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Feeling blue – go for blue, pink or red 😊

Whenever I feel sad I always change clothes – putting on something blue, pink or red always brings me relief.

  • Do you have a special color or a special clothes item that always makes you feel better?
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Treat yourself with kindness and respect ❤

Just take gentle baby steps. Think of each day as a new opportunity to love yourself more and be kinder to yourself. One thing at a time, not only one day at a time but one hour and even one moment at a time.

Release all stress, all worry, all insecurity and all fear and lovingly fill your mind with thoughts of kindness and love. Think thoughts that bring you relief, like:

I honor myself, I care about how I feel, I listen to my body’s messages with love, I treat myself with kindness and respect. I am doing the best I can in each moment, given the beliefs, desires, awareness, knowledge I have and the emotional place I am in at the time. I am doing alright, I am doing ok. One step at a time. I am lovingly supporting myself every step of the way.

Pause your mind and ease into a reliefgiving scenario 🌱

Take a break mentally. Close your eyes, relax and take a deep breath. Imagine a scenario that feels like relief to you. Perhaps a waterfall in the forest…

Imagine yourself there, feel the soothing atmosphere embrace you and comfort you. Feel the cool relief wash through your body. Feel how much lighter and relaxed you feel as you stay in the scenario for a while and just enjoy the moment.

Do this from time to time through out your day. Find moments here and there were you just press pause mentally on everything and find relief from your inner scenario.

It doesn’t matter what you are going through or what you have done – you can find relief and you can feel better again. It begins with the small, seemingly insignificant things like what you are choosing to think and say. Therefore, take some time to pause your mind and just ease into your inner reliefgiving scenario.

The one thing that made me feel relief when my mother died ❤

Sometimes it just seems unfair. Today I got to know that a person that I have know for many years is going to die sometime in June/July/August. Not much time life. Why?

I remember feeling the same cold, dark quietness within me when I was 18 years old, in May 2002, when a doctor told us my mother had only a few months left to live. There was nothing they could do back then either. It was cancer then too. Why? My mom died in September that year, on 11/9 2002. 4 months after we had spoken to the doctor.

When she had died I remember feeling chocked that the world around us just kept on living, that life just kept moving forward – as if her life ment nothing. I remember how painful it was for me, how many burning tears of despair I wept… the endless black hole within me. The difficulty to breathe at night, when it was dark. The anxiety and death wish I began to feel.

I remember driving home to my parents house, spending the night going through old photographs of my mother… going through her closet to find something that I could take home with me and keep as a reminder. But nothing helped until one night, shortly after. I dreamt a very strong dream. I dreamt that I went back to my parents house again, that I went into a specific room, looked up to my right at a specific spot on a shelf, that I took down a magazine holder there and pulled something out if it. Then I woke up.

The dream was incredibly intense, felt incredibly real and was incredibly clear and detailed. As I woke up I felt I HAD TO GO AND DO WHAT I HAD DONE IN THAT DREAM. And so I did.

I went to my parents house again, went into that specific room, looked up to my right on the shelf, saw a magazine holder right where I had looked in my dream. Took it down, looked inside it and found my mom’s journal from the year when her father died (when she was in her early twenties). In it she had written exactly how she felt when her father had died and how she made herself feel relief about it.

Now THAT was an incredible experience that made me feel so much relief about my mother’s death. There is absolutely no way that I would ever have gone in to that room and looked in that magazine holder if I had not dreamt that dream. No way. I had no idea she had kept a journal from that year – she had never ever mentioned it or anything about her father’s death either. I found this simply because of my dream. I knew some how that it was a message from my mother, and that belief gave me relief.

Death cannot be meaningless, death cannot be a sentence, death cannot be a punishment – death cannot be the end.

I have come to believe that death is just a shift of perspective. Yes, you leave your body but who you really are continues to live and shine brighter than ever. I have no evidence, no facts, no stories told by dead people… just my belief. It gives me comfort, it gives me relief and it makes me feel better about my parent’s deaths, my student’s death, my friends’ deaths and everyone else’s death as well, including my own.

So yes, I felt that same dark, empty quietness within me when I heard the news today, but I also feel there is meaning in life as well as in death. There is no end, only a change of perspective. He will forever live on, this is just a transition. His pain will end and this movie called his life here on earth at this time will end too, but it is not the end of who he really is. ❤

When unwanted things are happening to you 24/7 – break the negative spell

It is so easy to just look around and react to what you are hearing, seeing and experiencing. But there is no power in that – true power lies in first choosing how you want to feel, unconditionally.

It is possible but it takes a little practice. It is easy to freak out when unwanted things are happening to you 24/7 – but someone has to break that negative spell and that someone is you. And you don’t do it by demanding the other person to change or the circumstances to go away – you do it by first choosing how you want to feel and make that feeling unconditional.

It will come to you when you allow ❤

Let go of the uncomfortable weight of other people’s expectations and opinions

Let go of your worry, of your doubt. Let go of the uncomfortable weight of other people’s expectations and opinions. Let it go and embrace your freedom.

Hide away from the world and sooth yourself into feeling better ❤

You don’t have to do things that feel off to you, just say no and give yourself space. Let them criticise, let them wonder, let them laugh. Your life is not theirs – how you feel and what you desire cannot be felt or understood by them anyway.

Allow yourself to follow your own path. Hide away from the world for a while and sooth yourself into feeling better. This too shall pass, you will find relief and you will feel good again.

🌸 A break from everything 🌸

How to solve all your negative, emotional patterns

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Sometimes all you need is to take a step back, take a deep breath and allow yourself some time to relax. You are the main character in your life and even though people around you might want you to do a lot of things for them – you have to decide whether you want to do these things or if you want to do something else.

There is no value in trying to please everyone at work, at home and all your friends while you burn your own candle at both ends. Give yourself a moment to relax and find your own inner peace. Ask yourself what matters most in life for you. What do you want to do with your life? How do you want to live? How do you want to feel? Begin in these general terms in order to generate general answers – it is a lot easier to begin in a general way if you have been in a negative emotional place, too caught up in the specifics of the situation. So, keep going general in your questions: What matters most to me at work? How do I want to feel at work? What do I enjoy most? Continue to ask general questions about the topic you are thinking about. If it feels slightly off, then you have gone too specific too soon. Just back away again and think about your life. What matters to me in life? What brings me joy in life? And so on.

You don’t have to solve all negative emotional blocks all at once, nor can you. It is enough that you give yourself a gentle, relaxing break mentally and that you go more general in your thinking until you feel better.

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