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“I want to quit my job” Yes I am very sensitive – it is a gift β€

Today I got some hurtful criticism from my boss that brought me to my knees. At first I was furious because it felt so unfair. And now I just feel sad about it.

My co-workers were so supportive of me and tried to sooth me back into feeling better. They were on my side and thought my boss had acted without taking the time to get all the facts straight first. I used to think he was a supportive boss but right now it feels far from that. Even the thought of resigning from work has occured to me tonight.

But, I will work on regaining my emotional balance again by focusing on the bigger picture. He really does mean well. He really does know I do a great job. He cares about his teachers, he wants them to feel satisfied with their work. I do feel rather good about having him as my boss. He cares a lot about his students. He wants our students to succeed and feel good. He also wants to do a good job and meet the expectations of others. I think I understand him now, I see the bigger picture. I really do value his caring and his decisiveness. 🌹

It does feel better. I feel like I can breathe again. Writing is one of the best ways I know to find relief and feel better.

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When your heart is full of sadness – how do you find relief?

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Some days I do not feel like doing anything other than being alone, in the dark. How do I deal with those days? I sooth myself in many different ways. One of my favorite ways of soothing myself is to eat something delicious. Therefore, I make sure to treat myself to something delicious often throughout my days.

Sometimes it makes me feel better to look at beautiful pictures of nature, rain, the ocean… or listen to my favorite soothing music during the breaks at work. At home I usually don’t have time to relax during the days because my little babies want to play with me all the time, which also makes it easier to distract myself from my own sadness. Seeing their cute, happy faces and hearing their eager voices always makes me smile.

The best time to sooth myself is at night when everyone else is sleeping. Then I just lie in bed, enjoy the stillness around me and let the darkness of the night embrace me and sooth me. I was alone with my emotional pain for so many years as I grew up, that my solitude has become my greatest comforter now. I turn inwards when I need a break.

  • How do you sooth yourself?

The key to a joyful, fullfilling life β€

Give up your anger, your frustration and your complaining. Just give it up.

With every negative word you speak you are pushing against yourself – so just give it up.

Allow yourself to enjoy more, allow yourself to have more fun. Allow yourself to be more playful and easy going. And most importantly: allow yourself to feel good now, without any of the conditions around you changing.

That truly is the key to a joyful, fulfilling life. To be able to choose to feel good unconditionally. When you are able to feel good – no matter the circumstances – the circumstances will change to match your inner emotional state as well. ❀

1900 followers and 527 550 views β€β€β€

My blog is my safe haven. This is where I share not only my joy, my passion and my desires but also where I share what works for me and how I transformed my life.

I have been sexually abused multiple times, physically abused, mentally abused, had an alcoholic father, I had eating disorders, been bullied, my mother died when I was 18 and my father died when I was 24 years old… I hated myself for almost 3 decades and had no self-esteem… but managed to save myself by changing my thinking. Little by little, step by step. All by myself.

And I succeeded. I have a very strong self-esteem and I have manifested so many things around me that I love. My life continues to improve all the time. I have two babies that I love and adore, a job I love, a cozy big house, a nice car, the body of my dreams… but all those things are just bonuses. The really important thing is that I feel so much better. I no longer have the victim mentality but an empowered way of viewing life. I am not always on top emotionally – it is a never ending journey – but most of the time I feel really good. This blog is where I share what works for me and what I believe.

My blog now has more than 1900 followers and has had over 527 550 views. This is incredible. Thank you all for the love and appreciation you give me everyday. I truly value you all. I am so happy that you are with me and that you enjoy my blog, it means a lot to me. Thank you. ❀

I want to stay at home with my babies forever β€β€

Relaxation, relief and rest. Those words describe my Sunday night. I am so happy I will be home with my babies an entire week now until I have to get back to work again. I wish I could stay home with them forever. ❀❀

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Love, joy, confidence, hate, criticism, insecurity – it is all an inside job β€

No one else needs to approve of you – only you. Their criticism and disapproval says more about them and their inner strenght and weaknesses than you.

A truly empowered being who is filled with love in his/her heart would never ever put anyone else down in any way by words or action. All negativity comes from inner pain, even if they can justify why they criticise. A critical perspective is a lackful perspective and it comes from the eyes of the beholder.

