relief. To finally be able to speak up for myself, to tell my story and share these dark moments that I have kept hidden within for over three decades now. So powerful.

Never give up. No matter what you have been through in your life or how difficult it might seem at the moment, you can feel good again because you can improve your thinking and therefore you can improve every aspect of your life. ❤

Wake up, live life intentionally – like you love yourself!

I will be silenced no more. No more hiding the truth in order to protect my abusers. I left my insecurities a long time ago, I will never go back.

I will be silenced no more. No more protecting my abusers in order to sooth them. No more. I left all guilt and blame a long time ago.

I will be silenced no more. I will never again blame myself when someone tries to hurt me – I left my self-doubt and self-hatred a long time ago.

I will rise from the ashes, more free, more empowered, more confident, more at peace, more loving, more beautiful and stronger than ever before.

I will no longer bleed in silence. I will no longer cry in silence. I embrace all that I am – past, present and future – with love. I am ready. ❤

I got an exciting assignment at work 😊

Today I went back to work again, and one of my bosses asked me to do something really exciting: She wanted me to talk to all her teachers at a meeting next week. She wanted me to tell them my story, what I have been through and how I managed to turn my entire life around. How cool!

I really look forward to this! I feel so blessed to have such caring bosses that really value me and my talents. I feel so appreciated. 💖

Let all your past experiences fuel your inner desire

You are under no obligation to be the same person you were 10 years ago, 1 year ago, 1 month ago, 1 week ago or even 1 day ago.

Who you are is based on the thoughts you choose to think now. You can always begin to choose other thoughts that more accurately reflect who you want to be, now.

Your past is over and done with and need not affect you negatively at all. You can choose to let all your past experiences fuel your inner desire and let it inspire you to focus more clearly on who you now know you want to be and what you now know you want to experience. ❤

2 500 followers and 550 000 views on my blog 😍

My purpose with my blog is to share what I did to turn my life around. This is where I share my thoughts and my beliefs – all the things I wish someone had told me before all my difficulties began. ❤ I want you to know that no matter what you have been through in your life or how difficult it might seem at the moment, you CAN improve your thinking and therfore improve your entire life.

❤ Thank you all for liking, commenting and sharing my posts. ❤ It feels so good to write and post here, this is my safe haven, and it feels even better that so many of you feel inspired by my posts. 🌹🌹🌹

Those who lash out in anger ❤

Let your heart radiate love where ever you go. When you are met with hatred and anger, let it fuel your love even further.

You don’t have to tell them you love them, just feel it in your heart, embrace the feeling and allow your love to flow abundantly.

Those who lash out in anger are hurting within, they need to feel loved the most. Even if they are not aware of it. It is not your job to make them feel better, however you can be one who loves, one who loves unconditionally. Love heals everything, love is the answer to all questions – love is everything. ❤

It is the answer to every problem and every challenge you are faced with ❤

Especially when you are going through a lot of difficulties. Maybe you have made some mistakes or you have some health issues – now is the time to be extra kind and loving towards yourself.

Show yourself unconditional love no matter what is going on around you and no matter what is going on with your own body. You could be far from the body you desire, your skin could be freaking out all over your face, you could be far from the beauty you want to experience – it does not matter. LOVE is the answer to every problem and every difficuly. Choose to look at yourself and everything else through eyes of love. Look for things you like in everyone – including yourself.

Beauty, happiness, satisfaction in life… it all starts with love, and it shines from within. Let your love radiate stronger and stronger with each passing day. Make every day a day to fall deeper in love with yourself and all of life. This is your life, you were created to be exactly as you are – and you are magnificent – of course you are loved and adored by all that is! It is time for you to embrace this love and allow yourself to feel it.❤❤❤

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