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No matter what situation you are in – you always have a choice: feel a little better or feel a little worse

How are you wanting to feel today? You really have a choice in this!

You might be going through a lot right now; perhaps people are mean to you, perhaps your relationship has a lot of issues, perhaps you have sever health issues or perhaps there is something else that you deem really difficult that is happening in your life. It doesn’t matter what it is, you always have a choice: feel a little better or feel a little worse.

Your mood, your emotional state, is not locked to the situation around you. Ever. You are in charge of your perspective and you can always look at things from different perspectives – therfore you can always affect how you feel.

You are never stuck, there is always hope. You just have to stop looking so intensely at the issue, back away in your perspective and take a more general approach. Stop pointing out what feels bad, stop complaining and stop blaming. Start soothing yourself instead. Start reaching for thoughts that feel like a little bit of relief. It is always possible, no matter the situation.

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A fun new habit that will improve your entire life

Have you been through a lot of negative things in your life?

Are there things in your life that you would like to improve?

What things do you secretly desire? To have your dream body? Finding the fountain of youth? To have endless abundance? Live with your dream partner? To feel confident, happy and empowered?

What ever your story might be and what ever it is you desire – you are in charge and you can do something about it, right now. Everything that happens to you happens for a reason and how you choose to react, what you choose to think about it and how you view every topic of your life affects what comes next. So it is never too late and it is never hopeless.

Begin right now to stop all your negative comments and statements about how it has been, how it is or how it will be. Begin to listen to your words and thoughts – when you hear yourself starting a negative sentence, just have fun with it and play a little by stopping, smiling and saying to yourself “oh my, I am doing it again – how cool that I am so aware of my thinking and what I am saying. I bet this will be fun and easy to gently lean a bit in a way that feels better:

What things do I already like?

What things naturally feel good to me?

What things do I really enjoy?

What brings me pleasure?

How do I want this person to act?

How do I want this situation to play out?

What things would I prefer about this?

If I could have anything I desired, what would I get? How would I feel?”

Just continue asking yourself questions like these every now and then to begin shifting your predominant focus. It is not the big arguments you have or the big drepressive thoughts you think that ruin your life – it it the little seemingly insignificant DAILY thoughts you think that lead to more thoughts that are alike those, which leads to beliefs and more conversations that feel the same way, and more people that reflects more of how you feel back to you until your focus has grown enough that you begin to get manifestations around you and in your own body.

You change it at the root, the cause – your seemingly insignificant thoughts. And that is easier than you think! Just begin with the small thoughts you think right now. If you feel worried, angry, resentful, depressed, insecure… or happy, confident, in love, empowered, satisfied and eager, all comes down to the little thoughts you choose to think in your day to day experience. And you can do something about that even with nothing in your life changing!

You can feel insecure and resentful and have cellulite or you can feel happy and empowered and have cellulite. How you feel – unconditionally – is what attracts what comes next. It is the difference between seeing the solutions or not. Recovery or not.

You can live in a loveless marriage and feel hopeless or you can live in a loveless marriage and feel hopeful. How you feel is the key that will open you up to what comes next.

Have fun with this! Don’t make such a big hairy deal about anything – your life is for you. You are supposed to view and experience contrast so you know what you prefer and come to new conclusions. Just begin to put your focus on what you now know you prefer and stop holding yourself back. โค

Rude, hurtful people – just remove yourself from them

When people are rude to you and treat you like shit, remove yourself from them. You don’t need to justify or explain, just leave them and move on with your life. They don’t deserve to be in your life if they bring nothing but negativity and pain.

You deserve to feel good, you deserve to do what feels good to you and you have to listen to your own inner guidance first and foremost – let them think, feel and believe as they choose to. It is completely irrellevant to you and your life. Follow your heart and love yourself unconditionally. Know that no one would ever ever be rude or hurtful towards anyone else if they truly loved themselves, therfore try to view them and their words and actions from a broader perspective. The pain and hurtful words they spew at others is nothing but an accurate reflection of their own inner pain. Whether they know it or not. However, it is not your job to help them change. That is their job. It is always an inside job. You can inspire them to change by caring about how you feel, loving yourself unconditionally and valuing and respecting yourself. And you can do that away from them. They do not have to be a part of your life in order to benefit from your alignment. Just remove yourself and move on!

