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Don’t give up your emotional balance for any relationship

Being out of your emotional balance is a clear indicator that you are thinking lackful thoughts. You can blame it on the situation or the other person but you are the one who is choosing your perspective. And you are the one who are blocking yourself from the answers, the solutions, the improvements and the healing when you think lackful thoughts.

So, you have one option if you want your body, your health and everything else in your life to improve: find a way to sooth yourself into feeling better. Whether you stay in the relationship or whether you leave is irrelevant but you have to work on how you feel if you want lasting change. Sure, leaving the relationship might feel like relief to you – so do it. But you have to leave your lackful thinking aswell otherwise you will just attract more situations and people that feel the same way.

The emotional journey and the action journey are two different journeys. You have to take the emotional journey no matter what action you take, if you want to improve your life.

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How to feel good unconditionally, when your world is falling apart ❤

The key is to practice feeling good because you want to feel good, not just respond and react to the situation. To feel good when all things in your life are beautiful, wonderful and going your way requiers just that you look around and react – it is not a sign of inner strenght to just look around and react. That is pretty sloppy creating.

True freedom, empowerment and happiness comes when you pracice feeling good even though there are things in your life that are not as you desire them to be. Perhaps you are sick, your lover left you, you lost your child, you lost your job or something else that you don’t want has happened. To choose to feel better – ANYWAY, without anything changing, THAT IS WERE TRUE FREEDOM AND EMPOWERMENT IS FOUND.

“Is this easy to do?” No. It takes practice. “Shall I begin with the big, life changing events that just brought me to my knees?” No. Begin with smaller, easier things. It is all part of learning to love yourself unconditionally. You can’t go from hating yourself to truly loving yourself completely – just like that. It takes a little time and practice and you begin with easy, gentle baby steps.

The most important part is that you start being kind kind to yourself. Acknowledge that you ARE doing the best you can from where you are emotionally and belief-wise. It is ok. You are where you are and that is alright. See the emotional journey and the action journey as two seperate journeys. You can lose your job and feel hopeless or you can lose your job and feel hopeful. You are still losing your job but how you feel is something you can affect. Start shifting the way you feel about life, your experiences and yourself. Take a more general approach and stop making such big hairy deals about everything. You CAN FEEL GOOD again, no matter what has happened, what you are going through or what will happen. And how you feel is the key to how well things work out for you, and this is all in your hands. Isn’t it exciting, freeing and empowering to know that!? You are not bound by the situation, you are not bound by their actions and you are not stuck. You are always free and in full control because only YOU choose your perspective, and your perspective affects everything. It not only affects how you feel, it also affects what comes next.

Why are some people so mean?

No one who truly loves themselves, who are kind, loving and caring toward themselves would ever hurt another person. How you act and react is a pure reflection of how you feel, and especially how you feel about yourself.

Those who lash out in anger are having emotional pain within and doesn’t know that they have the power to change how they feel. Instead they blame that one and that one… instead they argue, they start wars, they hurt, they try to control… instead of focusing on the only thing that works.

Those who constantly find flaws, criticise and dislike… they are not liking themselves, they are not kind to themselves and they don’t know they have all the power within to change how they feel. That is why they think they feel better when they put others down – it feels better than to feel insecure and powerless. But it doesn’t last so they have to do it again and again… instead of focusing on the only thing that works.

You have to begin with how you feel. You have to begin to sooth yourself, value yourself, care about how you feel and learn to love yourself.

Don’t give up, even the darkest of moments will pass 💖

The past years have been rather dark for me, not as pitch-dark as the first 24 years of my life, but still. Each new day is a step in the right direction.

Never give up, no matter how hopeless and dark your life might currently seem to be – it will pass. In the meantime, distract yourself as best you can. Reach for things that make you feel better and allow yourself to be soothed. For me it is delicious food, music, massage, sex, working out and trying on clothes that make me feel better. These things make me feel better temporarily, while I work on my thinking at the same time – one small step at a time. I will never give up. 💖

The sun shines brighter after a dark storm – never give up 💖

Sexually abused, raped, bullied… can you ever feel good again? Of course!!!

