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The key to a joyful, fullfilling life ❤

Give up your anger, your frustration and your complaining. Just give it up.

With every negative word you speak you are pushing against yourself – so just give it up.

Allow yourself to enjoy more, allow yourself to have more fun. Allow yourself to be more playful and easy going. And most importantly: allow yourself to feel good now, without any of the conditions around you changing.

That truly is the key to a joyful, fulfilling life. To be able to choose to feel good unconditionally. When you are able to feel good – no matter the circumstances – the circumstances will change to match your inner emotional state as well. ❤

Practice the pause and find your strenght again 💙

Sometimes all you need is a pause. A short moment when you pause your words and pause your thoughts. A moment to just breathe and relax mentally.

Just a moment of pausing can be enough to stop the negative momentum which will make it easier for you to start a more reliefgiving momentum.

Begin practicing the pause, several times every day. The more you practice the easier it will feel.

Abuse comes from inner pain 💖

I believe there is goodness everywhere. I believe everyone has goodness within. Evil deeds and hate come from people who are also hurting within. But the pain when you are hurting within can only be relieved when you do something about your own thinking. But most people are so consumed by this pain and feel so powerless in their perspective that they lash out in anger or become deeply depressed.

Many people turn to substances, food or harmful behaviour in order to numb their own inner pain. But the numbness is only temporary – the way to allow your mind and body to heal is by changing your thinking. That is where lasting change happens.

It is not a quick fix, it takes time and patience. One little step at a time. But it is possible to change. A habit is only a belief you have been practicing – and a belief is only a thought. The little daily thoughts have more impact on you, your habits, your limitations and your opportunities than you can even begin to imagine. When you start with the thoughts, you start at the root of the visible problem. That is where you find the solution. A little shift goes a long way. 💖

When your kids have 100 meltdowns a day – how do you keep your emotional stability?

🤣 This is such a fun topic. Little did I know before I had kids that they would help me find a more stable emotional place so clearly.

As an example. Today I went to the grocery store with my two babies, aged 3 and 2. From the moment we left our house until we came back I think they had 20-30 complete meltdowns, each. 🤣 I don’t know why they do that some days, other days they can be as cool as a cucumber the entire time we are out shopping.

I was pretty stable emotionally when we took off but I really had to pause a few times in the grocery store to find some emotional relief. Two kids laying down on the floor in the store, lots of people stopping and staring while my two little angels scream and cry… How do you survive that? 🤣 Well. It is ok to have emotions and some people (not just kids) might be a bit more intense than others and some days might be a little bit worse than other days.

Am I a bad mom? Sure feels that way from time to time during my days – it is not easy sometimes. But I do my very best. On days like these I do my very best to sooth myself in my mind, remain calm and stable as I speak to my kids. Does it work? Sometimes. After 10 minutes they were pretty ok. They were happy and pleased until the next tantrum happened and so on.

I see my kids as a blessing. I love them with all my heart and I know they are the best teachers in my life when it comes to teaching unconditional love, unconditional happiness and unconditional relief. Now that is an excellent gift!

Of course today was a “worst case scenario” some would say but you could also see it as an incredibly important learning experience for both them and me. They learned that no matter how much they act out, I will remain stable and confident in my intention – ‘we are going to go grocery shopping and you are going to help me’. And they did. They had one cart each and helped me look for the products we were going to buy. We had a lot of fun, they smiled and laughed a lot.

I gave them a lot of positive feedback on what they did really well and at the end of the trip we talk about how fun it had been and how well they had helped me out. 💖 It is all one step at a time. Not only one day at a time or an hour at a time, sometimes a moment at a time.

How to turn your life around

This is a matter of focus and a skill you can begin practicing right now. Even if it feels like the world around you is falling apart find one little thing that feels good to you and give that all your attention.

Don’t get stuck in telling everybody about your problems and your hard times. It is OK if you do so but start practicing this new habit of giving wanted things more of your attention. Just a little bit of effort in directing your focus will work magic in your life. There are more than one side to everything and you can choose perspectives that bring you relief regarding all topics.

Let your negative experiences strenghten you

Why not be more light hearted about everything? Why not spend your time either appreciating something, enjoying something, seeing the humor in the situation or soothing yourself into relief – no matter what the situation might be.

You don’t have to spend your moments pointing out flaws, criticising or feeling bad about something. You don’t have to spend your life feeling guilty, blameful or sad because of some injustice that happened. You always have a choice. You can let your experiences strenghten you by focusing even more clearly on who you now know you WANT to be, how you WANT to feel and what you WANT to experience

“How can I deal with these challenging situations?”

No matter how things temporarily might look, you can always calm your mind and find emotional relief. That really is the key because if you can find emotional relief, then you will open yourself up to the solutions and opportunities that are always available for you.

 

It is never hopeless, it is never too late, you are never too far awayyou can ALWAYS calm your mind and find emotional relief. Maybe not in the very second you are screaming with anger at someone, but you can back away from the situation physically and mentally afterwards. And the more you practice calming your mind and finding relief when you are on your own, the easier it will be to calm you mind and find relief next time – before you get to the screaming part.


Be patient with yourself. This is just like going to the gym  – you have to practice before it becomes easier and you can lift more heavy weights (=deal with more challenging situations).

 

Give yourself time, sooth yourself and lovingly keep reaching for emotional relief when you are on your own. Work on finding your balance and strengthen thoughts and beliefs you want to nurture. Your emotions, your thoughts and beliefs affect your action, your response and therefore everything that happens to you. A little relief-practice will net you wonderful results in your life. Take your power back and begin practice today, right now.

How do you deal with your panic attacks and your anxiety?

Ever since I was a little girl I have had flashes of panic attacks and days filled with anxiety, sometimes several days in a row, every week. 

When I grew up I had no idea how to handle these awful, intense feelings and it resulted in a lot of anger and depression. Back then I also felt like a powerless victim to everything that happened to me… my alcoholic father, the bullying, my eating disorders, the sexual abuse, the physical abuse, the death of my parents… everything just added to my panic attacks and my anxiety.

It was not until I was 24 years old that I – completely on my own – began improving how I felt about myself and how I handled my mood swings. Little by little I began liking myself and I developed a strong, beautiful self esteem. 

From that point on everything in my life improved as well. I got a job I loved, met an amazing man and my self-esteem continued to grow stronger and stronger. It took time but I managed to go from feeling like a powerless victim to feeling like an empowered woman.

However, my panic attacks and my anxiety is still with me every week. Even though I have the body of my dreams, two little babies, a job I love and an amazing boyfriend… I am, however, better at soothing myself once I get hit with theses awful emotions, and I am an expert at hiding how I feel at work and so on… but the feelings are still as intense as when I was a little girl. 

Some days, like today, I feel no desire to continue living. It is so strange because the feelings are so intense and so real… but tomorrow they might be gone again. That gives me some relief, to know that this too shall pass. Until it passes I treat myself to a lot of delicious food and play a lot with my cute little babies.

How do you handle your panic attacks and your anxiety?

Cry and scream – let the healing begin

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