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When someone argues with you – it is 100% about the beholder ๐Ÿ™

“If someone is arguing with you, or finding fault with you, and not liking what they see, say to them, and mean it lovingly and kindly, but mean it sincerely, “You’re seeing something in me, that must be active in you, and I think this is more about you, than it is about me”.

So if someone is having a bad day, and they are angry at you, it’s about their bad day, much more than it is about you. It’s always about the beholder. Everything is about the beholder.

So what you want to do is become more aware of what you’re seeing in others. That’s the thing you want to be aware of. Don’t worry about what other people are seeing in you. Don’t worry about the love they’re giving you, or the love they’re not giving you. Let your awareness be about what you’re putting out. Let your awareness be about how much you’re loving.

We wouldn’t be running around saying: ‘who loves me or who doesn’t love me?’, we’d be saying: ‘who do I love, what is it about you, that I love?'”

Abraham Hicks, Washington, D.C. 5/10/08

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Be who you want to be, those who matter won’t mind ๐Ÿฅฐ

Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind donโ€™t matter, and those who matter donโ€™t mind.”

– Bernard M. Baruch

Isn’t that a wonderful way to look at it? It can be so reliefgiving to realize that you don’t have to change who you are in order to be loved – you are already loved as you are.

If you feel you have to change your ways in order for them to like you – they are not your friends. A friend loves you as you are, where you are and how ever you feel. No changes are needed if it is true friendship.

Shake loose from their judging gaze and set yourself free ๐ŸŒผ

Let them stare, let them wonder. Let them gossip, let them judge.

When you find it in your heart to forgive them unconditionally, you set yourself free.

You don’t need their approval, you don’t need their validation. Nor do you need their love. Let them be, shake loose from their judging eyes and focus on being there for yourself, supporting yourself and loving yourself unconditionally.

Lovingly say โ€œfuck this shitโ€ and live happily ever after

It is so beneficial for you to learn to prioritize. When people are mean to you, choose to walk away. When people say hurtful things about you, let them ruin their own energy โ€“ choose to focus on people who support you and appreciate you instead.

There is no value in pushing against, trying to defend yourself or trying to prove to them that you are innocent โ€“ they donยดt really care about you. They care about their own misalignment, that is why they are so drawn to putting others down and hurting others โ€“ it makes them feel better for a moment. They depend on others in order to feel better which is insanely debilitating. Why would you ever let their own insecurities and misaligned energy be a reason for you to feel bad as well? Donยดt give them that satisfaction, take your power back by realizing you are the only one in charge of your focus, your perspective and therefore you are the only one in charge of how you feel.

All things that bother you are insignificant relative to what really matters in life! Just say โ€ fuck this shitโ€, and live happily ever after.

Just say no – trust your instinct

Don’t trust everything they say, trust your instinct. If it feels off, it is off. Back away, say no. Respect yourself by listening to what feels right to you. They might try to convince you, they might even get angry when you say no – but you have to be true to yourself and how you feel. Never ever put your inner guidance aside in order to please another person – just say no.

Be who YOU want to be

Dare to be YOU, in all your uniqueness. Let your colors shine bright, follow your calling in life and live out your passionate desires.

Life is way too meaningful to just live in order to please others, so stop! You don’t have to fit in or choose the same things as society at large does – you have to listen to what calls YOU and follow YOUR bliss. Don’t be afraid of their opinions, you don’t need their approval or disapproval in order to know how to live your life! Live life in ways that please you and that make you happy. That is how you live a meaningful, happy and fulfilling life.

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