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All those things you are trying to hide are actually your most beautiful and unique features ❤️

Accepting yourself and how you look might take time, even several decades. It took me + 30 years to begin to like myself.

All those things you are trying to hide are actually your most beautiful and unique features.

I feel deeply, I am very sensitive and emotional. I now consider it a strenght. When I am sad, I am in deep despair. When I love, I love passionatly. When I am happy, I feel high on life. If I care about you, I truly deeply CARE about you. I feel everything, and that is one of my greatest strenghts.

I have snow white skin, all year round. I am out in the sun, playing with my babies sometimes 7-10 hours a day during the summer, yet my skin shines as brightly as silky white snow. I now consider this one of my beautiful, unique features. I love the contrast between my snow white skin, my blonde hair and the colorful clothes that I love to wear, (especially red clothes). It is such a beautiful contrast.

I used to hate wearing pants when I was a teenager because my legs and my butt never really fitted into the pants I tried on. My butt were always too big and my legs were always too long – but now I consider this one of my most loved features. I am very curvy, naturally, and very fit. I love my body shape! I adore wearing tight pants, skirts and dresses that highlight my beautiful curves.

I no longer try to hide who I am, I embrace all aspects of me and I practice self love and self acceptance every day. It has changed my entire way of looking at myself. It made me go from hating myself and having no self esteem what so ever, to actually loving myself exactly as I am. ❤️

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The scars on your face, the pain when you smile and the shame in your eyes – it is temporary 🙏

The scars on your face, the pain when you smile and the shame in your eyes – it is temporary, it does not define who you truly are. These are shallow and temporary aspects, your beauty shines from within and with time your beauty will radiate from every aspect of your skin as well.

Give yourself time. A scar needs time to heal, and you need to love yourself unconditionally, as you are. Your pain does not limit you, it is your inspiration to become even stronger.

Stress and any other negative emotions are wonderful reminders 🙏

A gentle reminder for today: go slower and breathe more deeply. Stop a few times every now and then to just close your eyes, put your hand on your chest and feel how strong and peaceful your heart beats.

Relax. Stop making such a big hairy deal out of everything. So, people gossip about you? Let them. So, your body is sick and you feel confined by it? Make peace with it. Make peace with where ever you are, no matter how seemingly “bad” it is. Just make peace with what ever it is you have to deal with, breathe more intentionally and allow yourself to go slower.

Stress and any other negative emotion is a wonderful reminder to you that you have forgotten what truly matters in life. What truly matters is not the money, not your work, not your schedule, not your face, not your body’s, condition… Not any of those things you worry about matter more than how you feel. And how you feel has to be unconditional. You can choose to feel fearful or hopeful relative to the situation you are faced with, and when you choose a more light-hearted hopeful perspective – you have figured out how to let the situation improve.

How to change your self-hating insecurities to self-loving strenght 🥰

How you feel about yourself does not depend on the experiences you have been through, what people say about you, how you look or how your parents treated you. How you feel about yourself depends on one thing only: what YOU think about yourself. And that is something you are 100% in control of.

If you don’t like yourself, you are thinking negative thoughts about yourself every day. Lots of thoughts – thousands. But you can, little by little, begin to change your thoughts. Beliefs are only thoughts you think alot. So even if the foundation of your insecurities and lack of self-esteem was created 50 years ago by the way your parents treated you when you were little, it is always possible to change how you think and therfore how you feel.

Begin today by stop caring what other people think and say about you. This takes time, but you can begin to at least be willing to let that hurtful habit go. Have you ever heard of Lizzie Velasquez? If you haven’t, please listen to this beautiful soul and her journey. https://youtu.be/QzPbY9ufnQY

Also begin to say 3 positive affirmations about yourself daily, write them down, say them to yourself as you look in the mirror and think them several hundreds of times through out your day. If you really want to change old beliefs, repetition is a wonderful tool. 🥰 With time you will crowd out the old thoughts and the new thoughts will become what you automatically believe about yourself.

  • What three positive affirmations will you choose to think about yourself today?

Make your own “fuck-it list”

1) Stop caring about what other people think – this is your life and if you want to feel good you have to care about how you feel and what YOU want.

2) Start valuing yourself – listen to what calls you, live out your good-feeling desires and again, care about how you feel.

3) Don’t feel embarressed or ashamed! Do what you want, be playful and allow yourself to enjoy the fun in life.

4) Don’t create a home and a lifestyle to fit in to the expectations of others – you don’t have to live and do as others want you to, you don’t have to own a house, a car, get married or have children if that doesn’t call you! You don’t have to have the perfect garden or the biggest cleanest house either! Allow yourself a fun and satisfying lifestyle!

5) Fuck the “you have to be proper” mentality! Wear the sexy dress, enjoy your body and live out your joys, your passions and your desires.

6) Stop comparing yourself to others – allow yourself to be inspired by others while you love and honor yourself in all ways possible. Allow yourself to be you in all ways that please you.

