All is well. Relax, breathe and allow yourself a moment just to be still, and focus on your breathing. Sooth yourself by thinking reliefgiving thoughts such as “I am doing the best I can”, “I want to be a good person”, “I want to honor my body”, “I want to follow what feels like relief to me”, “I want to be a person who loves and appreciates easily”, “I want to be a happy, light-hearted person”, “I am where I am and it is ok”, “Tomorrow is a new day”, “I will enjoy a good night’s sleep and wake up fresh and new tomorrow” …
This moment is perfect, this moment is all you have and all you need. How are you choosing to spend your moment? Spend it with soothing, loving and kind thoughts no matter where you are, who you are with or what you are doing.
Your past is of value because it made you who you are today. But your NOW is even more valuable because you can choose to NOW let go of all hurt, all pain and all feelings of being a victim, you can let go of all guilt, all blame, all resentment and all insecurity and begin to replace those emotions and thoughts with hope, optimism, self-love, kindness, respect and appreciation.
NOW is the only time when you can change. No one else can do it for you, only you. Choose to let the success stories of others inspire you, and begin right now. One small though at a time, be gente, kind and loving toward yourself in the process.
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My father was an alcoholic, I was sexually abused by several older boys when I was 6 years old, I was bullied in school, had reading and writing difficulties, got anorexia when I was around 8-9 years old, was raped by two guys when I was 17, ran away from home two weeks after that, was physically and mentally abused for almost two years by my boyfriend (when I was 17-19 years old) and had to go to trial twice before he ended up in jail, my parents died, I had an abortion and the man of my dreams cheated on me. 😂 need I go on?
I hated myself and life for almost 30 years before I began improving my thinking about me, about everyone that had ever hurt me and about life. I managed to turn my thinking around and today I feel nothing but appreciation for everyone that ever hurt me and everything that happened to me – becauseit all inspired me to become the woman I am today. Strong, free, happy, confident and empowered. If I can do it, anyone can.
Just take gentle baby steps. Think of each day as a new opportunity to love yourself more and be kinder to yourself. One thing at a time, not only one day at a time but one hour and even one moment at a time.
Release all stress, all worry, all insecurity and all fear and lovingly fill your mind with thoughts of kindness and love. Think thoughts that bring you relief, like:
“I honor myself, I care about how I feel, I listen to my body’s messages with love, I treat myself with kindness and respect. I am doing the best I can in each moment, given the beliefs, desires, awareness, knowledge I have and the emotional place I am in at the time. I am doing alright, I am doing ok. One step at a time. I am lovingly supporting myself every step of the way.“
Everything can be viewed from a better-feeling perspective. Everything. It is all just a matter of focus. Even the seemingly bad or evil things that happen – they all bring with them a wish and a desire for how thingsshould have worked out instead and how they should work out next time. Give all your focus to the new desires and wishes that are born out of the contrast and you will have shifted your perception enough to be a part of the solution instead.
Are you focused on the solutions, the opportunities and the positive aspects or are you focused on the problems and the negative aspects?These are only different perspectives of the same topics.
Everything has positive and negative sides to it. How you choose to view the topic, the experience and the behavior will determine how you feel about it and what you attractfromit.
Begin today to listen to your own inner dialogue and to the words you choose when you talk to others. Where is your main focus? Is it on the solutions and the positive aspects? If not, begin to shift your focus ever soslightly in a comfortable, relief-giving way.
Allow yourself some time to sooth yourself into feeling better as soon as you feel a little off. Perhaps a comment from someone, expectations from others or something you have done has triggered you to feel bad about yourself and your life.It is ok! It is alright. It is only natural to lose your emotional balance when you listen to or look at things that don’t match how you desire them to be. That is ok. The important part now is that you make peace with where you are, make peace with your body,make peace with your health, make peace with your love life, make peace with your family, make peace with your job, make peace with all your mistakes, make peace with everything. Just mentally make peace with it and lovingly sooth yourself into feeling better.Making peace with it is the first step, the second one is to start caring about how you feel and making yourself a top priority.
Take a moment to just sit down, relax, close your eyes, take a deep breath and remind yourself of what really matters in life. What really matters is how you feel. You have to take care of yourself! Make yourself a priority, the top priorityin your life. Be kind, gentle and loving towards yourself, treat yourself like someone you truly love. When you look at yourself, look for things to appreciate. When you think about what you have done – know that you are always doing the best you can given the emotional place, awareness, knowledge and understanding you have at the time. You are enough! You are loved! You are beautiful! You are talented.
It is right for you to listen to your heart, to follow the paths in life that feel best to you. It is right for you to choose what makes you happy, to choose the things that feel meaningful to you. They don’t need to approve of you and what you do, but you do. ❤
So many people care more about the approval and dissaproval from others than they do about their own desires and opinions. That is a negative, disempowering trap – if their approval and likes makes you feel good, their disapproval and their disliking you will bring you down. When really – how they feel about you should be irrellevant! How you feel about yourself is all that matters.
If you can find your way into disliking yourself a little less, and then a little less… until eventually you begin to like yourself a little … now you begin to turn the tide and regain your inner strenght. Little by little you can learn to like yourself, as you are. And with gentle, loving baby steps you can learn to love yourself.
When you love yourself you are strong and stable in your opinion of yourself and nothing they say, do or think will bring you to your knees again.
