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From raging insecurities to strong empowerment 🌼

“(…) Can you hear the whispers all across the room?
You feel her eyes all over you like cheap perfume
You’re beautiful, but misunderstood
So why you tryna be just like the neighborhood?
I can see it, I know what you’re feelin’
So let me tell you ’bout my little secret
I’m a little crazy underneath this
Underneath this
Do you ever feel like a misfit?
Everything inside you is dark and twisted
Oh, but it’s okay to be different
‘Cause baby, so am I (So am I, so am I, so am I)
Do you ever feel like an outcast?
You don’t have to fit into the format
Oh, but it’s okay to be different
‘Cause baby, so am I (So am I, so am I, so am I-I-I-I-I) (…) “

Ava Max,” So am I”

No matter what you look like, what body type you have or what clothes you have – people will look at you and some will judge you. There will always be those who love the way you look and those who completely disapprove of everything that you are. Let them think as they choose to.

The beautiful part about life is when you finally give up trying to please everyone else, when you finally shake loose from caring about their disapproval or approval. There is so much freedom and empowerment to be felt when you start giving yourself the love and approval you previously tried to get from other people and external things.

It is a process. It takes time. I began working on this 12 years ago, when I was 24. I have come such a long way, I went from having no self esteem what so ever, from feeling like a helpless victim and feeling I had to please everyone around me in order to deserve to be liked a little – I went from all that to really liking myself, inside and outside no matter what other people think of me. I began to appreciate life, to appreciate all experiences – especially the bad ones because they helped inspire me to now become stronger.

I would not even be the happy, confident and empowered woman I am today without every single bad thing that ever happened to me. So I am grateful, for all of it. My entire way of viewing life is 100% different from how I viewed life 12 years ago. If I can change all these limiting insecurities, anyone can.

And no, the external things didn’t change before I felt better. I still look exactly the same way as I did before, I have the same job, the same relationship, I have still gone through all those awful things in my life that left me on the brink of despair – and I have since then gone through even more negative experiences in all aspects of my life. And yet here I am, happier and stronger than ever. Loving life, loving my body and feeling appreciation for every step along my way. Feeling appreciation for every rascal that ever hurt me because I am who I am today because of it all. It is an endless journey that I intend to enjoy. 🙏

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A magnificent day ⭐

Today has been great. I woke up feeling really rested and satisfied with my life. I had a really cozy morning with my two little babies and as we drove to the day care centre we listened to a lot of wonderful music and we all sang along, of course 😁.

My day at work was absolutely wonderful. I love working as a teacher – it is so much fun to meet all my students and inspire them to see their own possibilities and strenghts.

Before I went home to my babies I went to the store and bought some blueberries for them – they adore blueberries. 🥰🥰🥰

We had a cozy evening together and after I had put my babies to bed I took some time just for me. I went down to our basement and worked out for 20 minutes. It feels so good to move and stretch my body. 🙏

But the very best moment of my day is right now as I am lying in bed in the darkness and stillness. It feels so good to just let my body and mind rest and recharge. A magnificent day.

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Don’t be afraid of showing your beautiful body

You would never ask a flower to close its petals just because it is too beautiful or because it shines brighter than all the other flowers… You would never talk behind a flower’s back just because you think its colorful petals attracts too much attention… So why would you ever think derogatory thoughts about a woman who loves her body and likes to wear beautiful clothes?

There is nothing wrong with loving your body – quite the contrary! Most people spend their entire life hating their bodies, trying to change it, hide it, control it and make it fit in with the accepted way of looking according to society. Why??? To please others? To not attract too much attention? To not be picked on?

Have you ever seen a music video or a picture on instagram of famous pop-stars these days? Of Beyonce? Of Nicki Minaj? Of Ava Max? Of Miley Cyrus? Do they hide their bodies? No! Are they ashamed of their beautiful curves? No! Do they confirm to the accepted way of dressing, according to society at large? No! They let their clothes high-light their bodies’ beauty, sensuality and curves. Why is that accepted? Because she is famous!? Because it is a music video!? Because she is rich!? Because she has millions of followers!? Because she can sing!? So… if a person is famous it is ok to post very sexy pictures on their instagram account – but not if you are a regular, unfamous person? Then you are tacky, slutty and should be ashamed of yourself? Really? Do you see the pardox here?

Women should dress the way they feel comfortable in, the way they want to – and we all like different things!!! Some people feel comfortable in baggy clothes, others in tight clothes etc. Women should love their bodies and be proud of their unique bodies no matter what they look like! There is nothing wrong with wearing beautiful clothes or posting sexy pictures online, or uploading sexy music videos – whether you are a famous millionair or not should not set the standards for what you are allowed to wear, post and do! Other people’s opinions should not decide either – you should!

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