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All those things you are trying to hide are actually your most beautiful and unique features ❤️

Accepting yourself and how you look might take time, even several decades. It took me + 30 years to begin to like myself.

All those things you are trying to hide are actually your most beautiful and unique features.

I feel deeply, I am very sensitive and emotional. I now consider it a strenght. When I am sad, I am in deep despair. When I love, I love passionatly. When I am happy, I feel high on life. If I care about you, I truly deeply CARE about you. I feel everything, and that is one of my greatest strenghts.

I have snow white skin, all year round. I am out in the sun, playing with my babies sometimes 7-10 hours a day during the summer, yet my skin shines as brightly as silky white snow. I now consider this one of my beautiful, unique features. I love the contrast between my snow white skin, my blonde hair and the colorful clothes that I love to wear, (especially red clothes). It is such a beautiful contrast.

I used to hate wearing pants when I was a teenager because my legs and my butt never really fitted into the pants I tried on. My butt were always too big and my legs were always too long – but now I consider this one of my most loved features. I am very curvy, naturally, and very fit. I love my body shape! I adore wearing tight pants, skirts and dresses that highlight my beautiful curves.

I no longer try to hide who I am, I embrace all aspects of me and I practice self love and self acceptance every day. It has changed my entire way of looking at myself. It made me go from hating myself and having no self esteem what so ever, to actually loving myself exactly as I am. ❤️

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You have a right to thrive, to laugh, to enjoy and to love – and so do I 🙏

I no longer hide. I have a right to thrive, to laugh, to enjoy and to love. I will no longer let people’s opinions of me define me. I choose who I want to be and I choose to blossom into everything I desire. I follow my heart, my joy, my passion and my desire.

A confession from a people pleaser

It has been a really good day at work today. But a really good question came to my mind – why do I feel bad when I don’t do as others want me to? I always feel guilty when I have to turn someone down or say no. But why?

I talked about this with a co-worker today and she said to me that concidering all the negative things I have been through in my life, I should definitely start valuing myself and my needs more than what others say, think, want or do. She is so right.

Logically I know I have to listen to how I feel and what I want – and I do, some of the times, but not often enough. I am sick and tired of feeling guilty when I have to say no.

We are all equal beings, my desires, wishes and needs are just as important as anyone else’s. I will no longer satisfy the needs of those around at the cost of my own wellbeing. I will respect and value my opinion and I will honor my desires as well – I will say no when it feels off to me and I no longer take responsibility for other people’s happiness or sadness. No more. It is not my job – how you feel is your job. How I feel is my job. I will take better care of myself from now on.

Make your own “fuck-it list”

1) Stop caring about what other people think – this is your life and if you want to feel good you have to care about how you feel and what YOU want.

2) Start valuing yourself – listen to what calls you, live out your good-feeling desires and again, care about how you feel.

3) Don’t feel embarressed or ashamed! Do what you want, be playful and allow yourself to enjoy the fun in life.

4) Don’t create a home and a lifestyle to fit in to the expectations of others – you don’t have to live and do as others want you to, you don’t have to own a house, a car, get married or have children if that doesn’t call you! You don’t have to have the perfect garden or the biggest cleanest house either! Allow yourself a fun and satisfying lifestyle!

5) Fuck the “you have to be proper” mentality! Wear the sexy dress, enjoy your body and live out your joys, your passions and your desires.

6) Stop comparing yourself to others – allow yourself to be inspired by others while you love and honor yourself in all ways possible. Allow yourself to be you in all ways that please you.

7) Stop the self hatred and self criticism!!! Just stop all the negative thinking and all the negative conversations about yourself and gently replace that with better feeling thoughts about yourself. Make it your life goal to learn to love yourself unconditionally. No matter what you look like, what you have been through or what you have done – you can learn to love yourself and that will make all the difference.

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Most importantly – don’t follow other people’s lists or advice blindly – listen to your own inner guidance.

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