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I am strong but this has shattered all the walls I have built up

The frustration is tearing me apart in the most excruciating way there is. Every waking moment, my body aches for it. I cannot find peace until I get it. Every second without it feels like a year. I am strong but this has shattered all the walls I have built up.

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This pain cuts through my heart like a blinding flash of lightning

Let me wallow in my sadness,

Let me get lost in my despair

All this pain that cuts through my heart like a blinding flash of lightning,

All this havoc in my mind like a twirling tornado

And yet faith shines eternally within me and I know that when the raging storm passes, my ocean will be calm again

When it feels so awful you can hardly breathe and you are boiling with anger, resentment and frustration

When you are in a situation that feels so awful you can hardly breathe and you are boiling with anger, resentment and frustration on the inside – how do you break this negative cycle?

The first step is to make peace with your emotions. Say things like: “This is how I feel, and that is ok. What has happened has happened, I am where I am. If I had known better I would have acted differently, but what happened happened and I choose to make peace with it.”

The second step is to acknowledge that the emotional pain you are feeling is not really about the situation itself but a product of your own thoughts and beliefs about the situation. The great part about this is that you can change your thinking about this situation and therfore you can affect how you feel. You cannot change what happened, you cannot go back in time and act differently – but you can change how you view the situation and that will make all the difference!

When you change how you view it, you will not only change how you feel but you will also prepare yourself mentally for the next time these limiting thoughts come up, so there is a valuable and strengthening bonus in this! Next time you end up in a smilar situation you will act differently because you have changed your thoughts regarding this topic.

Can you forgive the one who hurt you?


Forgiving someone is an inside job. The one who hurt you might not even be sorry for what he did – he might even have a desire to hurt you again, but you can choose to forgive him unconditionally.

Why would you forgive him? Because, holding on to the resentment by not forgiving him will do you more damage then letting it go. Forgive him because you know everyone has goodness within them. Forgive him because it will bring you relief. Forgive him because you want to grow from this and become happy again.

So yes, you can forgive him. And no, it does not mean you have to see him again or like him – the forgiving part is for you, a step towards making peace with what ever happened and move on.

When it feels like your world is falling apart ❤

Be kinder to yourself, especially when it feels like all hope is lost. When you are feeling your worst – that is when you need to be the kindest to yourself.

Other people might sooth you temporarily, but lasting soothing comes from within, and only you can do that.

Give yourself some credit, you have survived every day of your life so far – even though it has been very hard at times. You are stronger than you think. It is easy to give up, it is easy to feel sad and broken when everything is falling apart – but it doesn’t make things better!

No matter what happened, you have to realize that you are always doing the best you can, given the beliefs, desires and emotional state you are in. So don’t beat up on yourself over what happened – be kinder to yourself! Sooth yourself! Make peace with your past and your present, see each new moment as a fresh new opportunity for you to feel a little better. What things can you do right now that would bring you relief? Do those things! What soothing words would you love to hear? Say those things to yourself!

Don’t wait for circumstances to change in order for you to feel better, don’t wait for someone to come and rescue you – sooth yourself, and begin right here and right now. ❤

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