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The most difficult choice I have ever been faced with – and I have not decided yet 😅

Ok so the contrast is still here and I have a few days left to make up my mind. I know what I want, I know what I don’t want – but, and this is a very big but: my boyfriend wants the exact opposite of what I want. That is where my dilemma is;

Shall I follow my heart and do what I want or shall I respect and honor my boyfriend’s wishes… I really don’t want to do something that goes against everything he wants…. but I really don’t want to go against me either 😂.

I try to see the situation with a little bit of humor. It truly feels like a lose, lose situation although I KNOW there are only choices you line up with or choices you don’t line up with – and if I make one choice the best choice for me, it will be. I know, logically, that it doesn’t matter what I choose because if I focus on soothing myself into relief and eventually into feeling good unconditionally again, it will work out beautifully well for me. I know these things, but I am in an emotional place right now where I don’t quite feel so at ease and balanced about it any more. And that is ok! It truly IS OK to freak out when things don’t go your way. Your negative emotions are not bad or wrong, it is just guidance letting you know you are splitting your energy = you have a desire that you are currently opposing with lackful thoughts. And that is so true because I don’t just focus on me and what I desire, I focus just as much on my boyfriend and what he desires. And since our belief, wishes, desires and emotions regarding this situation are in complete opposition… it is an emotional tug of war.

So no, I have not decided yet. I don’t have to decide today or tomorrow anyway so I will try to relax about it a little. ❤

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What if there are no wrong choices?

All the choices you have made has brought you to the place where you are now. Whether you see some choices as wrong or bad, you are where you are and NOW is where all your power is.

Be kinder to yourself! You truly are doing the best you can, whether you know it or not. Stop viewing yourself or your choices as bad – begin to appreciate yourself and your preferences. It is right for you to have preferences! It is right for you to like some things and dislike other things. It is right for you to have wishes and desires. It is perfectly alright for you to change your mind and desire something else.

Nothing has gone wrong – you are where you are and this is the perfect place to begin to value your preferences and listen to your heart’s desires.

A fun new habit that will improve your entire life

Have you been through a lot of negative things in your life?

Are there things in your life that you would like to improve?

What things do you secretly desire? To have your dream body? Finding the fountain of youth? To have endless abundance? Live with your dream partner? To feel confident, happy and empowered?

What ever your story might be and what ever it is you desire – you are in charge and you can do something about it, right now. Everything that happens to you happens for a reason and how you choose to react, what you choose to think about it and how you view every topic of your life affects what comes next. So it is never too late and it is never hopeless.

Begin right now to stop all your negative comments and statements about how it has been, how it is or how it will be. Begin to listen to your words and thoughts – when you hear yourself starting a negative sentence, just have fun with it and play a little by stopping, smiling and saying to yourself “oh my, I am doing it again – how cool that I am so aware of my thinking and what I am saying. I bet this will be fun and easy to gently lean a bit in a way that feels better:

What things do I already like?

What things naturally feel good to me?

What things do I really enjoy?

What brings me pleasure?

How do I want this person to act?

How do I want this situation to play out?

What things would I prefer about this?

If I could have anything I desired, what would I get? How would I feel?”

Just continue asking yourself questions like these every now and then to begin shifting your predominant focus. It is not the big arguments you have or the big drepressive thoughts you think that ruin your life – it it the little seemingly insignificant DAILY thoughts you think that lead to more thoughts that are alike those, which leads to beliefs and more conversations that feel the same way, and more people that reflects more of how you feel back to you until your focus has grown enough that you begin to get manifestations around you and in your own body.

You change it at the root, the cause – your seemingly insignificant thoughts. And that is easier than you think! Just begin with the small thoughts you think right now. If you feel worried, angry, resentful, depressed, insecure… or happy, confident, in love, empowered, satisfied and eager, all comes down to the little thoughts you choose to think in your day to day experience. And you can do something about that even with nothing in your life changing!

You can feel insecure and resentful and have cellulite or you can feel happy and empowered and have cellulite. How you feel – unconditionally – is what attracts what comes next. It is the difference between seeing the solutions or not. Recovery or not.

You can live in a loveless marriage and feel hopeless or you can live in a loveless marriage and feel hopeful. How you feel is the key that will open you up to what comes next.

Have fun with this! Don’t make such a big hairy deal about anything – your life is for you. You are supposed to view and experience contrast so you know what you prefer and come to new conclusions. Just begin to put your focus on what you now know you prefer and stop holding yourself back. ❤

Speak your dreams into existence

I am not anti-social, I just want MORE

Stop with the bullshit – believe in your success!

Always the same nightmare – what does it mean?

All my life I have had the same nightmare. Ever since I was a little girl. The place might be different, the danger might be different but the scenario is always the same. Something bad (which I have never seen) is after me and wants to hurt and kill me. My only escape is to lock a door between me and the bad thing that is coming. But it is impossible to lock the door, always. I do all the technical things just right – I lock the door in the perfect way you are supposed to. But as I check the door to see if it is locked – it never is. It always remains unlocked no matter what I do.

I had this nightmare again last night. This time I had bought a new house but the back door did not have a lock at all and the bathroom door was impossible to lock. Just like always. I wonder what this means? I have had these same nightmares for over 30 years now – for as long as I can remember.

I guess it goes back to all the worry and fear I had as a child. All the nights when I could not fall asleep because I was so afraid that my father (who was an alcoholic and walked in his sleep a lot) would try to get into my room. It was really scary to wake up and hear someone’s hands and fingers against my door – feeling for the handle – and then hear the handle slowly being pulled down and hear someone enter. I was usually so petrified I could not even make a sound, totally frozen.

It was not until I was a teenager that I got a key to my own door. But still, he would still walk in his sleep and I could still hear him trying to enter. It seems logical all these night mares come from these experiences. I only wish they would end. 💖

Experience the delicious sweetness of life, now ❤

Imagine the relief and excitement when you truly understands this! How awesome! All the things you desire... you are already all of those things. ❤ Everything is mind over matter. Once you realize this you let go of all limitations (and every limitation is self-imposed!) and you allow all of the things you desire to be, do and have to be fully realized by you. That is the delicious sweetness of life.

Base your choices on how well they resonate with your desires ❤

Focus on the desired outcome, imagine yourself having it, being it and doing it... Enjoy how good that feels and let those feelings embrace you. Return to those pleasurable scenarios several times during your day.

Do everything that you believe will take you in the desired direction. Base your choices on how good they feel to you and how well they resonate with your desires.

Your wishes and desires for 2018

A new chapter – a new year. What are your dreams, your wishes and your desires for 2018?

What things, habits and people would you like to let go of? Do so with love and ease in your heart. Move on to new experiences, new friends and new goals.

Let your focus be how you want to feel, what you want to be and what you want yo do. Let this year be your year, allow yourself to blossom into your full potential. Anything you desire, can be yours

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