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Time to stop running after people who don’t see your worth ❤

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Lending money – saying no because you care ❤

Here is a brief update on the lending money topic I wrote about a few weeks ago. I have been asked to help out a very close friend financially every month for many years now, and I still do it. However, more people come to me for financial help – one of them is a person I hardly know. Today I got a message again from her, asking me for money. It just does not feel right anymore – so I finally said no. She has parents, her boyfriend has parents and they have lots of close friends. I and my boyfriend are on our own. Neither one of us has any parents and no one else around. Still I have helped this woman financially many times and at the same time given money to another friend almost monthly and my very close friend as well.

I have to listen to my own inner guidance and what feels best to me. This person who I hardly know will no longer get money from me. I have not given her any money since last time I wrote about this. However I will continue to help out my very close friend and occationally my other friend, as long as it feels ok. Most importantly, I will encourage their own financial independence. ❤

True love and true friendship – you will feel it 💖

It is time to stop running after others, stop trying to get them to like you, stop reaching for their approval, stop depending on their attention and start focusing on you. How do you want to feel about yourself? How do you want to feel in a relationship? How would you like to be treated? What matters most to you?

Then start giving yourself the love, affection and approval you desire. When love and approval comes from within, you will attract those who enhance how good you already feel.

I quit ❤

Tend to your most important relationship and all other topics will work out beautifully well for you ❤

When everyone asks you for money

This month I have help out three friends financially. It began two weeks ago with a friend who I love dearly – he didn’t have any money left so I took him to the store and let him pick out all the groceries he needed. It was a lot of fun helping him out with this. I have helped him out financially a lot the last 10 months.

A week after that a very close friend of mine had made some bad choices (bought a lot of clothes and things without thinking about what to do when he had spent all his money) and had no money left. I have chosen to help him out fincially for the rest of the month. I have helped him out financially for over 10 years.

And last night I received a text from a neighbour that I have only met twice (in August last year) who has two little babies, they asked if I could give them some money since they didn’t have any money left this month… it didn’t feel ok. I have given them money 4 times since August… but I thought about their two little babies and the thought of them not having any food made it easy for me to give them some money.

And why do I write about this? Because I feel I have reached a point where I have become a person who people come to when they need money. I don’t want to be that person anymore. Sure it is fun to be able to help so many people each month and still have a lot of money left for me and my babies… but I feel this is no longer the right way of dealing with these “friends”. They only become more and more dependent on me and my money. I want them to find their own freedom and empowerment, their own responsibility for their finances.

My intention for next month is clear. I know what my focus is. It is time for a change – and I will begin right now.

The most important question in life ❤

Allow yourself to love unconditionally

Enjoy your solitude ❤

Honor yourself by saing NO if it feels off to you ❤

Be kinder to yourself! Don’t force yourself to behave in ways that please others – honor yourself by following your inner guidance. 

If it feels off to you, it is off! It doesn’t matter if every friend you have thinks you should do it or if your boss or your lover wants you to do something – if it feels less than good to you it is detrimental to you. 

Whenever you do something you don’t really want to, you are hurting yourself. It is actually more benefical for you to be “rude” and say “no, I don’t want to do it” than to swallow your resentment, go against yourself and do it even though you don’t want to – just to please someone else.

It is time for you to start liking yourself, caring about yourself and start valuing your desires and beliefs. When you care about yourself and your wellbeing first, you will be of most value to everyone else as well

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