How to feel better when you are feeling rage or depression


“Don´t beat up on yourself for not being able to choose the best thought you have ever thought… Just choose the best thought you can find from where you are”.

-Abraham Hicks

This is such an important thing to remember because you can`t find empowered, happy thoughts if you are really depressed or in rage – it is too far away and too big of a vibrational jump all at once. However, you can find thoughts right here and right now that sooths you a little. Thoughts that give you a little relief from the emotional state you are in right now. And from that new vibrational place you can find new thoughts that bring you more relief and so on. Little by little, step by step.

Be kind to yourself! Especially when you lose your emotional balance. Be extra kind and soothing to yourself. You are not a bad person if you feel bad, you are not wrong or less than. You are simply just viewing things in a way that makes you feel bad right now – but you can do something about that! You can shift how you view EVERYTHING, EVERYONE and EVERY TOPIC there is. And when you shift how you view it, how you feel will shift as well. But no big jumps are necessary, or even possible. Just gentle steps toward a little more relief. That is all. And you can begin doing that now. 


It is never too late and it is never hopeless ❤

When you break down after having had an awful reaction to an unwanted situation, gently sooth yourself into feeling relief. It is ok to mess up. It is ok to lose control and get upset. But it doesn’t feel good so now is the time to sooth yourself into making peace with what happened and then begin to focus on how you want to react and how you want to feel next time.

It is never too late and it is never hopeless. The time to start again is now. Believe in yourself and believe in your goodness and you will rise above and succeed.


Anger management – a reliefgiving perspective

You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger.

~ Buddha

I love this quote because it says so much. There is no judgement or punishment outside of you – the real punishment is the negative emotions themselves and the toll they take on your mental health, your physical health and everything else that matters to you.

Harboring anger, letting it grow within and letting it burst out from your every cell – that is extremely detrimental to you.

Even though you think life sucks and that you think those aspects need to change in order for you to feel good… even though you feel completely justified in your anger – it is still very deterimental to you. Let it go. See your anger as hot inner flames that you are choosing to breathe out when you feel them burn within. Let the cool, clear and fresh relief wash through you and cool you down, gently. It is not worth it – just let it go.


“How can I deal with these challenging situations?”

No matter how things temporarily might look, you can always calm your mind and find emotional relief. That really is the key because if you can find emotional relief, then you will open yourself up to the solutions and opportunities that are always available for you.


It is never hopeless, it is never too late, you are never too far awayyou can ALWAYS calm your mind and find emotional relief. Maybe not in the very second you are screaming with anger at someone, but you can back away from the situation physically and mentally afterwards. And the more you practice calming your mind and finding relief when you are on your own, the easier it will be to calm you mind and find relief next time – before you get to the screaming part.

Be patient with yourself. This is just like going to the gym  – you have to practice before it becomes easier and you can lift more heavy weights (=deal with more challenging situations).


Give yourself time, sooth yourself and lovingly keep reaching for emotional relief when you are on your own. Work on finding your balance and strengthen thoughts and beliefs you want to nurture. Your emotions, your thoughts and beliefs affect your action, your response and therefore everything that happens to you. A little relief-practice will net you wonderful results in your life. Take your power back and begin practice today, right now.


Love your body

Loving your body is more than just doing what you believe is benefical for your body – it also means to stop all negative comments and negative thoughts about your body, no matter what. 

Work on how you FEEL about your body – no matter what you look like. Find thoughts of relief until you begin to find something about yourself that you sort of kind of like… and keep feeling for more thoughts of appreciation. Sooner than you thinl you will have shifted how you view your body, you will come to love yourself.

So many years I spent hating myself, hating my body and trying to hide myself from the world… well, no more! I have worked on how I view myself little by little and I have gone from having no self-esteem to feeling total love about all that I am. No more hinding. This is me. I love who I am, curves and all. ❤❤❤


Wise dad teaches daughter how to handle anger – everyone should hear this advice 


When you feel utterly pissed off

You can turn your anger into positive energy! Use the rush of energy to refocus on something that matters more to you.

Don’t let his behaviour be your reason to beat up on yourself – allow him to be as he chooses to be. Focus your energy on yourself, what you desire and how you want to feel.

Anger is good! Anger means you have a strong desire about something and you are currently looking in opposition of how you want it to be. Use this opportunity to refocus and let the anger wash away by replacing it with clear focus.


The biggest argument you have ever had

Sure it would have been better if you had not hurt each other. Sure it would have been better if you had just stopped before you shouted at each other. But what happened, happened. So what? It doesn’t make it better to feel sorry about it now – forgive yourself and the other person as well.

Let it go and find your own inner peace again. See it as a breath of fresh air to just let it all go and focus all your energy on feeling relief right now. It is ok!


When there is a thunderstorm raging inside 

If you saw a small child who was in a lot of pain, crying and asking for help – you would want to sooth and comfort him. 

When someone lashes out in anger / rage / frustration by screaming, hitting and hurting others – that raging person is just like that small little baby. He is also in a lot of pain and he desn’t know how to deal with his own inner thunderstorm. Just like that sad little baby, he would benefit by being soothed and comforted  – but he has usually been met with the opposite of that in his past, that is why his rage brings him so much more pain each time. The soothing never happens, so the pain – the inner thunderstorm – grows. 

The soothing does not need to come from someone else outside of them, it needs to come from within. Others can sooth and comfort temporarily – but if he doesn’t start soothing himself the pain will come back

The freedom and relief  will be found in learning to self-sooth. Learning to take full responsibility for how you feel and letting others off the hook. You are in charge of how you feel and only YOU can learn how to find relief. Be very kind and gentle with yourself every step of the way. Don’t beat up on yourself for the things you have done in your rage, let it go. See this moment as a fresh new start. Embrace your inner child and start to sooth yourself into feeling some relief.


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