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Cellulite, acne, financial problems and a cheating partner – how can I turn my life around then!?

How can I love myself when my legs are riddled with deep cellulite and my entire face is covered with acne?

Well, if you only love yourself when you look as you desire to look and feel sad and angry about the way you look when you have problems – then that is not love you feel anyway!

Love – true love – means to love without conditions, unconditional love. So the simple fact that you are having cellulite, acne, financial trouble, a cheating partner or what ever it is you are living that makes you dislike yourself and your life right now… it can be a blessing! This is YOUR opportunity to work on how YOU feel about yourself. And yes, how you feel about yourself does not have to be affected by how you look or what happens to you. But it takes a little time and practice to reorient your thinking.

We have become so adept at judging ourselves and comparing ourselves to others that that often becomes our most practiced way of thinking. But it is nothing but thoughts that we have continued to thinkwhen you start to deliberately choose more general and reliefgiving thoughts about yourself and life, you will soon begin to feel the elation with that way of thinking and that will inspire you to keep choosing improved thoughts.

Do you want to feel good? Do you want to enjoy life? Do you want to have fun? Then you have got to start liking yourself, as you are. When you start liking yourself you will not only feel better, you will not only like yourself but everything about you and your life will begin to improve as well. 

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He was unfaithful – how did I feel better again?

8 years ago I found out by accident that my boyfriend had been with another girl – and that he had lied about it for more than a year. At first I became totally emotionally numb for like 6 months. Then I started caring more about ME, what was important for me, how I wanted to FEEL. I completely let go of trying to control anything and focused more on general principles like “I want to be with a man who loves me, adores me, is attracted to me and truly wants to be with me” “if he leaves, then he is not a match to what I want anyway – I want someone who WANTS to be with me, only me” – I still have that attitude. 

Do I really want to live in a relationship where I have to control what he does, who he is with etc? No – I want to be with someone who WANTS to be with me. If he wants to be with me there is no need to second guess anything because it is ME he WANTS. 

We can’t force someone to treat us as we want them to – we can know how we want to be treated and know there are men out there who can gives us just that. Just like there are men who loves to be with more than one girl, there are men who loves to be with only one girl

Don’t give up on love or happiness just because of infidelity. It can be your opportunity to tune in to who YOU want to be, how YOU want to FEEL and it can be a golden opportunity for you to start loving yourself unconditionally. Yes, it can be your opportunity to find your way into your own freedom and empowerment. Whether you stay or go is irrelevant, you can do this either way. ❤

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