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Why are some people so mean?

No one who truly loves themselves, who are kind, loving and caring toward themselves would ever hurt another person. How you act and react is a pure reflection of how you feel, and especially how you feel about yourself.

Those who lash out in anger are having emotional pain within and doesn’t know that they have the power to change how they feel. Instead they blame that one and that one… instead they argue, they start wars, they hurt, they try to control… instead of focusing on the only thing that works.

Those who constantly find flaws, criticise and dislike… they are not liking themselves, they are not kind to themselves and they don’t know they have all the power within to change how they feel. That is why they think they feel better when they put others down – it feels better than to feel insecure and powerless. But it doesn’t last so they have to do it again and again… instead of focusing on the only thing that works.

You have to begin with how you feel. You have to begin to sooth yourself, value yourself, care about how you feel and learn to love yourself.

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You’re hot, then you’re cold – fuck you life

The first half of the day was really cold, I had to wear my autumn pants and a long sleeved top at work. But when I got home the weather had become a little warmer so I chose a shorter top for the afternoon.

The weather has been really weird the last couple of days. It has been super cold – almost like autumn. And today it was very bi-polar like πŸ˜‚. Cold, then hot … then cold, then hot again… kind of like my mood lately. A lot of things have happened and are happening around me and I have not yet found my emotional stability.

Sometimes I just want to give up, say fuck you to life and run away. Just thinking that thought brings me a little relief. Fuck you life. Fuck you work. Fuck you new assignments. Fuck you annoying person at the day care center. Fuck you.

Yes indeed, it does feel better. I guess can stay in this general negative place for a while before I reach for more relief in more positive, general thoughts.

Let them be – you can feel good regardless β€

Those who hurt you are of immense value and help you on your journey β€

They are not victims!

It can feel really hard to see a loved one go through difficulties. Especially if they withdraw and donΒ΄t want to change. But you have to remind yourself that they have equal access to source as everyone else on the planet, and they have equal access to the ever present guidance that flows from within – all they have to do is want to feel better and they will begin to hear it.

You cannot make them change their mind, that is not your job. You cannot arrange everything around them in pleasing ways so that they will feel better – feeling better has to come from within, otherwise they grow dependent on seeing pleasing things around them and will not have a stable emotional balance to stand on when bad things happen.

It is not your job to make them feel better, however, you can be of immense value to them by teaching by your example! Be the stable, loving, good-feeling, shining light of unconditional happiness that you truly are and see them as the free and empowered being you know they really are. They are not victims! They are strong, capable, free and empowered beings who have temporarily lost their emotional balance because of the way they have been thinking and focusing. But they CAN do something about that! And when they begin to realize that, they will begin to get their sense of freedom and empowerment back.

Hurtful actions comes from inner pain πŸŒΉ

Time for forgiveness β€

The rascals are not the ones that bother you β€

Remind yourself that you are in charge of your life. You are the one who is in charge of your perception of you. Others might not see you through eyes of love at all times, but you can!

When you let the actions and words of another bother you – see it as a gift. A gift that gives you the opportunity to refocus and recreate your emotional balance. See it as an opportunity to strenghten your unconditional, loving perception of you.

Someone who hurts you – a rare and precious treasure β€

“To meet someone who really hurts you, is to meet a rare and precious treasure. Hold that person in high esteem, and make full use of the opportunity to eradicate your defects and make progress on the path. If you cannot yet feel love and compassion for those who treat you badly, it is a sign that your mind has not been fully transformed, and that you need to keep working on it with increased application.”

– Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche

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This is an interesting view on how to see your difficulties. Everything can be of value and everything can inspire you to become stronger as a person. You can find value in everything that happens to you – including the behaviour of others – especially those who treat you badly.

Those who love you and always approve of you and what you do don’t teach you to love unconditionally. They are just easy to appreciate and love because they act in loving ways. But those who behave in deterimental ways, they are your true inspirers and teachers of unconditional love and unconditional happiness. If you can find your way to love again and to feel happy again – even though they did this awful thing now you are free. You don’t need them to behave in ways that please you, in order to feel pleased. What an empowered gift! ❀❀❀

Are you a grumpy old toad? Well, it is a choice – and you can choose differently!

Isnt it amazing that our thoughts have such power? What you choose to think affects your mood, your behaviour and the action you choose to participate in.

Even if you have been a grumpy old toad your entire life, you can still choose different thoughts now and as you continue to do so you can go from being the most negative person you know to the most loving, caring, sweet and positive person you know. It is all up to you. And it really, only is about the little daily choices you make, the choices of thoughts – and you can do something about that.

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