Stop blaming other people or uncontrollable circumstances for your difficulties πŸ™β€οΈ

Stop blaming other people or uncontrollable circumstances for your difficulties. Own it, realize you are 100 % responsible for how you feel – and that you can change how you feel without anything else changing – and that will improve your entire life.

You are in charge. Forgive the one who hurt you, no matter how badly he hurt you. Drop the victim mentality, stop your complaining – there is always a reason why some people hurt others, choose understanding, empathy and fucking let it go. πŸ™


Listen with your heart β€οΈ

When you talk, you are only repeating what you already know. But if you listen, you may learn something new.”

Dalai Lama

When someone wants to talk to you, truly be there for them with all your heart. Listen with love, and give them the gift of your attention. It is very valuable to have someone who truly listens when you talk. To have someone who truly cares about you. Even if you don’t have someone like that, you can still choose to be that person for someone else. πŸ™πŸŒ±

Forgive him and wish him peace πŸ™

You never know what someone has been through, so you can never really understand why they feel as they feel and why they act as they do. πŸ™ There is a reason behind everything, even the most evil person on the planet was once a little innocent baby. We are all born good, kind and in need of love and affection. This is who we really are. The negative behavior, the hurtful actions is only inner pain being expressed in the only way they know how. It does not excuse the hurtful actions, it only gives you a reliefgiving perspective. No one who truly loves themselves would ever hurt anothet being. πŸ™

Let the pain go, forgive him and once again look at life through loving eyes

I strongly believe in the goodness in everyone. Even if someone does something very bad and very wrong – I still believe they are only acting out their own inner pain and that goodness and kindness is at their core, underneath all that pain.

Does that mean that their behavior is ok? No, of course not. It is never ok to hurt another being. However, when you look at everyone and their behavior with this belief in your heart, it makes it easier for you to let the pain go, forgive them and once again look at life through loving eyes.

Do you want people to value, respect, understand and support you? Then look at others with love and compassion in your heart πŸ™

Isn’t this kind of empowering to think about? You can’t control how others see you or how they treat you – but you can control the most important part in it all: what you think about others and how you react to their behavior – and that will make all the difference. πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’

Be kind whenever possible, forgive always and look at everyone through the eyes of unconditional love

Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.”

Dalai Lama

Someone has to break the negative cycle, and it might as well be you. When someone hurts you, threatens you and even wants to hurt you again – they don’t feel good on the inside. Does that excuse all their deterimental behaviour? No. But hating them, pushing against them and seeking revenge will just lower your vibration as well and will breed more pain.

Of course it is a good idea to remove yourself from the person who wants to hurt you, to seek help and protection. Of course, but keep in mind that even the one that might be deemed the most “evil” person on the planet was once a pure, innocent baby who just wanted to be loved and feel good. Something happened along the way that made that longing for love so painful. Their “bad behaviour” are just ways they act out their own inner pain.

Be kind whenever possible, forgive always and try to look at everyone through the eyes of unconditional love. Especially the ones you feel are impossible to love – they need it the most. πŸ™

Be the person you needed when you were hurting πŸ™

Be the person who breaks the cycle. If you were judged, choose understanding. If you were rejected, choose acceptance. If you were shamed, choose compassion.

Be the person you needed when you were hurting, not the person who hurt you. Vow to be better than what broke you – to heal instead of becoming bitter so you can act from your heart, not your pain. ”

Lori Deschene

Kindness and love can purify even the darkest of hearts

Kindness and love can purify even the darkest of hearts. No matter the situation, no matter what he did – when you find it in your heart to forgive him unconditionally, the healing will begin automatically.

When you respond with kindness and love, there is a win-win situation because everyone benefits from that mindset.

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