7) Stop the self hatred and self criticism!!! Just stop all the negative thinking and all the negative conversations about yourself and gently replace that with better feeling thoughts about yourself. Make it your life goal to learn to love yourself unconditionally. No matter what you look like, what you have been through or what you have done – you can learn to love yourself and that will make all the difference.

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Most importantly – don’t follow other people’s lists or advice blindly – listen to your own inner guidance.

When you feel awful and lost in despair

On days when you feel awful, when you see nothing but darkness and gloom no matter where you look – don’t look in the mirror so much. Just give yourself a break, give your mind a rest for a day, a week or as long as you need. Focus on other things that are easier to appreciate. Distract yourself as best you can and keep telling yourself that these awful feelings are temporary, you will feel better again. There is nothing you have to do – don’t try to change your negative thinking, just relax, distract and make peace with how you feel.

You are always beautiful, life is always wonderful but sometimes your own insecurity and lackful thinking will cloud your vision. What you see in yourself, in others and in everything that happens is always an accurate reflection of the thoughts you think. Relax, you will feel better again. Let yourself feel awful for a while, it is no big deal.

Inner strenght looks so good on you 🌟

The most beautiful face shines with happiness and love. The most beautiful body radiates inner strenght and confidence.

You create your beauty by building your inner balance and your inner strenght. You can sculpt a body with exercise, you can paint your face with makeup but those are only shallow parts of beauty. If you build your strenght from within, you will radiate happiness, confidence, passion and a zest for life and that is more beautiful than anything else.

Don’t be afraid of showing your beautiful body

You would never ask a flower to close its petals just because it is too beautiful or because it shines brighter than all the other flowers… You would never talk behind a flower’s back just because you think its colorful petals attracts too much attention… So why would you ever think derogatory thoughts about a woman who loves her body and likes to wear beautiful clothes?

There is nothing wrong with loving your body – quite the contrary! Most people spend their entire life hating their bodies, trying to change it, hide it, control it and make it fit in with the accepted way of looking according to society. Why??? To please others? To not attract too much attention? To not be picked on?

Have you ever seen a music video or a picture on instagram of famous pop-stars these days? Of Beyonce? Of Nicki Minaj? Of Ava Max? Of Miley Cyrus? Do they hide their bodies? No! Are they ashamed of their beautiful curves? No! Do they confirm to the accepted way of dressing, according to society at large? No! They let their clothes high-light their bodies’ beauty, sensuality and curves. Why is that accepted? Because she is famous!? Because it is a music video!? Because she is rich!? Because she has millions of followers!? Because she can sing!? So… if a person is famous it is ok to post very sexy pictures on their instagram account – but not if you are a regular, unfamous person? Then you are tacky, slutty and should be ashamed of yourself? Really? Do you see the pardox here?

Women should dress the way they feel comfortable in, the way they want to – and we all like different things!!! Some people feel comfortable in baggy clothes, others in tight clothes etc. Women should love their bodies and be proud of their unique bodies no matter what they look like! There is nothing wrong with wearing beautiful clothes or posting sexy pictures online, or uploading sexy music videos – whether you are a famous millionair or not should not set the standards for what you are allowed to wear, post and do! Other people’s opinions should not decide either – you should!

There is value, beauty and goodness in everyone 🙏

Choose to see the best in everyone and everything. As you interact with someone, take a few seconds to think about what you really like about this person. Let those good-feeling aspects be your guiding light as you look at them.

The more you practice looking for the best in others, the easier it will be to find it in yourself as well. Be kind, have an open heart and lovingly believe there is value, beauty and goodness in everyone.

Love and honor your body – an inside job 🙏❤

One of the most important things you can do is learning to love yourself, unconditionally. No matter what you look like or how you have felt about yourself up until this moment – you can learn to love yourself.

Even if you have spent your entire life hating yourself, you can change your thinking and you can begin to love yourself now.

No one who thinks hurtful thoughts about their own body truly feels good within. All it takes is a decision, a decision that you no longer want to hate yourself. A decision that you truly want to feel better. Then, practice shifting your thinking every day. Not just about yourself and about your body, but about all things! It is a lot easier to begin looking for things you appreciate and things you like in other things, situations and other people than with yourself – so begin with the easier things! Once you have practiced a kind, loving attitude of appreciation relative to others, you will automatically begin to see yourself in a new light. It takes time, it takes practice and above all, it takes a willingness to feel better. But you can do it.

I spent the first 25 years of my life hating myself and my body. Then I decided I didn’t want to hate myself anymore, I didn’t want to feel so awful within. So, little by little I began shifting my way of thinking, and little by little I aquired a new way of looking at everything and everyone around me. Once I had reached this point, I began looking at myself with new eyes. It took time. It took practice. It wasn’t easy, but I did it. Now, 10 years later I truly love and honor myself no matter what other people choose to think, say and do to me. Loving yourself is an inside job.

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