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Treat yourself with kindness and respect ❤

Just take gentle baby steps. Think of each day as a new opportunity to love yourself more and be kinder to yourself. One thing at a time, not only one day at a time but one hour and even one moment at a time.

Release all stress, all worry, all insecurity and all fear and lovingly fill your mind with thoughts of kindness and love. Think thoughts that bring you relief, like:

I honor myself, I care about how I feel, I listen to my body’s messages with love, I treat myself with kindness and respect. I am doing the best I can in each moment, given the beliefs, desires, awareness, knowledge I have and the emotional place I am in at the time. I am doing alright, I am doing ok. One step at a time. I am lovingly supporting myself every step of the way.

When they disapprove of you and you feel sad

Allow yourself some time to sooth yourself into feeling better as soon as you feel a little off. Perhaps a comment from someone, expectations from others or something you have done has triggered you to feel bad about yourself and your life. It is ok! It is alright. It is only natural to lose your emotional balance when you listen to or look at things that don’t match how you desire them to be. That is ok. The important part now is that you make peace with where you are, make peace with your body, make peace with your health, make peace with your love life, make peace with your family, make peace with your job, make peace with all your mistakes, make peace with everything. Just mentally make peace with it and lovingly sooth yourself into feeling better. Making peace with it is the first step, the second one is to start caring about how you feel and making yourself a top priority.

Take a moment to just sit down, relax, close your eyes, take a deep breath and remind yourself of what really matters in life. What really matters is how you feel. You have to take care of yourself! Make yourself a priority, the top priority in your life. Be kind, gentle and loving towards yourself, treat yourself like someone you truly love. When you look at yourself, look for things to appreciate. When you think about what you have done – know that you are always doing the best you can given the emotional place, awareness, knowledge and understanding you have at the time. You are enough! You are loved! You are beautiful! You are talented.

It is right for you to listen to your heart, to follow the paths in life that feel best to you. It is right for you to choose what makes you happy, to choose the things that feel meaningful to you. They don’t need to approve of you and what you do, but you do.

Listen with love today ❤

It is not your job to fix everything for everyone else. When they come to you with their problems and difficult situations – just listen with love.

In your mind you can think about how much they mean to you and how much you want their situation to clear up in the most beautiful way. Keep thinking about how you want them to feel and if the timing is right, you will be inspired to speak and what you say will be benefical for them.

Don’t rush, just listen with love and think about how you want them to feel and what you want them to experience. 🌹

It is alright ❤

One of my favourite quotes ❤

“But there is so much pain, suffering and anger in this world”

Someone has to begin spreading the love, and it might as well be you.

Someone has to begin looking for things that are working, things to appreciate and things to value – and it might as well be you.

Someone has to look beyond the suffering, beyond the pain, beyond the anger and see the potential for improvements, happiness and love – and it might as well be you.

Someone has to believe, someone has to be hopeful, someone has to love unconditionally and feel good unconditionally – and it might as well be you.

You can’t rid the world of darkness by condemning it, complaining about it and keep focusing on it – you allow your own inner light to shine, and you have brought light to your part of your world. Others can see your light and some might be inspired to light their own light. But someone has to start – and it might as well be you. 🌟

Being nice and polite is not always right – a painful childhood memory

This is something I have never written about before, and only a few people know about this. When I was around 7 years old I loved taking my teddy bear (actually a panda) out for a walk in my red toy-stroller. My parents allowed me to walk around the block alone, which only took 5-10 minutes. One cold but sunny day when I was out doing this, all alone, a foreign man approached me. I guess he was around 45-50 years old, dark hair and tall. It all happened so quickly. He gestured toward me that he wanted me to come to him, and I wanted to be polite so I obeyed. When I was close to him everything about him changed, he quickly placed his hands on either side of my face and forced my face close to his and kissed me. I still remember his tongue pressing into my mouth and the strong minty flavour of his mouth. I panicked, I was trapped and I didn’t know what to do. No one was around, no one saw us. His car was just a few meters away and he grabbed my hand saing “come” and gently tried to pull me to his car. Somehow I managed to get my hand back, shook my head no and began walking very quickly in the direction of my home. He called after me, as I turned my head to look at him, he gave me a blow kiss in the air and he still gestured that he wanted me to come back to him. I soon began running and tears were streaming down my face. I told my mother what happened the minute I got home and she rushed out to our car and went to find this man. She never did. She went to the police but they never found him either.

In this situation I tried to be nice and polite. I stopped when he approached me and wanted to talk to me. I didn’t scream, kick or bite – I was too chocked and afraid to do anything.

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The event that happened tonight with the old man who has begun stalking me and who approached me in an uncomfortable way two days ago triggered this memory to return.

Not once did I write about this in my book or on my blog. I think I have only told this to two or three people, and it was probably 10 years ago.

There are millions of memories in my past, just like this one, that I never speak of. I tell people about some of the other things that have happened to me, like that my father was an alcoholic, that I was sexually abused at the age of 6 by three older boys, that I was bullied in school, had reading/writing difficulties, had anorexia, was raped by two boys when I was 17, ran away from home, lived in an abusive relationship for almost two years, my mother died when I was 18, my father died a few years after that and much more.

I kept all these things a secret within me the first 20-something years of my life. Never told anyone what was happening to me. Now that I have begun sharing my story a little (I am 34 years old now) I realize there are so many more pieces in this puzzle, so many more events that I have kept hidden for so long.

It actually feels refreshing to get it out in the open and finally letting it go. I will no longer carry these heavy secrets within my heart, I will let them go and finally be free. ❤ Stay tuned for more memories that I will let go of – which I may choose to share, or not. In either case I will no longer keep them hidden within me, I will open my heart and set them free.

I will no longer sacrify my own wellbeing in order to be kind, polite and well-behaved. I refuse to fit in, I refuse to be ashamed, I refuse to feel guilty, I refuse to blame. Instead I embrace myself, trust myself, value myself, honor myself, support myself and love myself in the process of letting these memories go.

Thank you dear rascal for triggering this memory in me, thank you for inspiring me to once and for all stop being so bloody nice and start valuing and trusting my instinct. 🌹

❤ Let go of your self-imposed limitations ❤

Be like a playful, happy child! Imagine more, day dream, enjoy the little things more, allow yourself to have fun and dream big! Let go of your self-imposed limitations and remind yourself that anything is possible!!! Not even the sky is the limit, your own mind is.

Open up your mind, be more kind to yourself, decide to start liking yourself again! Show yourself love, kindness, appreciation and support.

Know that you are safe, you are beautifully guided and you are loved and adored simply because you exist.

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