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When you desperately want them to love and approve of you – let it go

“If someone is arguing with you, or finding fault with you, and not liking what they see, say to them, and mean it lovingly and kindly, but mean it sincerely, “You’re seeing something in me, that must be active in you, and I think this is more about you, than it is about me”.

So if someone is having a bad day, and they are angry at you, it’s about their bad day, much more than it is about you.

It’s always about the beholder.
Everything is about the beholder.
So what you want to do is become more aware of what you’re seeing in others. That’s the thing you want to be aware of.

Don’t worry about what other people are seeing in you. Don’t worry about the love they’re giving you, or the love they’re not giving you.

Let your awareness be about what you’re putting out. Let your awareness be about how much you’re loving.

We wouldn’t be running around saying: ‘who loves me or who doesn’t love me?’, we’d be saying: ‘who do I love, what is it about you, that I love?'”

Abraham Hicks 5/10/08

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Choosing a more hopeful perspective, even though you are afraid – that is where magic happens!

There is such amazing magic in deliberately choosing your thoughts. You don’t have to complain or point out flaws more than just a brief moment, you can move on from the experience by directing your focus on what you now know you prefer and how you now know you want to feel.

Regurgitation of what happens to you is not a skill – it is simple sloppy focus. Easily done but not empowering! Choosing a slightly different perspective, even though it would be easier to complain… choosing a more general perspectice, even though it would be easier to criticise… choosing a more hopeful perspective, even though you are afraid… choosing a more reliefgiving perspective, even though you are sad… now that takes skill and that is both freeing and enpowering. Not only will you feel better while you practice this, you will affect everything that happens to you as well.

Base your choices on how well they resonate with your desires ❤

Focus on the desired outcome, imagine yourself having it, being it and doing it... Enjoy how good that feels and let those feelings embrace you. Return to those pleasurable scenarios several times during your day.

Do everything that you believe will take you in the desired direction. Base your choices on how good they feel to you and how well they resonate with your desires.

Give yourself the gift of happiness ❤

How to turn your life around

This is a matter of focus and a skill you can begin practicing right now. Even if it feels like the world around you is falling apart find one little thing that feels good to you and give that all your attention.

Don’t get stuck in telling everybody about your problems and your hard times. It is OK if you do so but start practicing this new habit of giving wanted things more of your attention. Just a little bit of effort in directing your focus will work magic in your life. There are more than one side to everything and you can choose perspectives that bring you relief regarding all topics.

Your attitude about food and your body

I hear friends and people at work complain about their weight and their body. I hear them talk about food as “bad food” and “good food” and about themselves as being “good” and “bad” depending on what they eat. Why would you ever do that? Do you know how detrimental that is to you? Not only detrimental to your emotional balance but most importantly for your body and your health!

Your every cell in your body is listening 24/7 to EVERYTHING you say and think. If you think negative thoughts about it and condemn it for looking a certain way – or for not looking the way you desire it to – how do you think that affects your body?

With each negative thought you think about your body and about food you block yourself from seeing how magnificent your body actually is! You have an amazing body that loves and adores you! You will be in your body for as long as you shall live – why not make the best of what you have? Why not start loving yourself as you are – right now? Why not lovingly choose to eat in ways that you believe are benefical for you and what you desire? Why not compliment your body for taking such good care of you? Why not celebrate the fact that you CAN EAT, the fact that you can TASTE FLAVOURS and why not ENJOY what you eat?

Yes, why not ENJOY food, LOVE food, APPRECIATE the food you CHOOSE to eat? Why not compliment your body for being healthy and strong?

There are so many things you can do, right now without anything actually changing in your physical appearance, that will make all the difference in how your body responds to what you do and what you feed it. Ever think of that? THAT is such an important key and so many people would benefit so much if they started working on their ATTITUDE about their body and food BEFORE they even began enjoying all the other things they feel they have to do. Yes! ENJOY the journey. Make the best of where you are. Do what you believe will benefit you and your body – because we are all different. Listen to YOUR body, LOVE your body and ENJOY the journey. Never ever EVER talk negative about yourself, your body, your weight or food. THAT is something you can begin with right now and THAT is what will work like magic in your life.

Are you a grumpy old toad? Well, it is a choice – and you can choose differently!

Isnt it amazing that our thoughts have such power? What you choose to think affects your mood, your behaviour and the action you choose to participate in.

Even if you have been a grumpy old toad your entire life, you can still choose different thoughts now and as you continue to do so you can go from being the most negative person you know to the most loving, caring, sweet and positive person you know. It is all up to you. And it really, only is about the little daily choices you make, the choices of thoughts – and you can do something about that.

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