It is never too late and it is never hopeless ❤

When you break down after having had an awful reaction to an unwanted situation, gently sooth yourself into feeling relief. It is ok to mess up. It is ok to lose control and get upset. But it doesn’t feel good so now is the time to sooth yourself into making peace with what happened and then begin to focus on how you want to react and how you want to feel next time.

It is never too late and it is never hopeless. The time to start again is now. Believe in yourself and believe in your goodness and you will rise above and succeed.


The one thing that hurt me the most and ripped me apart ❤

It was not the sexual abuse, it was not the physical abuse, it was not the mental abuse, it was not the eating disorders, it was not the bullying, it was not the loneliness, it was not my alcoholic parents, it was not the deaths of my parents… or any of the other things that happened to me.

I was the one who let the opinions of others affect my opinion of me, which ripped me apart.

And I was the one who decided to start liking myself again.

No matter what – YOU – have all the power you will ever need within. ❤


Someone who hurts you – a rare and precious treasure ❤

“To meet someone who really hurts you, is to meet a rare and precious treasure. Hold that person in high esteem, and make full use of the opportunity to eradicate your defects and make progress on the path. If you cannot yet feel love and compassion for those who treat you badly, it is a sign that your mind has not been fully transformed, and that you need to keep working on it with increased application.”

– Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche

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This is an interesting view on how to see your difficulties. Everything can be of value and everything can inspire you to become stronger as a person. You can find value in everything that happens to you – including the behaviour of others – especially those who treat you badly.

Those who love you and always approve of you and what you do don’t teach you to love unconditionally. They are just easy to appreciate and love because they act in loving ways. But those who behave in deterimental ways, they are your true inspirers and teachers of unconditional love and unconditional happiness. If you can find your way to love again and to feel happy again – even though they did this awful thing now you are free. You don’t need them to behave in ways that please you, in order to feel pleased. What an empowered gift! ❤❤❤


Anger management – a reliefgiving perspective

You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger.

~ Buddha

I love this quote because it says so much. There is no judgement or punishment outside of you – the real punishment is the negative emotions themselves and the toll they take on your mental health, your physical health and everything else that matters to you.

Harboring anger, letting it grow within and letting it burst out from your every cell – that is extremely detrimental to you.

Even though you think life sucks and that you think those aspects need to change in order for you to feel good… even though you feel completely justified in your anger – it is still very deterimental to you. Let it go. See your anger as hot inner flames that you are choosing to breathe out when you feel them burn within. Let the cool, clear and fresh relief wash through you and cool you down, gently. It is not worth it – just let it go.


Choosing a more hopeful perspective, even though you are afraid – that is where magic happens!

There is such amazing magic in deliberately choosing your thoughts. You don’t have to complain or point out flaws more than just a brief moment, you can move on from the experience by directing your focus on what you now know you prefer and how you now know you want to feel.

Regurgitation of what happens to you is not a skill – it is simple sloppy focus. Easily done but not empowering! Choosing a slightly different perspective, even though it would be easier to complain… choosing a more general perspectice, even though it would be easier to criticise… choosing a more hopeful perspective, even though you are afraid… choosing a more reliefgiving perspective, even though you are sad… now that takes skill and that is both freeing and enpowering. Not only will you feel better while you practice this, you will affect everything that happens to you as well.


When everyone asks you for money

This month I have help out three friends financially. It began two weeks ago with a friend who I love dearly – he didn’t have any money left so I took him to the store and let him pick out all the groceries he needed. It was a lot of fun helping him out with this. I have helped him out financially a lot the last 10 months.

A week after that a very close friend of mine had made some bad choices (bought a lot of clothes and things without thinking about what to do when he had spent all his money) and had no money left. I have chosen to help him out fincially for the rest of the month. I have helped him out financially for over 10 years.

And last night I received a text from a neighbour that I have only met twice (in August last year) who has two little babies, they asked if I could give them some money since they didn’t have any money left this month… it didn’t feel ok. I have given them money 4 times since August… but I thought about their two little babies and the thought of them not having any food made it easy for me to give them some money.

And why do I write about this? Because I feel I have reached a point where I have become a person who people come to when they need money. I don’t want to be that person anymore. Sure it is fun to be able to help so many people each month and still have a lot of money left for me and my babies… but I feel this is no longer the right way of dealing with these “friends”. They only become more and more dependent on me and my money. I want them to find their own freedom and empowerment, their own responsibility for their finances.

My intention for next month is clear. I know what my focus is. It is time for a change – and I will begin right now.


Your acne and your cellulite does not make you any less beautiful! 🌹

I see who you are. I see who you are beyond the external things, beyond your clothes, beyond your makeup, beyond your body.

You are beautiful. You are so loved and adored for who you really are. There is no need to feel sad, ashamed, blameful, jealous or to wish you looked more like this or that. You are beautiful, right here and right now.

It is time for you to once and for all make peace with your body, make peace with your face, make peace with your skin, make peace with your personality and your emotions. Make peace with it all, look beyond all of it and see who you really are. Reach for the unconditional love that flows to you endlessly and eternally.


Even the worst of days are of value ❤


How can I turn my mood around?


Well, if you feel off and you really want to feel better – don´t force yourself. Be very gentle and kind to yourself. Remember that all emotions are good! You are not bad or less valuable if you feel bad today, or this week, this month, this year or if you have felt bad your entire life. It is only emotions and they are part of our human experience. No judgement in that. However, if you really want to feel better then you have to begin changing your perspective a little. How you feel is always about the perspecitive you choose to have at any given moment – the thoughts you choose to think. You don´t feel bad your entire life because of something that happened when you were six years old – you feel bad because of the thoughts you choose to think NOW. And you can change that! There are always different ways of looking at everything!

The little daily thoughts you think affect everything about you. Not only your mood, your attitude but also what you see in others, how you view the experiences you have and what actions and words you choose.

The little daily thoughts might seem insignificant but they are the most valuable keys to why you feel the way you do. If you feel sad or depressed, you have not been thinking good-feeling thoughts about yourself or your life. However, you cannot turn around all at once – but you don’t have to. It is enough that you slow the negative momentum by acknowledging that you feel bad, acknowledge that you want to feel better and then begin to sooth yourself into making peace with where you are. That is enough.

When you have made peace with where you are you have allowed yourself some relief. From there you can begin to open up your perspective in a more general way by soothing yourself further. Make yourself feel that is is ok, that how you feel is alright. Then begin to look for something that feels a little bit better to you. Perhaps you enjoyed the food you ate for lunch, perhaps you liked the sweater your co-worker was wearing today, perhaps you enjoyed that moment when a friend made you laugh, perhaps you liked the way your hair looked this morning… begin to look for little things everywhere you go that you enjoy. Make more room for those things in your mind. Let those tgood-feeling things sooth you further and begin to enjoy focusing on more things that feel good.

It is enough with gentle steps. One step at a time. There is no rush. Allow yourself some time to gently lean in a more good-feeling direction. It is enough.


Mistakes that bring you to your knees

When you have made the same mistakes a thousand times and you feel like you just want to give up; sooth yourself into remembering that it is ok! You are doing the best you can with the knowledge and awareness you have at the time.

Don’t beat up on yourself for the mistakes you have made, no matter how many times you have made them or how seemingly wrong they are. Punishing yourself by feeling guilt or blame will only make things worse. Love yourself unconditionally and give yourself the opportunity to start again, right now – fresh and new.

Keep focusing on how you want to behave, how you want to feel and the desired outcome. See yourself succeeding with what you desire, see yourself being the person you want to be. Embrace yourself and believe in yourself. You can change, you can choose differently and you can succeed.


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