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A people pleaser learning to say no

Relax! You are not judged – you are loved unconditionally, eternally

The work that will ultimately change the world, begins within ❤

The stalker came back a third time!

Ok, this time I was really mentally prepared. At 8pm the doorbell rang a couple of times. I knew it would be this old man again, my instincts told me so.

My boyfriend checked who it was through the window again and yes, it was my stalker. I asked my boyfriend to open the door and let this man know we don’t want him here anymore. I stayed right behind my boyfriend the whole time. The old man had more gifts for me – more bread that he had baked – but my boyfriend said no in a very firm way and the old man quickly went away.

I no longer feel afraid of this man. It still feels uncomfortable but I am no longer worried. If he comes back again I feel confident that I can deal with the situation easily.

Never change yourself in order to fit in to their version of how life should be lived

Let them follow their own truth. Let them believe in what works for them. Never ever compare yourself to them or change yourself in order to fit in to their version of how life should be lived – we are not supposed to be the same! We are all unique, not just in appearance and personality – but in our preferences, desires and beliefs as well! That is why your choices have to be made while listening to your own inner guidance, not the opinions of others.

Why should I think good thoughts about those evil people?

The person that needs to do something is not that person. The person that needs to do something is you! Some of those people in your life do not deserve your good thoughts. In other words, “They are bad. They are evil. They are wrong! They are inappropriate. They do not deserve your good thoughts,” and you stubbornly are not going to give them any. They may not deserve your good thoughts. But you do. You deserve your good thoughts about them. This is what the Art of Allowing is. It’s allowing my own Well-being.”

Abraham Hicks

It is never too late and it is never hopeless ❤

When you break down after having had an awful reaction to an unwanted situation, gently sooth yourself into feeling relief. It is ok to mess up. It is ok to lose control and get upset. But it doesn’t feel good so now is the time to sooth yourself into making peace with what happened and then begin to focus on how you want to react and how you want to feel next time.

It is never too late and it is never hopeless. The time to start again is now. Believe in yourself and believe in your goodness and you will rise above and succeed.

“You have to do this” – no, you don’t. Follow what feels good to you

Never force yourself to do something just because someone else wants you to do it. Always listen to your inner guidance – does it feel good to you to do it? Then do it. If it feels off, no matter how slight, don’t do it. If you really don’t have a choice about it – work on improving how you feel about the action before you do it.

It is never of value to do something you believe is wrong. It is always of value to do what you belive is right.

Follow the crowd and their expectations? No more

You don’t have to follow the crowd. You don’t have to live your life in ways others expect you to. There is not only one right way of doing anything – there are endless right ways and you get to choose what works best for you.

People may expect you to be social, be a mother in a certain way or perhaps they expect you to marry. It doesn’t matter what it is that they or society or the world expects you to do or choose. What do you want? This is your life, and you get to choose how you want to live it.

There is no point in trying to be a people pleaser because when you do something you don’t feel called to doing, just to please someone else, you go against yourself and it is detrimental to your emotional health and even your physical health.

Start valuing yourself by listening to how you feel and choose what feels better to you. Sooth yourself by acknowledging that there truly is no right or wrong way to do anything. You get to choose. As long as you feel good it will be of value to you and everyone else as well. You can harm no one when you are true to who you are by honoring how you feel and following your bliss.

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