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Don’t give up your emotional balance for any relationship

Being out of your emotional balance is a clear indicator that you are thinking lackful thoughts. You can blame it on the situation or the other person but you are the one who is choosing your perspective. And you are the one who are blocking yourself from the answers, the solutions, the improvements and the healing when you think lackful thoughts.

So, you have one option if you want your body, your health and everything else in your life to improve: find a way to sooth yourself into feeling better. Whether you stay in the relationship or whether you leave is irrelevant but you have to work on how you feel if you want lasting change. Sure, leaving the relationship might feel like relief to you – so do it. But you have to leave your lackful thinking aswell otherwise you will just attract more situations and people that feel the same way.

The emotional journey and the action journey are two different journeys. You have to take the emotional journey no matter what action you take, if you want to improve your life.

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No matter what situation you are in – you always have a choice: feel a little better or feel a little worse

How are you wanting to feel today? You really have a choice in this!

You might be going through a lot right now; perhaps people are mean to you, perhaps your relationship has a lot of issues, perhaps you have sever health issues or perhaps there is something else that you deem really difficult that is happening in your life. It doesn’t matter what it is, you always have a choice: feel a little better or feel a little worse.

Your mood, your emotional state, is not locked to the situation around you. Ever. You are in charge of your perspective and you can always look at things from different perspectives – therfore you can always affect how you feel.

You are never stuck, there is always hope. You just have to stop looking so intensely at the issue, back away in your perspective and take a more general approach. Stop pointing out what feels bad, stop complaining and stop blaming. Start soothing yourself instead. Start reaching for thoughts that feel like a little bit of relief. It is always possible, no matter the situation.

Why are some people so mean?

No one who truly loves themselves, who are kind, loving and caring toward themselves would ever hurt another person. How you act and react is a pure reflection of how you feel, and especially how you feel about yourself.

Those who lash out in anger are having emotional pain within and doesn’t know that they have the power to change how they feel. Instead they blame that one and that one… instead they argue, they start wars, they hurt, they try to control… instead of focusing on the only thing that works.

Those who constantly find flaws, criticise and dislike… they are not liking themselves, they are not kind to themselves and they don’t know they have all the power within to change how they feel. That is why they think they feel better when they put others down – it feels better than to feel insecure and powerless. But it doesn’t last so they have to do it again and again… instead of focusing on the only thing that works.

You have to begin with how you feel. You have to begin to sooth yourself, value yourself, care about how you feel and learn to love yourself.

Don’t give up, even the darkest of moments will pass ๐Ÿ’–

The past years have been rather dark for me, not as pitch-dark as the first 24 years of my life, but still. Each new day is a step in the right direction.

Never give up, no matter how hopeless and dark your life might currently seem to be – it will pass. In the meantime, distract yourself as best you can. Reach for things that make you feel better and allow yourself to be soothed. For me it is delicious food, music, massage, sex, working out and trying on clothes that make me feel better. These things make me feel better temporarily, while I work on my thinking at the same time – one small step at a time. I will never give up. ๐Ÿ’–

Sexually abused, raped, bullied… can you ever feel good again? Of course!!!

My father was an alcoholic, I was sexually abused by several older boys when I was 6 years old, I was bullied in school, had reading and writing difficulties, got anorexia when I was around 8-9 years old, was raped by two guys when I was 17, ran away from home two weeks after that, was physically and mentally abused for almost two years by my boyfriend (when I was 17-19 years old) and had to go to trial twice before he ended up in jail, my parents died, I had an abortion and the man of my dreams cheated on me. ๐Ÿ˜‚ need I go on?

I hated myself and life for almost 30 years before I began improving my thinking about me, about everyone that had ever hurt me and about life. I managed to turn my thinking around and today I feel nothing but appreciation for everyone that ever hurt me and everything that happened to me – because it all inspired me to become the woman I am today. Strong, free, happy, confident and empowered. If I can do it, anyone can.

You are good, it is ok and your life will get better and better ๐Ÿ’–

Everything feels better with chocolate ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‹

Ok, so… I had to help out a close friend of mine today. He had received a huge extra bill this month that he couldn’t pay… so I helped him out with that… 16 000 Swedish kronor… I have to say it hurt a little to give him the money ๐Ÿ˜‚. But… everything feels better with chocolate so I made myself a big chocolate cake. Who needs a plate, right? All I need is a spoon.

In a couple of hours I will meet up with my friend and then we can eat lots more delicious treats, I really need it today. ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ’– All is well.

You’re hot, then you’re cold – fuck you life

The first half of the day was really cold, I had to wear my autumn pants and a long sleeved top at work. But when I got home the weather had become a little warmer so I chose a shorter top for the afternoon.

The weather has been really weird the last couple of days. It has been super cold – almost like autumn. And today it was very bi-polar like ๐Ÿ˜‚. Cold, then hot … then cold, then hot again… kind of like my mood lately. A lot of things have happened and are happening around me and I have not yet found my emotional stability.

Sometimes I just want to give up, say fuck you to life and run away. Just thinking that thought brings me a little relief. Fuck you life. Fuck you work. Fuck you new assignments. Fuck you annoying person at the day care center. Fuck you.

Yes indeed, it does feel better. I guess can stay in this general negative place for a while before I reach for more relief in more positive, general thoughts.

The only thing that matters in my life: my two little babies โคโค

Remind yourself of what really matters in life. For me it is my two little babies. I love them more than life itself.

I also feel good when I try on some clothes – like this beautiful dress I chose for tonight. But nothing brings me as much relief as the thought of my babies does. They are the only thing that truly matters in my life and the only ones I love. โค

Your life is your canvas, each day is a new page

Imagine if today was a blank page… you could fill it with what ever your heart desires… it would be so different from yesterday’s page… full of color, light, passion and zest… full of ease, pleasure and satisfaction…

Your life is your canvas. Each day is a new page. Feel free to fill each new page with what you desire most. Let no one dim your light, let no one tell you what you fill your page with… follow your heart, listen to your calling and enjoy filling today’s page with what you desire most.

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