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Let go of the uncomfortable weight of other people’s expectations and opinions

Let go of your worry, of your doubt. Let go of the uncomfortable weight of other people’s expectations and opinions. Let it go and embrace your freedom.

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Summer outside but a rainy autumn inside ❤

New seasons bring new feelings, don’t force yourself into feeling and doing what those around you expect you to feel and do. Take it in your own pace, make sure you are comfortable with yourself first and foremost.

Nothing matters more than how you feel – and if you can’t find that sunny, happy, blissfull and confident summer’s feeling – it doesn’t matter. Allow yourself to feel as you feel, be kind to yourself. Wear the clothes that make you feel good, wear the shoes that make you feel good and do the things that feel a little bit better to you in each moment.

There really are no “shoulds” or “have to” – there are only choices that may feel a little better or a little worse. Allow yourself to choose what feels a little bit better to you.

How to solve all your negative, emotional patterns

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Sometimes all you need is to take a step back, take a deep breath and allow yourself some time to relax. You are the main character in your life and even though people around you might want you to do a lot of things for them – you have to decide whether you want to do these things or if you want to do something else.

There is no value in trying to please everyone at work, at home and all your friends while you burn your own candle at both ends. Give yourself a moment to relax and find your own inner peace. Ask yourself what matters most in life for you. What do you want to do with your life? How do you want to live? How do you want to feel? Begin in these general terms in order to generate general answers – it is a lot easier to begin in a general way if you have been in a negative emotional place, too caught up in the specifics of the situation. So, keep going general in your questions: What matters most to me at work? How do I want to feel at work? What do I enjoy most? Continue to ask general questions about the topic you are thinking about. If it feels slightly off, then you have gone too specific too soon. Just back away again and think about your life. What matters to me in life? What brings me joy in life? And so on.

You don’t have to solve all negative emotional blocks all at once, nor can you. It is enough that you give yourself a gentle, relaxing break mentally and that you go more general in your thinking until you feel better.

“How do I feel better when everything sucks and I feel awful?!” ❤

“And so you say, “How do I do it?” You do it by saying

It’s alright. I’m just fine. All is well. There, there. Everything is alright. Perfect place. Perfect time. This is Who-I-Am. I was born to be here. I am on my path. This is the trajectory of Who-I-Am. I’m Pure Positive Energy. Everything is just right. I could not be doing it better. I’m following inspiration. I’m getting better at that all the time. Pure Positive Energy surrounds me. I am adored. This environment that surrounds me inspires me to more. I’m constantly achieving it. I never get it done. I can’t get it wrong. All is really well with me. I feel good so much of the time. Pure Positive Energy surrounds me. All is well. It’s alright. It’s alright. Everything is alright. I’m doing just fine. I’m doing really good. Source adores me. I feel the inspiration all the time. Ideas are flowing. I receive the ideas. I get inspiration. Sometimes I don’t feel like doing something. That’s inspiration too. Sometimes I want rest. That’s inspiration too. Sometimes there is more resistance than I can overcome. That’s alright. It will return. There’s an ebb and flow in all of this. Sometimes I have more resistance. I know it. I feel it. Sometimes I have less resistance. I know it. I feel it. Everything is working out just fine. I’ve put it in the Vortex. It is inevitable. My well-being is assured. I’m supposed to be having fun here. Life is supposed to be fun. My Inner Being is delighting in the life that I have carved out. It is time for me to delight in the life that I’ve carved out.”

In other words, it’s just talking to yourself like that. No specific terms. Just general terms.”

Abraham Hicks

When your every cell is filled with rage and anger

The intense rage and anger you feel within is only temporary. Allow yourself to feel it and choose to breathe it away. Take some deep breaths and feel each breath emptying your body of your rage and anger. Feel how each breath clears your mind and gives you a fresh new start.

Never condemn yourself for lashing out in anger, forgive yourself and breathe out all the pain. Close your eyes while you take your deep breaths and focus purely on emptying your mind. Mentally push your reset button and begin fresh and new.

Hurtful actions comes from inner pain 🌹

The nightmare again, but some progress

Last night I had my usual nightmare – the same one I have had since I was a little baby. I am back at my childhood house, something very evil is coming after me to hurt and kill me. I am all alone, it is dark outside and my only escape is to lock myself in, in a room. But as usual all doors are open and unlockable so I cannot escape. The intense fear is the same, the scenario is exactly the same but now there is one big change that I have never experienced in my nightmare before: I consciously think, “Alright I already know all the doors are unlockable so I am not even going to try to lock them. However, I will open the door when it comes and I will kill it.” I look around for a weapon of some sort and prepare myself for the moment… then I wake up.

This is huge progress because over these 30 something years that I have had this nightmare I have always felt the fear and panic and put all my energy on trying to lock these unlockable doors, in vain. This is the first time I decided to do something more productive. It felt like I kind of made the best of the situation, accepted it for what it was and decided to make the best of it – do something that I could do. Even if the evil thing never reached me, I still feel a shift within this nightmare. I kind of look forward to next time, I will continue to do what I CAN do to face this and protect myself, no more trying to lock unlockable doors.

Never judge yourself for feeling anger ❤

Dare to say no if it feels off to you!

Trying to be a people pleaser is very detrimental to your own emotional balance. You can’t do something you don’t really want to do, just to please someone else, without telling yourself that you don’t matter. And believe me, your every cell is listening 24/7 to the messages you send it. You send it messages with the thoughts you think, the words you speak and with the actions you take. If you want to know how your body feels about your messages, pay attention to your emotions. If you feel anything less than good, then your body is taking a hit from what you are currently doing, saying and thinking.

It is time for you to value yourself, to care for yourself and most importantly: it is time for you to love yourself.

One part in loving yourself is listening to what matters to you, what makes you feel good, what you desire, what you believe and what feels right to you. This means saying no when something feels off. Saying no does not have to be wrong or bad or something negative. It is just a choice! Choose what is right, choose what feels like most relief, choose to value how you feel.

Stop going against yourself in order to please someone else! It is not your job to please someone else – to be pleased is an inside job. Just like happiness. Just like love. Just like satisfaction. Just like any other emotion there is. It is all an inside job.

Break free of your broken self 💖

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