When people treat you poorly ๐Ÿ’–

Love all that you are and appreciate everything you have been through ๐Ÿ’–

Your past made you who you are today but your NOW is even more valuable ๐Ÿ’–

Your past is of value because it made you who you are today. But your NOW is even more valuable because you can choose to NOW let go of all hurt, all pain and all feelings of being a victim, you can let go of all guilt, all blame, all resentment and all insecurity and begin to replace those emotions and thoughts with hope, optimism, self-love, kindness, respect and appreciation.

NOW is the only time when you can change. No one else can do it for you, only you. Choose to let the success stories of others inspire you, and begin right now. One small though at a time, be gente, kind and loving toward yourself in the process.

Let those painful experiences inspire you to now blossom into your full potential ๐Ÿ’–

It doesn’t matter what you have been through or what you are currently going through – everything can be of value to you, it is only a matter of perspective. You can choose to let it inspire you to blossom into the confident, happy, free and empowered being you truly are.

Let them be – you can feel good regardless โค

Why would such a beautiful girl like me hate myself for over 30 years and have no self-esteem? Here is why:

I got such a brilliant question today and here is my answer:

I grew up with an alcoholic father and my parents mentally abused me. I was sexually abused when I was 6 years old by 3 older guys, I was bullied in school, had reading and writing difficulties, had no friends, developed anorexia (an eating disorder) when I was 9 years old, had no friends during my entire school years, was raped by two guys when I was 17, ran away from home two weeks after that because my father’s alcohol abuse was insane and my parents were so verbally mean to me, I ran straight into the arms of a guy who physically and mentally abused me for over two years until he was sentenced to prison for it. During this time my mother died. I had to go through the two trials all alone – I had no one. I was completely alone, no friends and no one in the world that I could talk to. I did not want to live anymore – I even tried to take my own life. Then my father died, I got pregnant and had to make an abortion…and the man of my dreams cheated on me and lied about it for over a year until the truth came out in the most painful way ever… somewhere there, around the age of 24, I decided that enough is enough and I chose to change my thinking. I started working on liking myself. I did it all by myself – I never told ANYONE about any of these things that happened to me in my childhood/teenage years. It was not until I was almost 30 years old I began talking about it.

So, I guess this answers your question on why such a beautiful girl like me, hated myself for almost 30 years and had absolutely no self-esteem ๐Ÿคฃโค

How you FEEL has nothing to do with the way you look. I had my desired, dream body, but I hated myself and had no self-esteem for almost 30 years. Beauty does not mean confidence. You cant see how you feel, it is 100% about your own thinking – and you CAN do something about that. If I could, all by myself, anyone can. ๐ŸŒนโค

A strong and freeing message

No more mindless people pleasing – start mindfully loving, honoring and caring about yourself. Listen to what calls you, listen to what feels good to you and find your own emotional stability. Then choose to flow love and appreciation toward others as well from that stable emotional place. But find your emotional balance first, never let it depend on others’ opinions of you.

You are not the likes or the dislikes of other people. You are not what they say you are – you are what you choose to be. Decide who you want to be and how you want to feel, put all your energy into that and never ever second guess yourself again because of other people’s disapproval.

You are strong, you are beautiful, you are smart, you are talented, you are free, you are empowered – you are what you say you are. Lovingly embrace yourself unconditionally and begin to love yourself. You are loved simply because you exist, there is nothing you need to do, should do or have to do. This is your life, you are the main character in your story, choose to live your life in ways that please you. Allow others to follow their own bliss aswell. No judgement, no right or wrong. Simply choices. โค

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