There is value, beauty and goodness to be seen everywhere, in everyone and in everything. You have the power to be selective in your focus and you can even let the negative aspects you see, inspire you to focus more clearly on what you prefer. So all things can be reasons to focus in joyful and loving ways.

Never let the negativity from another bring you down. Remember that they are hurting within, even if they are not aware of it. Choose to see past their negativity, let them be and know that they too have an inner guidance that will guide them if they only want to listen. That is not your job. Change is an inside job. Love is an inside job. Confidence is an inside job. Happiness is an inside job. Everything is an inside job – their negativity and criticism is too. ❀

Continue being the shining inspiring light of joy and love that you are, and those who are ready to feel better will listen. 🌹❀

Even tragic events, like the deaths of loved ones, are of value β€

My parents died a long time ago – it feels like it was in another life time – I am now stronger than ever and the most happiest I have ever been in my life. I see their death as something that inspired me to finally find my own balance and stability in life. It totally changed me – and I chose to let it change me for the better, eventually.

Everything happens for a reason, and everything can be of value – everything. It may not seem like it as it happens but if you allow yourself some time to find emotional relief, then you can slowly begin to see that this experience has brought you a gift – a gift that is very valuable. The gift of finding your emotional balance, unconditionally. Of feeling good, unconditionally. Of feeling love, unconditionally.

Even seemingly tragic events are of value and can make you stronger, more joyful, more loving, more empowered and can make you realise what a beautiful gift life.

Make the most of your life, your year, your month, your day, your hour, your moment. Be kinder to yourself and deliberately choose to enjoy life in ways that call you.

When my whole world is shattering around me

Where do I find my relief when it feels like my whole world has shattered around me? In the comforting darkess of the night… in the soothing cool rain… in the quiet stillness of the night… that is where I find my relief, my air, my soothing. That is where I find my balance again.

Practice the pause and find your strenght again πŸ’™

Sometimes all you need is a pause. A short moment when you pause your words and pause your thoughts. A moment to just breathe and relax mentally.

Just a moment of pausing can be enough to stop the negative momentum which will make it easier for you to start a more reliefgiving momentum.

Begin practicing the pause, several times every day. The more you practice the easier it will feel.

When your kids have 100 meltdowns a day – how do you keep your emotional stability?

🀣 This is such a fun topic. Little did I know before I had kids that they would help me find a more stable emotional place so clearly.

As an example. Today I went to the grocery store with my two babies, aged 3 and 2. From the moment we left our house until we came back I think they had 20-30 complete meltdowns, each. 🀣 I don’t know why they do that some days, other days they can be as cool as a cucumber the entire time we are out shopping.

I was pretty stable emotionally when we took off but I really had to pause a few times in the grocery store to find some emotional relief. Two kids laying down on the floor in the store, lots of people stopping and staring while my two little angels scream and cry… How do you survive that? 🀣 Well. It is ok to have emotions and some people (not just kids) might be a bit more intense than others and some days might be a little bit worse than other days.

Am I a bad mom? Sure feels that way from time to time during my days – it is not easy sometimes. But I do my very best. On days like these I do my very best to sooth myself in my mind, remain calm and stable as I speak to my kids. Does it work? Sometimes. After 10 minutes they were pretty ok. They were happy and pleased until the next tantrum happened and so on.

I see my kids as a blessing. I love them with all my heart and I know they are the best teachers in my life when it comes to teaching unconditional love, unconditional happiness and unconditional relief. Now that is an excellent gift!

Of course today was a “worst case scenario” some would say but you could also see it as an incredibly important learning experience for both them and me. They learned that no matter how much they act out, I will remain stable and confident in my intention – ‘we are going to go grocery shopping and you are going to help me’. And they did. They had one cart each and helped me look for the products we were going to buy. We had a lot of fun, they smiled and laughed a lot.

I gave them a lot of positive feedback on what they did really well and at the end of the trip we talk about how fun it had been and how well they had helped me out. πŸ’– It is all one step at a time. Not only one day at a time or an hour at a time, sometimes a moment at a time.

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