How to turn your life around

This is a matter of focus and a skill you can begin practicing right now. Even if it feels like the world around you is falling apart find one little thing that feels good to you and give that all your attention.

Don’t get stuck in telling everybody about your problems and your hard times. It is OK if you do so but start practicing this new habit of giving wanted things more of your attention. Just a little bit of effort in directing your focus will work magic in your life. There are more than one side to everything and you can choose perspectives that bring you relief regarding all topics.


How can I turn my mood around?


Well, if you feel off and you really want to feel better – don´t force yourself. Be very gentle and kind to yourself. Remember that all emotions are good! You are not bad or less valuable if you feel bad today, or this week, this month, this year or if you have felt bad your entire life. It is only emotions and they are part of our human experience. No judgement in that. However, if you really want to feel better then you have to begin changing your perspective a little. How you feel is always about the perspecitive you choose to have at any given moment – the thoughts you choose to think. You don´t feel bad your entire life because of something that happened when you were six years old – you feel bad because of the thoughts you choose to think NOW. And you can change that! There are always different ways of looking at everything!

The little daily thoughts you think affect everything about you. Not only your mood, your attitude but also what you see in others, how you view the experiences you have and what actions and words you choose.

The little daily thoughts might seem insignificant but they are the most valuable keys to why you feel the way you do. If you feel sad or depressed, you have not been thinking good-feeling thoughts about yourself or your life. However, you cannot turn around all at once – but you don’t have to. It is enough that you slow the negative momentum by acknowledging that you feel bad, acknowledge that you want to feel better and then begin to sooth yourself into making peace with where you are. That is enough.

When you have made peace with where you are you have allowed yourself some relief. From there you can begin to open up your perspective in a more general way by soothing yourself further. Make yourself feel that is is ok, that how you feel is alright. Then begin to look for something that feels a little bit better to you. Perhaps you enjoyed the food you ate for lunch, perhaps you liked the sweater your co-worker was wearing today, perhaps you enjoyed that moment when a friend made you laugh, perhaps you liked the way your hair looked this morning… begin to look for little things everywhere you go that you enjoy. Make more room for those things in your mind. Let those tgood-feeling things sooth you further and begin to enjoy focusing on more things that feel good.

It is enough with gentle steps. One step at a time. There is no rush. Allow yourself some time to gently lean in a more good-feeling direction. It is enough.


How can I feel good under these awful circumstances?


How do you deal with your panic attacks and your anxiety?

Ever since I was a little girl I have had flashes of panic attacks and days filled with anxiety, sometimes several days in a row, every week. 

When I grew up I had no idea how to handle these awful, intense feelings and it resulted in a lot of anger and depression. Back then I also felt like a powerless victim to everything that happened to me… my alcoholic father, the bullying, my eating disorders, the sexual abuse, the physical abuse, the death of my parents… everything just added to my panic attacks and my anxiety.

It was not until I was 24 years old that I – completely on my own – began improving how I felt about myself and how I handled my mood swings. Little by little I began liking myself and I developed a strong, beautiful self esteem. 

From that point on everything in my life improved as well. I got a job I loved, met an amazing man and my self-esteem continued to grow stronger and stronger. It took time but I managed to go from feeling like a powerless victim to feeling like an empowered woman.

However, my panic attacks and my anxiety is still with me every week. Even though I have the body of my dreams, two little babies, a job I love and an amazing boyfriend… I am, however, better at soothing myself once I get hit with theses awful emotions, and I am an expert at hiding how I feel at work and so on… but the feelings are still as intense as when I was a little girl. 

Some days, like today, I feel no desire to continue living. It is so strange because the feelings are so intense and so real… but tomorrow they might be gone again. That gives me some relief, to know that this too shall pass. Until it passes I treat myself to a lot of delicious food and play a lot with my cute little babies.

How do you handle your panic attacks and your anxiety?



This too shall pass ♡

Just find one thing, one little thing that makes you feel better for a moment. Even in the midst of dark despair, you can still distract yourself from your negative focus by blurring the details a little and finding one little piece of something that feels like relief to you. It can be a thought like “I will get back home tonight and I look forward to getting back into my comfortable bed again” or it can be a comforting action like taking a long hot shower before you go to bed or listening to your favourite music. 

No matter what difficulties you are facing right now, remember to be your own best friend through this – comfort yourself, sooth yourself and LOVE yourself unconditionally. This too shall pass, and it will.


Stressed out? 

This is the perfect moment for you to just close your eyes for a moment, take a few deep breaths and clear your mind. 

You can choose the perspective you have on every topic. You can find more general and reliefgiving thoughts regarding everything and you can make everything feel better by soothing yourself a little. 

Remember to be kind to yourself! You are the most important person in your life, and you deserve your own unconditional love and affection.

There is no situatuon that you cannot find better feeling thoughts about – but you dont have to do it all right now. Just sooth yourself, it is enough. Take it one step at a time. It is alright. 


How can I feel love and happiness when these awful, unwanted things are happening?

Love and happiness is not about looking at despicable things and feeling love and happiness at the same time, because that is not possible love is to KNOW that if there is a question, there IS an ANSWER. 
So, if there is a problem, there IS a magnificent SOLUTION as well – and you can have the discipline to focus in the direction of the improvements, the desires and solutions. That is true love, true happiness and true empowerment.


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