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Your days as a helpless victim or an angry abuser is over – it is time to feel good and enjoy your life!

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Your life is YOUR LIFE. How you feel should be your number one priority on your every to do list. Everything else comes second after this, that is how important this aspect is. I asked a friend today how he felt about himself. He said he hated himself and that he has always hated himself. That, to me, is an important key to why everything else in his life is not working. He has been running around trying to fix all the broken pieces of his life without first tending to the most important part – the one that keeps all other pieces together: how you feel about yourself.

Even if you have spent your entire life hating yourself, it is never too late. All it takes is a willingness to feel better. That is it. As long as you want to feel better and want to find a way to feel better, you can. But you have to stop blaming your past, your parents, your teachers, your friends, your work, your boss, your lovers, your failures, your mistakes, your experiences and all other things you can think of to blame. Stop it. And stop blaming yourself!!!! You always do the best you can do given the circumstances, the knowledge you have at the time and the desires and beliefs you hold. That is ok! Make peace with all that has been and all that is. Focus 100% on you now, on how you want to feel.

Take it one small gentle step at a time, one moment at a time. Listen to what you say about yourself to others and in your own mind. Are those loving, supportive and optimistic words? If not, begin to change your words ever so slightly in a more loving and kind way.

How you view yourself and what you think about yourself affect every single aspect of you, your body, your health and your entire life – and you can do something about it! In fact, you are the only one who can do something about it! No one else can enter your mind and think your thoughts for you, no matter how well-meaning they are. You can find inspiration in other people´s stories and in their words – but you have to do the work. It is an inside job, you are 100% in control of this, you are in charge and you can begin right now.

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Emotionally in a very dark place this year

This year has been really tough on me so far, emotionally I have been in a very dark place almost every day. No wonder I keep getting sick again and again and again. But it is ok, this is just a brief moment of my entire life journey, I will feel better again. And until I do – I will make the best of each moment. ❤

How to solve all your negative, emotional patterns

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Sometimes all you need is to take a step back, take a deep breath and allow yourself some time to relax. You are the main character in your life and even though people around you might want you to do a lot of things for them – you have to decide whether you want to do these things or if you want to do something else.

There is no value in trying to please everyone at work, at home and all your friends while you burn your own candle at both ends. Give yourself a moment to relax and find your own inner peace. Ask yourself what matters most in life for you. What do you want to do with your life? How do you want to live? How do you want to feel? Begin in these general terms in order to generate general answers – it is a lot easier to begin in a general way if you have been in a negative emotional place, too caught up in the specifics of the situation. So, keep going general in your questions: What matters most to me at work? How do I want to feel at work? What do I enjoy most? Continue to ask general questions about the topic you are thinking about. If it feels slightly off, then you have gone too specific too soon. Just back away again and think about your life. What matters to me in life? What brings me joy in life? And so on.

You don’t have to solve all negative emotional blocks all at once, nor can you. It is enough that you give yourself a gentle, relaxing break mentally and that you go more general in your thinking until you feel better.

Rest, reset and recover 🌟

“How do I feel better when everything sucks and I feel awful?!” ❤

“And so you say, “How do I do it?” You do it by saying

It’s alright. I’m just fine. All is well. There, there. Everything is alright. Perfect place. Perfect time. This is Who-I-Am. I was born to be here. I am on my path. This is the trajectory of Who-I-Am. I’m Pure Positive Energy. Everything is just right. I could not be doing it better. I’m following inspiration. I’m getting better at that all the time. Pure Positive Energy surrounds me. I am adored. This environment that surrounds me inspires me to more. I’m constantly achieving it. I never get it done. I can’t get it wrong. All is really well with me. I feel good so much of the time. Pure Positive Energy surrounds me. All is well. It’s alright. It’s alright. Everything is alright. I’m doing just fine. I’m doing really good. Source adores me. I feel the inspiration all the time. Ideas are flowing. I receive the ideas. I get inspiration. Sometimes I don’t feel like doing something. That’s inspiration too. Sometimes I want rest. That’s inspiration too. Sometimes there is more resistance than I can overcome. That’s alright. It will return. There’s an ebb and flow in all of this. Sometimes I have more resistance. I know it. I feel it. Sometimes I have less resistance. I know it. I feel it. Everything is working out just fine. I’ve put it in the Vortex. It is inevitable. My well-being is assured. I’m supposed to be having fun here. Life is supposed to be fun. My Inner Being is delighting in the life that I have carved out. It is time for me to delight in the life that I’ve carved out.”

