Choosing a more hopeful perspective, even though you are afraid – that is where magic happens!

There is such amazing magic in deliberately choosing your thoughts. You don’t have to complain or point out flaws more than just a brief moment, you can move on from the experience by directing your focus on what you now know you prefer and how you now know you want to feel.

Regurgitation of what happens to you is not a skill – it is simple sloppy focus. Easily done but not empowering! Choosing a slightly different perspective, even though it would be easier to complain… choosing a more general perspectice, even though it would be easier to criticise… choosing a more hopeful perspective, even though you are afraid… choosing a more reliefgiving perspective, even though you are sad… now that takes skill and that is both freeing and enpowering. Not only will you feel better while you practice this, you will affect everything that happens to you as well.


You will be more clear, more effective and of more value to those you interact with 🍀

Remember to relax and rest through out your day. Not just phtsically but mentally. It is so easy to get caught up in the desires and wishes of those around you at work and at home or to let your own demands on yourself get too heavy.

Remeber to pause and find your balance again. Stress is not good for your mind or your body. It is not worth it. Just pause, breathe and relax mentally. Look at it from a more general perspective and prioritise.

You have to value yourself and how you feel first. If you feel good you will be more clear, more effective and you will be of more value to those you interact with as well so it is a win win situation.


Dare to disapoint! ❤

You don’t have to put on a mask in front of other people and pretend to be happy and positive when you are not.

I know it is tempting to behave in ways that please others – but don’t forget yourself and how you feel at the same time. Honor yourself and your body by being true to who you want to be. Never do or say something that feels off to you, just because it is was society expects you to do and say. Dare to disappoint! Dare to be different! Dare to value yourself and your emotional wellbeing, first.


Are you a grumpy old toad? Well, it is a choice – and you can choose differently!

Isnt it amazing that our thoughts have such power? What you choose to think affects your mood, your behaviour and the action you choose to participate in.

Even if you have been a grumpy old toad your entire life, you can still choose different thoughts now and as you continue to do so you can go from being the most negative person you know to the most loving, caring, sweet and positive person you know. It is all up to you. And it really, only is about the little daily choices you make, the choices of thoughts – and you can do something about that.


How do you manage stress?


Don’t push against what feels bad, love what feels good

There is a beautiful and valuable difference between looking at what you don’t like and trying to make it go away and looking at what you do like and apprecating it.

Both of these perspectives are focusing your energy but one of them blocks you from reaching your highest potential and the other one allows you to become who you truly are and reach your highest potential.

Would you really spend so much time complaining about insignificant things – or big world events – if you knew you are actually hurting yourself and your body every second you do something that fuels your negativity? Probably not. But it is a habit, a habit most people are so used to practicing it feels like the normal, natural and expected way to react when things go wrong. 

Sure you can let negative things bring you down for a moment, and you can allow yourself to feel what you feel. But you CAN, little by little, tune yourself into a more general, loving and benefical way of focusing. 

You are of true value to others, yourself included, when you remain centered in your emotional balance and you see the value, the beauty, the good aspects and the potential for change, solutions and improvements in every situation.

Everyone has beauty, goodness and love within them – if they have acted in hateful ways it simply means they are blocking themself from being who they truly are with their negative perspectives. If you push back in anger, you do the same thing. You don’t rid the world from hate and fear by more hate and fear – the answer is love, unconditional love. 


The secret to all improvements you desire – spend your time in the most benefical way

Make the best of where ever you are and what ever is happening. Choose to sooth yourself in your mind, find your calm within. 

When you take time to relax mentally, to find reliefgiving thoughts on what ever the topic at hand might be – now you are taking care of yourself in a valuable way. This will improve how you feel, how you view life and it will also improve every aspect of your life!

Inner stress – no matter how right you are in your negative feelings about the situation – is never benefical to your body or for your life. Releasing the inner stress by choosing reliefgiving perspectives little by little is the secret to all improvements you desire.



What you dream about is what you will get? Then what about nightmares!?

Don’t worry. Yes, your dreams reflect the mood you have been predominantly entertaining with your thoughts and your focus during the days. However, it doesn’t mean you have to attract those specific things you dreamt about – it is only guidance letting you know what your most common way of thinking matches right now. Since it is only guidance you can do something about it! 

If you wake up from a nightmare then acknowledge how you FELT during the dream and sooth yourself into feeling some relief. Then acknowledge that it is guidance letting you know that you have been choosing thoughts and words during your days that are not benefical for you in the long run. Then begin paying attention to what you say and think during your day and when you notice even slightly negative perspectives in yout focus – gently sooth those thoughts into slightly better feeling ones. Just one small adjustment will net you wonderful results!

It is not the big awful thoughts you think once a month that makes the biggest impact on your life – it is the little DAILY thoughts that affect you the most

Gently listen to what you say and think, and shift those thoughts toward a little relief. You can even stop yourself in the middle of a negative comment, and begin again in a more positive way. Thank your guidance for letting you know it will benefit you to sooth yourself into relief.


When you feel lost – know that you are always guided 


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