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He left you? You are a complete masterpiece all by yourself!

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Those who hurt you are of immense value and help you on your journey ❤

Love NEVER hurts

Love does not hurt – insecurity does, sadness does, anxiety does, anger does, jealousy does… but LOVE only feels good.

When you feel love you feel utter bliss. You feel happy, free and empowered. Anything less than that is not love. Even if you blame the other person for how much you are hurting, it is blame, sadness and those other negative emotions you feel. Not love. Love only feels good.

You might temporarily be tuned out of the frequency of love – that is why it feels so bad, because you LOVE to love and you WANT to love. And when conditions turn up that makes it hard for you to feel love in your heart, of course it will feel bad! But the negative feeling is never caused by love. Ever.

There is an even better way to love someone than most people are practicing: to love unconditionally. If you can truly master this you will not be so easily swept off into jealousy, insecurity, anger, sadness or any other negative emotion you might be very used to fall back into. You will have a stable centre of love, you will see through the eyes of love and you will see value in every situation. Maybe not all the time, but you will easily get back into your place of love when you fall off. Most importantly – you will never blame any one else for how you feel – you will realize that how you feel is your job. Love is an inside job just like happiness. ❤

Someone who hurts you – a rare and precious treasure ❤

“To meet someone who really hurts you, is to meet a rare and precious treasure. Hold that person in high esteem, and make full use of the opportunity to eradicate your defects and make progress on the path. If you cannot yet feel love and compassion for those who treat you badly, it is a sign that your mind has not been fully transformed, and that you need to keep working on it with increased application.”

– Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche

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This is an interesting view on how to see your difficulties. Everything can be of value and everything can inspire you to become stronger as a person. You can find value in everything that happens to you – including the behaviour of others – especially those who treat you badly.

Those who love you and always approve of you and what you do don’t teach you to love unconditionally. They are just easy to appreciate and love because they act in loving ways. But those who behave in deterimental ways, they are your true inspirers and teachers of unconditional love and unconditional happiness. If you can find your way to love again and to feel happy again – even though they did this awful thing now you are free. You don’t need them to behave in ways that please you, in order to feel pleased. What an empowered gift! ❤❤❤

The secret to all improvements you desire – spend your time in the most benefical way


Make the best of where ever you are and what ever is happening. Choose to sooth yourself in your mind, find your calm within. 

When you take time to relax mentally, to find reliefgiving thoughts on what ever the topic at hand might be – now you are taking care of yourself in a valuable way. This will improve how you feel, how you view life and it will also improve every aspect of your life!

Inner stress – no matter how right you are in your negative feelings about the situation – is never benefical to your body or for your life. Releasing the inner stress by choosing reliefgiving perspectives little by little is the secret to all improvements you desire.

He was unfaithful – how did I feel better again?

8 years ago I found out by accident that my boyfriend had been with another girl – and that he had lied about it for more than a year. At first I became totally emotionally numb for like 6 months. Then I started caring more about ME, what was important for me, how I wanted to FEEL. I completely let go of trying to control anything and focused more on general principles like “I want to be with a man who loves me, adores me, is attracted to me and truly wants to be with me” “if he leaves, then he is not a match to what I want anyway – I want someone who WANTS to be with me, only me” – I still have that attitude. 

Do I really want to live in a relationship where I have to control what he does, who he is with etc? No – I want to be with someone who WANTS to be with me. If he wants to be with me there is no need to second guess anything because it is ME he WANTS. 

We can’t force someone to treat us as we want them to – we can know how we want to be treated and know there are men out there who can gives us just that. Just like there are men who loves to be with more than one girl, there are men who loves to be with only one girl

Don’t give up on love or happiness just because of infidelity. It can be your opportunity to tune in to who YOU want to be, how YOU want to FEEL and it can be a golden opportunity for you to start loving yourself unconditionally. Yes, it can be your opportunity to find your way into your own freedom and empowerment. Whether you stay or go is irrelevant, you can do this either way. ❤

The most beautiful, powerful magic

Those who hurt you give you value as well 🌟

Everyone in your life is of value

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