Posted at 10:24 am , on September 20, 2019
Your healing journey is yours to make. No one else needs to understand you, approve of how you feel or approve of how you choose to deal with things. Your previous experiences are very different from their previous experiences and therefore how you react to what happens to you might be very different from how they might react if the same thing happened to them. They cannot possibly know how you feel. Not even a little bit. They might try to logically understand how you feel as they listen to you – but trust me, they cannot even understand 1% of how you feel.
If they try to comfort you and be there for you – that is nice. But don’t depend on them on your healing journey because the cannot possibly understand. All they can do is be there for you, care about you and love you unconditionally.
The same goes for those who have bad intentions for you, those who want to hurt you again, those who belittle you and disapprove of you – first off, they don’t care about you – let that be enough. Why would you care about their words, thoughts and actions when you know they don’t even care about you to begin with? Lovingly let them be.
This is your healing journey, do what makes you feel better. If it makes you feel relief, it is good for you.
Posted at 2:07 pm , on September 16, 2019
All you have to do today is be yourself. Relax. You cannot get it wrong, because all you ever have to do is be yourself. Don’t worry about what others might or might not think about you, this is your life and how you feel has to be your number one priority.
Stop trying to be a people pleaser, stop trying to sooth everyone else – stop caring so much about what others say, think or do. Listen to your body and follow what feels like relief to you – and allow yourself to be true to you, be as much “you” as you can be.
You are the most important person in your life, so start taking good care of yourself and make yourself your number one priority.
Posted at 7:46 am , on September 13, 2019
You are not limited by your past experiences. You are not damaged or broken just because someone hurt you in your past. All wounds heal if you only relax and allow it. But just like a physical wound, if you keep touching the wound, it will not heal. You touch your mental wound every time you belittle yourself, criticize yourself, doubt yourself, blame yourself or put yourself down.
Your body and mind will heal naturally with time if you just relax and allow yourself to feel as you feel, without judgement. It is ok to feel afraid, sad, insecure, guilty, blameful, angry and all other unwanted emotions you might be feeling. It is ok to go from debilitating sadness to raging anger – don’t condemn yourself for getting angry – embrace all your emotions. They are natural reactions to unnatural circumstances. When you allow yourself to feel as you feel it is easier for your body to process what happened to you and heal the wound.
It is true that you can become stronger as a person because of all the hurt and pain you have gone through. The happiest of people can be the one who has experienced the most sadness. The most confident of people can be the one who was debilitatingly insecure for so long. Your past experiences can all enrich your life and inspire you to build your strength – it is a matter of attitude and perspective which you can change if you want to.