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Are you living the life of your dreams? Are you having the body you desire?

Are you choosing words that strenghten you? – words of praise, appreciation, likes, approval, optimism, fun and love…?

Or are you choosing words that weaken you? – complaining, worry, fear, disbelief, negativity, hate and pessimism…?

The words you speak, the thoughts you think and the concersations you have with others – no matter the topic and no matter how true or justified you are in what you are saying – either strenghten you or weaken you.

It is way more than just words! It is practiced focus of your energy. Are you letting it flow freely or are you blocking it?

If you are not sure – just look around you. Are you living the life of your dreams? Are you having the body you desire? Are you happy? The answers will let you know how you have been using your thoughts and words so far – up until this moment.

But what you are living can change, it can improve – and it starts with the thoughts and words you choose.

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Why would such a beautiful girl like me hate myself for over 30 years and have no self-esteem? Here is why:

I got such a brilliant question today and here is my answer:

I grew up with an alcoholic father and my parents mentally abused me. I was sexually abused when I was 6 years old by 3 older guys, I was bullied in school, had reading and writing difficulties, had no friends, developed anorexia (an eating disorder) when I was 9 years old, had no friends during my entire school years, was raped by two guys when I was 17, ran away from home two weeks after that because my father’s alcohol abuse was insane and my parents were so verbally mean to me, I ran straight into the arms of a guy who physically and mentally abused me for over two years until he was sentenced to prison for it. During this time my mother died. I had to go through the two trials all alone – I had no one. I was completely alone, no friends and no one in the world that I could talk to. I did not want to live anymore – I even tried to take my own life. Then my father died, I got pregnant and had to make an abortion…and the man of my dreams cheated on me and lied about it for over a year until the truth came out in the most painful way ever… somewhere there, around the age of 24, I decided that enough is enough and I chose to change my thinking. I started working on liking myself. I did it all by myself – I never told ANYONE about any of these things that happened to me in my childhood/teenage years. It was not until I was almost 30 years old I began talking about it.

So, I guess this answers your question on why such a beautiful girl like me, hated myself for almost 30 years and had absolutely no self-esteem ๐Ÿคฃโค

How you FEEL has nothing to do with the way you look. I had my desired, dream body, but I hated myself and had no self-esteem for almost 30 years. Beauty does not mean confidence. You cant see how you feel, it is 100% about your own thinking – and you CAN do something about that. If I could, all by myself, anyone can. ๐ŸŒนโค

Choose what feels best to you and allow your body to thrive ๐ŸŒฑ

It is not so much about the choices you make, the food you eat or what remedies you might try but how you feel about the choices you make that makes all the difference.

How you feel and what you think and believe affects everything that happens to you – even the way your body responds and how it reacts.

Don’t compare yourself with others and the results they are getting – use the good-feeling examples of others as a source of inspiration and follow what you feel most called to. Listen to how you feel about the different paths avaliable and work on feeling good about the choices you make. ๐ŸŒฑ

All meals of the day are delicious, freeing and empowering meals โค

I love eating whatever I desire. It gives me such a feeling of freedom and empowerment. I wish I had known it was this easy when I was a little girl, before all my insecurities hit. But, better late than never. And most importantly – this way of eating is not not just freeing and empowering for me but for my two babies as well! They see how much I love food – all food – and how much I love my body.

What a brilliant way this is. And it works so beautifully. My babies follow their inspiration and are indeed loving all kinds of food. This photo was taken today when we were at Mc Donalds – nothing special, just a delicious meal like all other meals of the day. โคโคโคโคโค

I follow my pleasure scale – what food do I desire the most, at the moment? That is what I choose. I eat as long as it feels really satisfying, when the feeling is not that exciting anymore, I stop.

I know my body is healthy, strong, flexible and fit. It can make excellent use of what ever I choose to lovingly give it. Because that is the key. You must love your body and love the food you choose to give it. It is all mind over matter.

2 500 followers and 550 000 views on my blog ๐Ÿ˜

My purpose with my blog is to share what I did to turn my life around. This is where I share my thoughts and my beliefs – all the things I wish someone had told me before all my difficulties began. โค I want you to know that no matter what you have been through in your life or how difficult it might seem at the moment, you CAN improve your thinking and therfore improve your entire life.

โค Thank you all for liking, commenting and sharing my posts. โค It feels so good to write and post here, this is my safe haven, and it feels even better that so many of you feel inspired by my posts. ๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน

Your acne and your cellulite does not make you any less beautiful! ๐ŸŒน

I see who you are. I see who you are beyond the external things, beyond your clothes, beyond your makeup, beyond your body.

You are beautiful. You are so loved and adored for who you really are. There is no need to feel sad, ashamed, blameful, jealous or to wish you looked more like this or that. You are beautiful, right here and right now.

It is time for you to once and for all make peace with your body, make peace with your face, make peace with your skin, make peace with your personality and your emotions. Make peace with it all, look beyond all of it and see who you really are. Reach for the unconditional love that flows to you endlessly and eternally. โค

When no one likes your picture

Your worth, beauty, sexiness and confidence is not dependant on how many likes you get on a picture you post on social media!!!!

There are people who gets millions of likes on their pictures and there are people who rarely get even one like. The amount of likes has nothing to do with the level of beauty or sexiness. You are as beautiful as you make up your mind to be. It is not what others think that matters – it is 100% what you think that matters. Their disliking of you cannot harm you or lower your confidence unless you make their opinion if you, your opinion. And why would you do that?! It is really silly! It is so easy to get hooked into participating in social media and get lost in the approval-hunt. But it is shallow and untrue. Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.

You could get to a point where you don’t care whether anyone ever sees the pictures you post! You don’t care whether they like it or not. You don’t care that they say you sould be more this way or that way and that you are too much this and too much that! It is not a game of fitting in to their standars of beauty and sexiness. It is about you. Your opinion of you is what matters most. If you think you look pretty, then you are pretty! No one else needs to agree with you in order for you to like yourself.

Stop looking for approval and love in all the wrong shallow places and start feeling love and approval from the only place that matters, from within.

Ask yourself why you post pictures. Is it because you desire the approval from others or is it because you love the beauty you see shining through from within? It is perfectly fine to post pictures, but let the reason behind your picture posting be empowering for you, not disempowering.

Love your body

Loving your body is more than just doing what you believe is benefical for your body – it also means to stop all negative comments and negative thoughts about your body, no matter what. 

Work on how you FEEL about your body – no matter what you look like. Find thoughts of relief until you begin to find something about yourself that you sort of kind of like… and keep feeling for more thoughts of appreciation. Sooner than you thinl you will have shifted how you view your body, you will come to love yourself.

So many years I spent hating myself, hating my body and trying to hide myself from the world… well, no more! I have worked on how I view myself little by little and I have gone from having no self-esteem to feeling total love about all that I am. No more hinding. This is me. I love who I am, curves and all. โคโคโค

Delicious food or junk food – your ATTITUDE affects how the food affects you

Eat the cake and have the figure you desire

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