My father was an alcoholic, I was sexually abused by several older boys when I was 6 years old, I was bullied in school, had reading and writing difficulties, got anorexia when I was around 8-9 years old, was raped by two guys when I was 17, ran away from home two weeks after that, was physically and mentally abused for almost two years by my boyfriend (when I was 17-19 years old) and had to go to trial twice before he ended up in jail, my parents died, I had an abortion and the man of my dreams cheated on me. 😂 need I go on?

I hated myself and life for almost 30 years before I began improving my thinking about me, about everyone that had ever hurt me and about life. I managed to turn my thinking around and today I feel nothing but appreciation for everyone that ever hurt me and everything that happened to me – because it all inspired me to become the woman I am today. Strong, free, happy, confident and empowered. If I can do it, anyone can.

You are good, it is ok and your life will get better and better 💖

You’re hot, then you’re cold – fuck you life

The first half of the day was really cold, I had to wear my autumn pants and a long sleeved top at work. But when I got home the weather had become a little warmer so I chose a shorter top for the afternoon.

The weather has been really weird the last couple of days. It has been super cold – almost like autumn. And today it was very bi-polar like 😂. Cold, then hot … then cold, then hot again… kind of like my mood lately. A lot of things have happened and are happening around me and I have not yet found my emotional stability.

Sometimes I just want to give up, say fuck you to life and run away. Just thinking that thought brings me a little relief. Fuck you life. Fuck you work. Fuck you new assignments. Fuck you annoying person at the day care center. Fuck you.

Yes indeed, it does feel better. I guess can stay in this general negative place for a while before I reach for more relief in more positive, general thoughts.

Your life is your canvas, each day is a new page

Imagine if today was a blank page… you could fill it with what ever your heart desires… it would be so different from yesterday’s page… full of color, light, passion and zest… full of ease, pleasure and satisfaction…

Your life is your canvas. Each day is a new page. Feel free to fill each new page with what you desire most. Let no one dim your light, let no one tell you what you fill your page with… follow your heart, listen to your calling and enjoy filling today’s page with what you desire most.

Once a bad guy always a bad guy? No 🌹 – he has a good heart and a kind soul

Ok this evening something happened that made me think a little. My ex, the one I moved in with when I was 17 who hit me a lot and hurt me physically and mentally for 1 1/2 years before he went to prison for what he did to me, started following me on instagram tonight. It felt weird.

I blocked him on Facebook many years ago after he sent a friend request… and I have not thought that much about him since… until two days ago when we were in Jönköping. He walked passed us when we were out shopping in Jönköping. I never even thought he would look me up and follow me on instagram though.

As I told my boyfriend about this he got really upset and said it was not ok and that I should block him immediately. But I didnt at first. Somehow I feel like I am tired of running away from my past. This was a guy I fell in love with when I was 17. A guy I lived with for 1 1/2 years. A guy who I know has a good heart and a kind soul who has been through a lot of horrible things as a child. I don’t blame him at all for how things played out when I was with him… 18 years ago. I was a completely different person back then, I had no self-esteem and I was so incredibly insecure. Of course we were a perfect match back then and our insecurities and trauma brought out the worst in us. But I don’t blame him – the fault is mine just as well.

We had our experiences together and I feel nothing but appreciation for the lessons it taught me. I want peace. I want relief. I want to let go and lovingly move on. I want to say I am sorry for everything, I want to say thank you for the experiences and the lessons and the growth I have been gifted with since this time. Thank you and I wish you nothing but peace, love and happiness in all aspects of your life. 🌹

But, after giving it some thought I decided to block him anyway. He might have good intentions and all that but for me it feels like relief to not have him following me at all.

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