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When your heart is full of sadness – how do you find relief?

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Some days I do not feel like doing anything other than being alone, in the dark. How do I deal with those days? I sooth myself in many different ways. One of my favorite ways of soothing myself is to eat something delicious. Therefore, I make sure to treat myself to something delicious often throughout my days.

Sometimes it makes me feel better to look at beautiful pictures of nature, rain, the ocean… or listen to my favorite soothing music during the breaks at work. At home I usually don’t have time to relax during the days because my little babies want to play with me all the time, which also makes it easier to distract myself from my own sadness. Seeing their cute, happy faces and hearing their eager voices always makes me smile.

The best time to sooth myself is at night when everyone else is sleeping. Then I just lie in bed, enjoy the stillness around me and let the darkness of the night embrace me and sooth me. I was alone with my emotional pain for so many years as I grew up, that my solitude has become my greatest comforter now. I turn inwards when I need a break.

  • How do you sooth yourself?
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Practice the pause and find your strenght again 💙

Sometimes all you need is a pause. A short moment when you pause your words and pause your thoughts. A moment to just breathe and relax mentally.

Just a moment of pausing can be enough to stop the negative momentum which will make it easier for you to start a more reliefgiving momentum.

Begin practicing the pause, several times every day. The more you practice the easier it will feel.

You will be more clear, more effective and of more value to those you interact with 🍀

Remember to relax and rest through out your day. Not just phtsically but mentally. It is so easy to get caught up in the desires and wishes of those around you at work and at home or to let your own demands on yourself get too heavy.

Remeber to pause and find your balance again. Stress is not good for your mind or your body. It is not worth it. Just pause, breathe and relax mentally. Look at it from a more general perspective and prioritise.

You have to value yourself and how you feel first. If you feel good you will be more clear, more effective and you will be of more value to those you interact with as well so it is a win win situation.

Are you a grumpy old toad? Well, it is a choice – and you can choose differently!

Isnt it amazing that our thoughts have such power? What you choose to think affects your mood, your behaviour and the action you choose to participate in.

Even if you have been a grumpy old toad your entire life, you can still choose different thoughts now and as you continue to do so you can go from being the most negative person you know to the most loving, caring, sweet and positive person you know. It is all up to you. And it really, only is about the little daily choices you make, the choices of thoughts – and you can do something about that.

Never sacrify your own emotional balance to satisfy the external demands from others

Allow yourself some time to rest mentally, every day. Take a moment from time to time during your day to just breathe deeply, close your eyes, quiet your mind and remind yourself that how you feel matters more than anything.

It doesn’t matter what you have to do today – never sacrify your own emotional balance to satisfy the external demands from others. Keep yourself in balance first and foremost. Value yourself, value your emotions and listen with love to your body. Allow yourself some time to sit back, relax and find relief in your mind.

When you are at peace within you find your clairity and your focus. That is when you are open to all opportunities and all solutions.

Your perspective is so valuable

Whatever you do today, do it with a joyful heart. Never push yourself to do something that you don’t really want to do. If you have a choice, say “no thank you”, if you don’t have a choice, seek relief in your mind and make the best of it. It is of no value ever to push through in resentment, that is very detrimental to your body and to your emotional wellbeing.

However, if you can find relief about what ever it is you have to do before you do it, and you make the best of it – now you are on to something valuable! That is the key to success: to do the things you choose to do with a light and happy heart.

Peace, love and joy are not dependent on outer circumstances but it is all about your choice of perspective – and you can do something about that!

How to release stress

It is freeing to say no – you DO have a choice

How do you deal with your panic attacks and your anxiety?

Ever since I was a little girl I have had flashes of panic attacks and days filled with anxiety, sometimes several days in a row, every week. 

When I grew up I had no idea how to handle these awful, intense feelings and it resulted in a lot of anger and depression. Back then I also felt like a powerless victim to everything that happened to me… my alcoholic father, the bullying, my eating disorders, the sexual abuse, the physical abuse, the death of my parents… everything just added to my panic attacks and my anxiety.

It was not until I was 24 years old that I – completely on my own – began improving how I felt about myself and how I handled my mood swings. Little by little I began liking myself and I developed a strong, beautiful self esteem. 

From that point on everything in my life improved as well. I got a job I loved, met an amazing man and my self-esteem continued to grow stronger and stronger. It took time but I managed to go from feeling like a powerless victim to feeling like an empowered woman.

However, my panic attacks and my anxiety is still with me every week. Even though I have the body of my dreams, two little babies, a job I love and an amazing boyfriend… I am, however, better at soothing myself once I get hit with theses awful emotions, and I am an expert at hiding how I feel at work and so on… but the feelings are still as intense as when I was a little girl. 

Some days, like today, I feel no desire to continue living. It is so strange because the feelings are so intense and so real… but tomorrow they might be gone again. That gives me some relief, to know that this too shall pass. Until it passes I treat myself to a lot of delicious food and play a lot with my cute little babies.

How do you handle your panic attacks and your anxiety?

How do you manage stress?

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