In other words, it’s just talking to yourself like that. No specific terms. Just general terms.”

Abraham Hicks

Why would such a beautiful girl like me hate myself for over 30 years and have no self-esteem? Here is why:

I got such a brilliant question today and here is my answer:

I grew up with an alcoholic father and my parents mentally abused me. I was sexually abused when I was 6 years old by 3 older guys, I was bullied in school, had reading and writing difficulties, had no friends, developed anorexia (an eating disorder) when I was 9 years old, had no friends during my entire school years, was raped by two guys when I was 17, ran away from home two weeks after that because my father’s alcohol abuse was insane and my parents were so verbally mean to me, I ran straight into the arms of a guy who physically and mentally abused me for over two years until he was sentenced to prison for it. During this time my mother died. I had to go through the two trials all alone – I had no one. I was completely alone, no friends and no one in the world that I could talk to. I did not want to live anymore – I even tried to take my own life. Then my father died, I got pregnant and had to make an abortion…and the man of my dreams cheated on me and lied about it for over a year until the truth came out in the most painful way ever… somewhere there, around the age of 24, I decided that enough is enough and I chose to change my thinking. I started working on liking myself. I did it all by myself – I never told ANYONE about any of these things that happened to me in my childhood/teenage years. It was not until I was almost 30 years old I began talking about it.

So, I guess this answers your question on why such a beautiful girl like me, hated myself for almost 30 years and had absolutely no self-esteem 🤣❤

How you FEEL has nothing to do with the way you look. I had my desired, dream body, but I hated myself and had no self-esteem for almost 30 years. Beauty does not mean confidence. You cant see how you feel, it is 100% about your own thinking – and you CAN do something about that. If I could, all by myself, anyone can. 🌹❤

Take a break from all that you are

Take a break from who you are and who you have been. Take a break from all the complaining, and all the criticism. Take a break from pointing out flaws in others, and take a break from disliking yourself.

Take a break. Close your eyes, take a deep breath and relax. Breathe out all the old ways and breathe in new, fresh, positive, loving perspecives.

Give yourself a break – you have been doing the best you could. Allow yourself the ease of making peace with it all and start fresh and new in this moment.

When your every cell is filled with rage and anger

The intense rage and anger you feel within is only temporary. Allow yourself to feel it and choose to breathe it away. Take some deep breaths and feel each breath emptying your body of your rage and anger. Feel how each breath clears your mind and gives you a fresh new start.

Never condemn yourself for lashing out in anger, forgive yourself and breathe out all the pain. Close your eyes while you take your deep breaths and focus purely on emptying your mind. Mentally push your reset button and begin fresh and new.

When you feel anxiety, fear or anger:

From despair to empowerment – the path is theirs to take

Work on how you feel about yourself. Find love in your heart for all that you are and let that love radiate brightly. Others, who are ready, will be inspired by you and begin their own path to feeling better. But the path is their to take – you can’t pick them up and carry them all the way to the goal. It is an inside job. Not everyone wants to change, not everyone is ready. And that is ok! Just keep working on how you feel about yourself and be the stable, good-feeling, loving shining light you are.

One small light can light up an entire room – you don’t fight darkness with more darkness (hate, fear, anger, jealousy…) you love your way into inspiring others to find their own path. Follow your joy, do what you love and radiate your bliss everywhere you go.

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