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The one thing that hurt me the most and ripped me apart ❤

It was not the sexual abuse, it was not the physical abuse, it was not the mental abuse, it was not the eating disorders, it was not the bullying, it was not the loneliness, it was not my alcoholic parents, it was not the deaths of my parents… or any of the other things that happened to me.

I was the one who let the opinions of others affect my opinion of me, which ripped me apart.

And I was the one who decided to start liking myself again.

No matter what – YOU – have all the power you will ever need within. ❤

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1900 followers and 527 550 views ❤❤❤

My blog is my safe haven. This is where I share not only my joy, my passion and my desires but also where I share what works for me and how I transformed my life.

I have been sexually abused multiple times, physically abused, mentally abused, had an alcoholic father, I had eating disorders, been bullied, my mother died when I was 18 and my father died when I was 24 years old… I hated myself for almost 3 decades and had no self-esteem… but managed to save myself by changing my thinking. Little by little, step by step. All by myself.

And I succeeded. I have a very strong self-esteem and I have manifested so many things around me that I love. My life continues to improve all the time. I have two babies that I love and adore, a job I love, a cozy big house, a nice car, the body of my dreams… but all those things are just bonuses. The really important thing is that I feel so much better. I no longer have the victim mentality but an empowered way of viewing life. I am not always on top emotionally – it is a never ending journey – but most of the time I feel really good. This blog is where I share what works for me and what I believe.

My blog now has more than 1900 followers and has had over 527 550 views. This is incredible. Thank you all for the love and appreciation you give me everyday. I truly value you all. I am so happy that you are with me and that you enjoy my blog, it means a lot to me. Thank you.

50 000 in my bank account 🌟

I woke up with 50 000 in my bank account today! It feels freaking awesome!!!! I have made my own way to this place where I am right now. I don’t have any parents or anyone else to turn to when I need help – I have walked alone, went through all the difficulties alone – and I succeeded in turning my life and my attitude around. I feel proud over what I have accomplished, I am a strong, free and empowered woman. 

My two babies, my job, my house, my car, my boyfriend, my body, my money… it is all just fun side effects of the changes in my attitude – the most important part is that I FEEL GOOD, I like my life, I love my two little babies and I adore my journey. More deliciousness is on my path and I am enjoying every step along the way. 

A strong, confident and fit mother of two little babies ❤❤

I can’t believe I hated myself for over 24 years before I began improving my thinking. My body – my every cell – must be very strong since it kept being everything I needed it to be while I was hating it at the same time. Thank you, beautiful body, for not just hanging in there but for allowing yourself to blossom and thrive. 

It has been 10 years since I began improving my thinking and little by little I have gone from no self-esteem to total self-empowerment. The journey is never ending, which is the best part. Always more reliefgiving thoughts to find and new beautiful beliefs to create. More love to be felt and more unconditional happiness to be experienced. One small step at a time.

A letter to myself as a little girl ❤

“I want you to know that you are so loved! I love you more and more each second and I love you for being exactly as you are! You don’t have to change yourself in order to please your parents or anyone else! Just continue to enjoy the things you love and keep being imaginative, energetic and confident. 

The hurtful words from your parents, your teachers and your classmates are more about the pain THEY are feeling than about you. Brush it all off and continue to find new ways of caring about yourself.

All those scary things that you have seen and been through will only make you stronger and more confident – you can be as successful as you desire to no matter what those around you say.

Please don’t give up on yourself, eventhough it might feel difficult right now – know that I love you unconditionally and eternaly. I am proud of everything that you are. I love everything about you. You are kind, you are loving, you are cute, you are clever and you have within you all the answers to all the questions you might ever encounter.

Keep smiling, keep your heart light and happy. Follow your bliss and know that your life will always get better and better no matter how it might temporarily look.”

Lots of love from myself, Ann-Christin Svärd, many years later.

When you are screaming with pain on the inside, and smiling on the outside ♡

I listened to Linking Park quite a lot when I was going through my darkest moments when I was 17-20 years old. On Thursday I heard about what happened, I know he has finally found relief. ♡


Numb is a wonderful way to describe how I was feeling. All the things I had been through – sexual abuse, physical abuse, been bullied, anorexia, alcoholic parent, death of my mother, had no self esteem, ran away from home straight into the arms of a man who physically and mentally abused me for almost 2 years until he went into prison… and lots more… 

All of it had me SCREAMING with pain on the inside but smiling on the outside. Almost every inch of me had lost all hope and wanted to die – I even tried to kill myself once when I was 19 years old but could not go through with it. There was still a small part of me that wanted to live.

This is me when I wad 16 years old. Not a happy teenager. No one understood what I was going through, I had no one.

I continued alone and it was not until I was 24 years old after another anorexia episode, the death of my father and more that I finally decided I wanted to change my life. And I did. I did it all by myself and I managed to go from feeling like a helpless victim to a person with radiant self-esteem who fell in love with life. From that point on everything changed for me. I got my dream job, met the man I desired most of all… I got pregnant and gave birth to my two little angels. ♡ 

All of these external things are beautiful but what really matters is how I feel on the INSIDE. That was what I changed FIRST and that made all the difference.

That is why my burning passion now is to show other people that no matter what you have been through, you can change your thinking and feel good again. ♡

Sexual abuse, physical abuse and mental abuse – will it ever heal?

We are all unique and every person experiences life in a unique way. I only speak what I know works for me.

Without going into too much specifics I can say that I have been through a lot of things in my life. Things that brought me to the point where I hated myself, had no self-esteem and even tried to take my own life. I had a difficult childhood with an alcoholic parent. I have been bullied, been sexually abused multiple times, physically abused, had anorexia, ran away from home when I was 17 and ended up in an abusive relationship. My mother died when I was 18 years old and my father died a few years after that, I went through an abortion and much more…

The only way I found to ease my emotional pain when I was a child was by eating delicious food. It worked wonderful, for a moment. But of course the feeling didn’t last because I used external things to make myself feel better. Back then I had no idea that I could improve my own thinking and by that affect how I was feeling. I felt like a powerless victim to all these bad experiences and my hatred for myself continued to get stronger through the years.

It was not until I was 24 years old that I decided I had to do something to improve how I was feeling – and that was when I found out about the authour Louise Hay and started reading her book “You can heal your life”. That was when my changes began. I began to improve my thinking and the effect of my changes were instant. Everything in my life began improving to reflect that positive mental change I was making. I started reading and listening to the teachings of Abraham Hicks and the law of attraction and continued improving my thinking. Within a few years I had changed my entire beliefsystem.

I went from no self-esteem to total self-empowerment, and I did it all by myself. Everything in my life improved as I improved my thinking. I got my dream job, I met the man of my dreams, I could eat what ever I desired and have the body I desired, I got pregnant and easily gave birth to my two little babies who are now 1 years old and 3 years old. We bought a beautiful big house, a sporty car and I got huge payraises at work… but the most important thing was that I felt good! 

This is a wonderful journey of transformation to take and my journey is far from over. It is an endless journey and life will continue to get better and better if you allow it. 

So, to answer the question above – will it ever heal? Yes and no. If you work on improving your thinking, then yes. If you don’t do anything to improve your thinking, then no. You have to find your own ways to improve your thinking, and you have to be gentle with yourself every step of the way. Do I always feel good? No. I still return to some old negative thoughts from time to time and when I do it feels breathtakingly awful. Sometimes it lasts only a day, sometimes more. But now I know what to do, and I know it is only temporary. No matter what you have been through in your life, you CAN improve your life and become the person you want to be. It is never too late, you can begin again, right now. I am here with you, we are all in this together. ♡

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