Don’t compare your experience to that of another – how you react in a situation might be very different from how another person would react in the same situation. We are all unique and therefor our reactions are unique as well.
Allow them to feel as they feel, their emotional reactions are valid and true for them – you don’t have to understand. Do the same for yourself as well, allow yourself to feel as you feel, because your emotional reactions are valid and true for you. The more you allow yourself to feel as you feel, without judgement, the easier those emotions will pass. It is a vital part of the healing journey.